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The 5 Stages of Food Grief

Terminally ill patients often go through fairly predictable stages as they begin to accept their life is coming to an end (hopefully, they have an eternal home). I have watched it happen with both my parents. It's sad, but thank God we get some time when it counts the most!

If you were a fatso like me when you first logged onto MFP, you're going to go through some emotional stages too - lots of them. Like a maturing baby, you'll probably throw a few tantrums along the way, too. If you don't believe me, read the message boards!

Stage 1: Denial: It's not just a river in Egypt! If you have a BMI over 30, you are obese, and if it is over 25 you are overweight according to the National Heart Lung and Blood Association. The problem is what you eat, not big bones and if you are here on MFP, you and I both know why; it's not to get recipes! (Although that is a good reason to be on MFP!)

Stage 2: Anger: You probably think Jillian Michaels is too skinny, and that guys with 6-pack abs got them from sitting around watching football. Poor you, you didn't get them. I know I am mad when I go to lunch with someone my age, and they freakin' eat an entire pizza while I limit myself to 1 or 2 slices. You might be mad at God for making everything that tastes good bad for you.

Stage 3 Bargaining: "Lord if you let me indulge this day and it doesn't show up on the scale, I will give money to the next organization that knocks on my door!" Are you kidding? You popped a pants button and a dead pigeon fell from the sky; you are a frequent flier at Big & Tall: it's no deal! "Real" is the root word of reality.

Stage 4 Depression: Drinking water, putting away the salt shaker, logging your meals, dumping fast food as a dietary option -  and gasp, exercising so that you sweat! Who wouldn't be depressed?!? It's normal to be bummed out that we can't be like others and eat anything we want, in any quantity we want to.

Stage 5 - Acceptance:  Time to snap out it! "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it." That's right! Unlike terminal patients you have a chance to change your history, your health, and your waist line.

The health benefits of losing weight and keeping it off are amazing. But who cares what your BMI is when you have a donut in the break room with your name on it? If you really accept where you are, you'll stop defending your bad food choices and making excuses for why the scale hates you.

Stage 6 - The Party Stage: Why not focus on what you can do when you lose the weight and get healthy.

- You'll feel better and your depression will be less.
- You'll have better skin!
- You'll be less likely to be sick from viral and bacterial disease.
- You'll have more positions you can use for "that."
- You will eventually acquire a taste for what is good for you.
- You'll live longer with the ones you love.
- You'll have more choices for clothing stores.
- You'll be more comfortable on planes and camel rides.
- Your joints will feel better.
- You can eat from the children's menu if you use the curb-side pick up at most of the chains. This saves money!
- You'll need less medication when you do need it.
- You'll have more energy.
- You'll look younger.
- You'll probably only have one chin to shave and not two or three.
- You'll sleep better.
- You'll reduce health care costs.
- You can buy shoes that tie - in fact you might even see your feet for the first time in a while.
- You'll put on new underwear and feel like touching yourself - that might just be me.

Thanks for the comments and votes. You guys are awesome!

Exceprt from my book, ICU to Marathon.

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MonicaA2013 wrote 62 months ago:
sunflw95 wrote 62 months ago:
Thank you!! I needed that today! :)
renaedar wrote 62 months ago:
You really know what goes on in mind!
heather4949 wrote 62 months ago:
You rock my friend xx
babydee543 wrote 62 months ago:
Ha ha, love it!
grits1465 wrote 62 months ago:
pizzafruit wrote 62 months ago:
You are one smart cookie! Thank you.
ILoveGingerNut wrote 62 months ago:
love this!
finding_onederland wrote 62 months ago:
pretty dang spot on! Thanks!
gothchiq wrote 62 months ago:
If I start having to shave my chin there are some serious issues lol. I accept what I must do and I get er done but am still cranky as hell about it. Them: "have some nachos!" Me: "F U." *gnaws on a twig*
itzWicks wrote 62 months ago:
The rewards at the end make the journey so worthwhile. Thanks for reminding us all why we are here in the first place!
MsRuffBuffNStuff wrote 62 months ago:
lol@me I thought this was going to be about the diets of terminally ill patients. I was genuinely interested because I went through a bit of "food grief" after my colon cancer treatments and surgery - when I couldn't eat much. I'm still very limited, but not quite as sad about it
rstanford3 wrote 62 months ago:
"...on planes and camel rides"
I choked on my coffee when I read that one! Thanks!!!Laughter is great for good health.
Hearts_2015 wrote 62 months ago:
brownll wrote 62 months ago:
Humor helps!
mockchoc wrote 62 months ago:
Love it!
seendie wrote 62 months ago:
This is so motivating - Thank You..
runningforthetrain wrote 62 months ago:
This was insightful and a fun read. Thanks!

smrybacki wrote 62 months ago:
Well written, thanks.
rlhong56 wrote 62 months ago:
mysteps2beauty wrote 62 months ago:
Hey, have you been lurking around in my head and following me when I'm not looking?! LOL, this SO me. Glad I'm not alone. Onward and upward!
purebredpolly wrote 61 months ago:
Great Blog Post!

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