I Used to be Fat, But Now I Am Not
Posted on 7/26/2016 by dsjohndrow
Most of us fantasized about being in a relationship with a famous movie or TV personality, a musician or sports figure - and it wasn't Roseanne Barr or Fluffy! That is what is wonderful thing about fantasies, they're free, but often not fulfilling.
After a long time, they are draining.
Losing inches and getting down to a healthy weight does not have to be a fantasy. You can do it! Lots of folks on MFP have done it. I read amazing success stories everyday about people like you and me that have lost literally tons of fat (without cutting off their heads).
It can be done!
I don't know about you, but I get tired of skinny people telling me how to do it! Are you with me? Just eat less, blah blah blah... Of course they can eat a whole a freakin' pizza and down a liter of Coke for lunch and get away with it. What's her name can swallow a whole banana without choking. But you and me, we are not like that. We eat one extra slice of pizza and grow another chin. Hell, we eat a big meal and have to loosen our belt or start responding to elephant mating calls.
Being fat sucks! It has few advantages save the invention of stretch waist pants which saved our lives.
Emotionally being large bodied can be brutal too. My once 7-year-old was trying to be nice, "daddy I like you fat." Are you kidding?, I thought to myself. "I don't!", I snapped back.
So much for teaching her to be positive.
So how does a Willy the Whale become a flipin' errr Flipper the dolphin? It starts with what you think and ends with what you eat.
- If you don't really want to be thin, you won't be. Worse, you may just have decided that you'll always be fat, and you'd be right. Unless you can desire to be thin, it will never happen unless you're stranded on a tofu ranch.(I deleted the reference to being tied up...)
- If your life has no real schedule or structure, it's going to be tough, really tough. Losing weight requires doing the same thing over and over and over and over and over to get the desired result.
- You don't have to be perfect, but you have to be determined. In fact I was so bad at this, I bet I could have gotten Richard Simmons depressed and Jane Fonda to cry. If you want a date with your favorite entertainer, you need to be attractive enough to get in the game. Me, I just want to please me and a special someone. Because I was once thin, that is the picture I have in my own mind. I'd like it to match the me in the mirror. If you've never been thin, get a role model here on MFP!
- Pick non-food rewards for yourself when you reach short-term goals. If you lose 5 pounds you give yourself some new music. Lose 10, a new bike. And when you lose 25 or 50, ask your significant other for a new car and a week in Hawaii - well unless you already live there, then go to Alaska.
- Ask yourself this: If I was thin, what would my life look like? Would it be Charlie Sheen', Paris Hilton', Oprah Winfrey' or Bart Simpson'? Success aint' all it's cracked up to be. You can change your surroundings and make better food choices NOW. You only have to do it.
- Everyone has a time when we're most likely to overeat, whether it is the morning coffee break or when we first arrive back at the Bat Cave. You need to plan to handle those times and stick to to the plan!
- Surround yourself with people who want you to be healthy. Your fat, diabetic, grandmother - the one who pinches your cheek every time she sees you and gets the walking farts in the kitchen; she is probably not the person you want cooking your meals and suggesting dishes for the holidays. Even our good friends can sabotage weight-loss attempts. Not everyone looks at a cookie as a death threat. For you and me, we need to weigh our options carefully, and choose people that are on the same page (to eat with)!
- Stock your pantry and refrigerator with healthy foods. If you are serious about losing weight, then you need to skip the high-calorie stuff or I will be in your face after looking at your food diary! Gorge yourself on celery sticks!
- Get a mirror, take pictures. Drop your dating profile from the Chubby Dates website and make a YouTube video asking your fantasy date out - you never know!
Don't you already feel better?
Thanks in advance for your votes, your comments, and your support! If you need a wiseass friend, add me!
YESSSSSS!
:) great post.
Thanks!
"Because I was once thin, that is the picture I have in my own mind. I'd like it to match the me in the mirror."
I was once thin as well, and I DON'T WANT TO BE FAT ANYMORE. I want to be a healthier and slimmer me! I am getting there, and I have NOT BEEN PERFECT, but I am losing weight and getting healthier, and taking less and less medicine.
Down 62lbs (weighed in July 27,2016), 70lbs to go
A1C from 9.8% to 6.4% (June 2016)
1. to not listen to others that one bite will not hurt or that you look fine to them. You know your goals and what you need to eat.
2. Exercise everyday. You don't have to run a marathon or do a Zumba class everyday, but you must do at least 30 minutes of heart raising cardio everyday.
3. If you mess up, start over immediately. Take it hour by hour. Don't wait until tomorrow, Monday, or next week.
4. Guilt is counterproductive. If you eat a piece of cake, then eat a light dinner. Don't beat yourself up, just adjust and account for it.
5. Maintenance is sooo much harder than you think. You don't get a pat on the back or a "prize" for staying the same weight. You just have to keep doing what you did to lose weight. Adjust your calories so you are not losing, but don't think that the weight lost is forever. Unless you keep up the work, you will gain it back.
Just my $1. I would have said two cents, but I said way too much. LOL
"loosen our belt or start responding to elephant mating calls."
Classic!
Seriously keep the blogs coming I do enjoy your take on this keeping healthy life we all - now - have or are trying to have.
Excellent post and I agree with it. Non food rewards has been a big motivator as well as actually making time for meal prep.