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Today I don't feel like being all that funny. It has been a tough year since my heart attack last April. You know being out of work, finances, not knowing whether you will recover or not; it's a lot. It has been a good year too. We took two vacations, one to northern California and one to Disney World in Florida.

Serious events (both good and bad) make you think about living life.

This weekend we went away for a few days to the beach. It was a gift to my wife for Christmas. We like the ocean all year round. Then there is the lack of things to do, and lots of time to do it. :) Oh yes, and the hot tub!

It was all supposed to be good, and it was.

Friday just before I left work to go pick up my family, my wife and 8-year-old were rear-ended by a school bus - a big yellow one. The impact pushed the car into a guardrail over 100 feet away, crushing the car from the rear bumper to the back seat. It shattered the 3 rear windows and snapped the drivers seat hinges, leaving my wife staring at the roof. Thank God, both are OK; shaken, bruised and scratched, but OK.

We decided to leave for our little getaway once things settled down.

Saturday we slept in, and went to a favorite spot for breakfast. I went for a run and when I got back, I received a call from my middle daughter (21) who was in tears. Her mother was diagnosed with lung cancer a few weeks ago, and apparently it has spread to her brain: it does not look good. The doctor actually drove to the house to deliver the news.

It is sad for everyone.

She met us at a restaurant. She and I went for a walk to talk about how I could support her through this after dinner.

It is times like these when my faith is so important. It is all part of life along with counting calories and exercising - the natural and the supernatural existing side-by-side.

Sunday was a bit tougher. My wife has a friend she has known since 5th or 6th grade; they graduated high school together. After their 30th high school reunion a few years ago, we started going to dinner as couples once a month. Our little group of couples has grown to 5 ladies from that class and their husbands. Each month 10 of us go out and have a few laughs and talk about not killing our kids. It's a lot of fun.

She had cancer 3 years ago, and lost the use of her legs due to complications from the radiation treatments. One of her favorite things in life was to get together for these dinners. Last night we went to say goodbye to her. It was supposed to be our last dinner, but she didn't feel up to eating so we all just went for a visit. They are trying to get her home to be with her family in these last days.

I have done this before with both of my parents, but it never gets easy.

I don't really have an ending today - just felt like writing.

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ShellyMacchi wrote 112 months ago:
*simply leaves a hug for you*
scapez wrote 112 months ago:
jfrog123 wrote 112 months ago:
I am sorry that you and your family are going through this difficult time. My granny told me a long time ago that we all have our blessings and our burdens. That is so true. Just hang on to your family and your faith until you can get to a point where your blessings outweigh your burdens once again. Hugs.
demery12371 wrote 112 months ago:
Adding another hug! You've had a rough weekend. Many prayers for grace and peace for your family and your daughter.
kardowling wrote 112 months ago:
No ending needed. Just keep on going. You have a great outlook on life. Keep writing. Thank You! Good thoughts sent to you and your family.
MommyTKD wrote 112 months ago:
Thoughts and prayers to you all.
cygnetpro wrote 112 months ago:
I have a lump in my throat. I'm so, so sorry for all of these scary, awful things in your life, and the lives of your friends and family. I believe that I told you I had a really scary kind of freak cancer bout a year and a half ago. It could have killed me (and who knows-- maybe it still will). My fear wasn't for my own demise (God and I are on pretty good terms, I believe)-- it was for those left behind: My young children who would be devastated (I work with kids who have gone through this-- it is never, ever OK), and my parents, who might not survive the grief. I can't speak for any of your loved ones, but I know two truths from my own story:

1) We must enjoy every single moment while we live. We are not promised tomorrow. Try to slow down to enjoy your child's laugh, your parent's stories, and that beautiful sunrise you usually drive right past. Work less. Smile more.

2) The best gift anyone could have given me while I was ill was reassurance that my death would not have devastated them. I couldn't stand that burden, and am so glad (for their sakes) that I survived.

Hugs to you and your loved ones. Susan
bevsdietfor2011 wrote 112 months ago:
I also am sending lots of hugs and prayers to you and your family. I am truly sorry that you are all going through such a difficult time. I praise the Lord that your family did not get seriously injured (or worse) in their accident. Your faith will get you through!!! God works all things for good and HE is always with us during our trials!!!
staroftheeast wrote 112 months ago:
Prayers & HUGS for all of you. May God comfort all of you during these times of stress & sorrow.
lyngoode wrote 112 months ago:
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
aliciagetshealthy wrote 112 months ago:
You never need an ending or a reason to unload and share some of your grief, I always have an available shoulder.
alliecat21 wrote 112 months ago:
Sniff, sniff...prayers for you and everyone around you. ((hugs))
Annette_rose wrote 112 months ago:
I agree with the above comments. You never need an ending in order to share grief with others. I am so sorry for all you are going through and you and your family are in my prayers. You sound like an awesome person just in the fact that your daughter was comfortable coming to you with what her mom is going through. This life is so hard at times and my Faith in God is what keeps me going. Thank you for sharing your life with us. That takes courage and is commendable. {{{hugs}}}
freeindeed33 wrote 112 months ago:
Prayers for you and all these terrible hurts, we serve a God that is able, and mighty to save and to help us through the hard times!!God bless you and be with your family!
Mustangsally1000 wrote 112 months ago:
What can I say that hasn't already been said by others, a heart felt by me. Almighty jokes aside..he is there for you and your faith will keep you strong. God Bless David, and know that everyone here is with you in spirit and will give yous trength if you need someone to lean on. My heart is heavy, faith is strong. Big hugs and prayers headed your way for you, friends and family.
Vonnie2006 wrote 112 months ago:
((((((((((((YOU)))))))))))) The one thing I do know is that FAITH and prayer will get you through when fortitude won't. My prayers to you, your family and friends and my gratitude to God for keeping you hear with us and your family. God Bless you all.
CRSE1214 wrote 112 months ago:
Thoughts and prayers to you all.
sharonsgottaloseit wrote 112 months ago:
Praise God for His protection of your wife & young daughter. Having gone through the loss of my husband to cancer in 2006, I know how hard it is to have a loved one suffer this and then to lose them. Praise God that you have faith in Him & therefore the strength to be a pillar for you 21 year old. Keep the faith & trust God for comfort, grace & wisdom to help your daughter through this sad time.
Denjo060 wrote 112 months ago:
God Bless You!!
saphfireangel wrote 112 months ago:
*Leaving hugs and support for you*
odditblue wrote 112 months ago:
Hugs for you today my friend. Praying for all of you. When we don't have the words to say, I pray He lends you His breath in the days ahead... so you may simply breathe Him in and listen to His heart beating inside your own. And I pray that His love and peace rains softly down on each of you. Love to you and yours.

aweigh2go wrote 112 months ago:
You said it best when you said, "It is times like these when my faith is important." Now more than ever, you have to wrap your arms around your faith with all your might. It keeps you from throwing your hands up in defeat. You are never defeated. Just tested!

I am praying for you to be strong for others and for you to get through this.
Chocolategurl1970 wrote 112 months ago:
May God keep you and your family strong during these times.I lost a mother and mother-in-law to cancer 6 years ago and it still hurts,but I have to rely on God for strength. Be blessed!
ellie0213 wrote 112 months ago:
Through all of this God shines: He makes us tougher, wiser, closer, more humble, more thankful, more open.... I am sorry for the sadness in your family right now.
dburton2 wrote 112 months ago:
Praying for you and your family.
Hoppymom wrote 112 months ago:
Long distance hugs to you and your family. God and faith will bring you through this trying time. It is scary to have so many bad things happening at once. It probably feels pretty overwhelming. Keeping yourself healthy will help as much as any thing in the natural world. Faith and God will do the rest.
felicity866 wrote 112 months ago:
this is all certainly an overload of tragic events to have to be faced with..very glad your wife and daughter were not badle injured in the accident..i feel for your older daughter, facing the loss of your mother at 21 is a life changing event and terribly sad and then to be faced with a 3rd event with your friend must be just heartbreaking...all of these things things leave us to realise just how tenuous our grip on life can be and it certainly puts things in perspective. when i see stories like this it reinforces just how lucky i have been to survive a possible death sentece and i thank God for that chance. my prayers are with you and your family.
djkamin60 wrote 112 months ago:
My motto is God won't give me more than I can handle but he sure tests me. Please know that your faith will bring you through it. Hugs and prayers sent your way.
Pifflesmom wrote 112 months ago:
In between your written words, I see your sadness and pain, but I also see someone who is ready to take whatever the world has to throw at him. In my times of trouble, I try to remember that the universe (or God, or whatever deity you believe in) has a plan for us; we are exactly where we are supposed to be, doing what we are supposed to be, with whom we are supposed to be with. It's hard to be positive sometimes, but having that faith - that small part of yourself that you give up to a higher power...well, it helps.

I send you healing thoughts through the universe.
tmoyer1209 wrote 112 months ago:
Thank you for still sharing with us, even if it isn't your normal funny banter. We appreciate everything you give to your family and the rest of us. You never need to apologize, we are here to give you support in life, not just fitness! Love and hugs!!
Spunky50 wrote 112 months ago:
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and friends at this time!! God will continue see you through the tough times in life!! Your MFP's are here to support you and yours, just remember that!! Thanks for all the support you have given us!! Blessings!!
amfeierabend74 wrote 112 months ago:
Sorry for all that you and your family are going through
goodasgoldilox165 wrote 112 months ago:
There's much to shoulder here - such a tough time for you all - it is hard to comprehend. Here is important use for the strength this year has brought you. Thanks for your support - hope you feel plenty in return.
mjhartness wrote 112 months ago:
Sending you a hug and praying for you and your family...
annabellj wrote 112 months ago:
so sorry hun. i know how devastating cancer is first hand. prayers for you.
rschmmidt wrote 112 months ago:
Thinking good thoughts for you and your family. Take care of each other, the love you share gives you strength to get through the tough times.
kjdhappy wrote 112 months ago:
Prayers for you and your family
millsjam1 wrote 112 months ago:
So sorry to hear about all you are going through. I am so glad that your family didn't get hurt in the accident and that is such a blessing. I wish you and yours strength in this difficult time.
SalishSea wrote 112 months ago:
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry for your struggles. I am wishing the best of health to you and your family. I am glad you are experiencing sweet moments in your life- like the beach with your wife. All my best to you, be well.

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