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February 17, 2013 7:03 AM
All my past diets were like this. 2 months in, I see a little improvement then Bam, eating bad 1 day then the next then off. Well this is not a diet, it's a life changing eating habit. I still get the notion to eat unhealthy, but I eat an apple instead.
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February 17, 2013 7:04 AM
I was even worse. If I lost weight, I rewarded myself with food treats. If I gained weight, I consoled myself with food treats. I got nowhere!

I have a different reward system now. I keep a notebook to record my workouts, and in it I give myself a 0.5 for logging my food and another for each 1/2 hour of exercise. When I lose a pound, I get to add a 0, so 0.5 becomes 0.50, then 5.00 and so forth.
February 17, 2013 7:09 AM
I do this too but I call it self-sabatoge. Every time I'm doing well, I feel that loss of control. It's almost like way down deep inside I don't believe I deserve to lose the weight. I'm working on trying to figure out why. It's the only thing in my life I have not been successful at and it's very frustrating. Often after a bout of self-sabotage, I give up completely and then gain all the weight back but this time I am focused on getting back on track instead of quitting altogether. This is not an easy journey!
February 17, 2013 7:20 AM
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I do that too and that is my problem. Once I lose weight,. YOu start saying well a littler her won't matter or I can eat this it won't matter or that. IT ALL MATTERS, because a year later and 35lbs later...it all mattered because it all adds up. Thats the part I want to conquer is to change that way of thinking because I don't reverting back to old habits when I feel better about myself, because then I feel worse again.


The above was my attitude in the past and it can still sneak up on me but then I think of how awful I felt when I was so overweight. Than I think of how good I felt getting into pants and shirts that did not fit me for years. It puts things in perspective. I think a lot of us do this though. If losing weight and keeping it off were that easy, we would do it, be done with it and that would be it. Not so in life, at least not for me. Be proud you are making a good decision for you and your health. You will have ups and downs for sure but know that each day is a new day and you are SO WORTH IT. That is the great thing about this site. We are/were all in the same boat at one time.
Edited by mountainbiker65 On February 17, 2013 7:24 AM
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February 17, 2013 7:25 AM
I have done that, but I don't now. I treat myself now with mani/pedis, getting my hair done....I'm going to treat myself with another tattoo when I reach my goal weight!
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February 17, 2013 8:13 AM
I do this all the time. I hate it. I've been struggling a lot with this as I'm so close to my first 25 pounds, and lately it seems I've been getting all willie nillie with my eating. I'm trying to figure out how to stop that from happening. I think a part of it too is the newness wears off, and it's not our focus anymore. So I'm going to challenge myself to try and avoid any bread, sweets, and most dairy this week to help keep myself in check. Carbs are my biggest weakness. I'm going to be focusing on fruits, vegetables, and protein. I'm hoping this will help me to get over that 25 pound wall and heading towards the 50 pounds mark. Good luck to you! You can do this! It's all a mind game, you just have to outsmart your habits!
February 17, 2013 8:16 AM
That's why I put my scale away. My current plan is to weigh myself monthly, and measure. It helps avoid that trap.
February 17, 2013 8:17 AM
YES. It's an AWFUL habit of mine. :( I think "oh wow, I feel great, I should treat myself!" It's horrible and throws me off for that given day.


Setting goals is very smart! Thanks for the tip y'all!! :)
February 17, 2013 8:18 AM
*Hoovering the kids' hidden bags of leftover Halloween candy as she types....*

I have no idea what you're talking about.
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February 17, 2013 8:21 AM
like many people have said...reward yourself with a non edible thing...shoes...new outfit...anything and maybe couple it with one day of eating one thing that you have been denying yourself but remember portion control and adjust your day to fit that thing in your allotted calories.
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February 17, 2013 8:25 AM
I did that when I first noticed weight loss in myself last year and I found that after I would feel guilty because I was being counter productive. I find I don't do it so much anymore because I treat myself frequently in ways that fits into my diet. So if I treat myself to pizza, I will only have 2-3 slices and then a really healthy dinner to balance it out. Or if I want to indulge in something calorie heavy I just do 45-60 minutes of exercise that day or the next day to balance it out.

So I think the more you do this, you will start to realise it's counter productive and not want to!
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February 17, 2013 8:27 AM
I did it but having found my fitness pal and seeing each day where I am accountable, I no longer do that. I try and eat for my health first. I still have bad days when I make poor choices, but it is for a meal sometimes and then i go back to eating healthy.
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February 17, 2013 8:27 AM
You are not alone. Weightloss is not my goal, but I have gained some weight (up and down 5lbs) during this Holiday seasons. I call it a little insulation for these cold winter months. I find myself falling back into some bad habits and I hate it. Just the other night I ate pizza. I only had 2 slices but they were the two biggest slices I could find. Don't get me started on the M&M that were out for Valentines Days. That is why switching to a lifestyle is better than dieting. Always be aware of your bad habits and try to do better the next time you have the opportunity between making a bad or good choice. We all fall off the wagon but the key is to make sure you get right back on.
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February 17, 2013 8:29 AM
1. Find a non-food reward that works for you. We all need goals and rewards along the way.

2a. Just because you have a set back doesn't mean you give up. Go off your diet or miss your goal one? Think about why, what triggered it, what need you had that was satisfied by going on the binge, then experiment with other ways to meet the need until you find one that works for you.

2b. Just because you have a set back doesn't mean you give up. Go off your diet or miss your goal one? It's okay. Tell yourself that, then believe it, and just do better the next day.

I have a weak spot for nuts and chocolate but I find that if I let myself have a little when I want it, and I know tomorrow I can have a little more, then I am satisfied with that little taste.

I also have trouble with portion control and need to remind myself that this is not the last great tasting meal I will ever have. I also picture and feel how I will feel after if I do overeat and how I will feel after not overeating. I find focusing on a vision of yourself after I do or don't do what something is a powerful and effective tool, whether it is pushing myself to exercise or making healthy food choices.
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February 17, 2013 8:30 AM
I reward myself with non-foods. Most commonly, I buy myself fresh flowers. They are beautiful, cost less than a meal in a restaurant and I deserve it!
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February 17, 2013 8:35 AM
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I tend to quit after someone notices and tells me I'm starting to look really good,


I totally get this. It's bizarre - I don't know why people noticing makes a difference, but it does. I'm hoping no one notices for a long time yet. It seems to set off some kind of strange pyschological response in my brain. Like oh no, they've noticed. Now I'm going to fail. Makes no sense, but there it is.....
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February 17, 2013 8:42 AM
I used to do that as well. Now, I reward myself with something that I have wanted. The latest reward was a pair of Miss Me jeans and I love them. It is keeping me motivated to stay healthy because if I gain any weight I won't be able to wear them. So.... in order to keep them in rotation I have to keep eating healthy and exercising.

My next 10 lbs is my tattoo on my foot/ankle.
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February 19, 2013 10:17 PM
LOL. Yeah. You're like, "Oh, I can really lose weight just by doing or that, so I'll just eat whatever I want and if I gain weight, I'll just do whatever I did before to lose weight." LOL. It's really stupid. You're allowed to eat vday candy...just not a whole frickin family pack. LOL. I think that most things are ok in moderation.
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February 19, 2013 11:07 PM
i am just as guilty :/ i do that as well i start doing well for a few weeks drop pounds and then bam! i have a pig out fest :( its so frustrating.
February 20, 2013 2:34 AM
Love the comments to "get back on the wagon"!!! Every morning, I weight myself, log my food and exercise into MFP and read the inspiring notes. Saw this quote that I love:



If you're heading somewhere in the car and wanted to get there by 5, but realized you were going to be a few minutes late, would you just give up and swerve into a bridge abutment?
February 20, 2013 2:40 AM
sure we all do that,, i work my butt off hard all week, and lose it all on the weekends and party,,
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February 20, 2013 2:50 AM
QUOTE:

QUOTE:

I tend to quit after someone notices and tells me I'm starting to look really good,


I totally get this. It's bizarre - I don't know why people noticing makes a difference, but it does. I'm hoping no one notices for a long time yet. It seems to set off some kind of strange pyschological response in my brain. Like oh no, they've noticed. Now I'm going to fail. Makes no sense, but there it is.....


OMG, maybe this is why I'm royally f***ing up lately. I almost threw in the towel the other day for an unknown reason. I never made the connection until now. SO many people have been commenting that I look good. My aunt literally hugged me and cried a couple weeks ago when I hadn't seen her in a couple of months and she saw that I've lost weight. Hmmmmm...
February 20, 2013 2:52 AM
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Saw this quote that I love:



If you're heading somewhere in the car and wanted to get there by 5, but realized you were going to be a few minutes late, would you just give up and swerve into a bridge abutment?


I LOOVE this! I swear, I'm going to frame it and hang it on the wall. Lol.
February 20, 2013 2:54 AM
I believe you can use food as a reward, but you just need to plan the reward. Don't say "I lost 5 pounds, I can now eat good stuff." But rather, throw a small treat into your daily diet, something you enjoy. Keep a nice small portion waiting for you at the end of the day. You work it into your calories, and if you're under for the calories you aimed for, with enough to spare, enjoy it that day. It's a great way to end the day, and I have noticed I am not craving stuff as much as I used to. Even when the rest of my family are enjoying foods I would love to eat. I just know, I have my treat coming, and if I stay strong, I can enjoy it AND lose the weight I want. A pure win/win!
February 20, 2013 3:03 AM
Yup. Complacency. Probably the number one reason why I have failed to lose weight before. Whenever I lose a bit, I feel happier and get lazier. Gain it all back and then some.

Trying to counteract this time by constantly thinking about how much EVEN BETTER I'm going to feel and look in another 20 lbs' time. Also taking photos - that's another good wake up call that I am not done. And reminding myself I am not in a healthy BMI yet. And buying new clothes relatively often, and buying them a little on the snug side as a motivator.

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