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December 6, 2012 7:29 PM
I do.... I don't mean morbidly obese but I would never ever date a skinny guy.
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December 6, 2012 7:32 PM
When I was single, I dated plenty of guys who might be considered "fat". It wasn't an issue when I was young (I didn't workout back then, either.) I dated guys who were intelligent, witty, liked to have fun, and treated me with respect.

But in all honesty, now at my age, if I weren't married, health would be more important to me. At almost 40, I am very active and like to GO. I like to dance, hike, bike, climb hills, and I have a healthy libido. I appreciate that my hubby, who is 46, is in pretty good shape--no health issues, no prescriptions, and he can keep up with me. wink
December 6, 2012 7:33 PM
I wouldn't date an obese guy (if he was actively trying to lose weight; I might consider), but I've always been attracted to chubby/stocky guys. I don't typically like "skinny" guys, but that may be because they're outside of my comfort-zone since I'm overweight.
December 6, 2012 7:34 PM
I'm about 115lbs and boyfriend is at least 300. I love fat guys! :D
December 6, 2012 7:35 PM
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Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight


Ask a girl out.

Have confidence.

Like yourself so they can too.

Make them smile and laugh.

Have confidence in yourself.

Ask a girl out.

Be creative.

Don't throw yourself pity parties when you get turned down. Go find another girl to ask out.

Flirt.

And finally, ask a girl out.
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December 6, 2012 7:36 PM
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some girls like fat boys bc theyre fun 2 hug n feel like a big fluffy yummy marshmallow.. yayyy!!!!


^^ This is why I like chubby guys! It sounds bad, but they're so huggable!(:
December 6, 2012 7:40 PM
QUOTE:

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Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight


Ask a girl out.

Have confidence.

Like yourself so they can too.

Make them smile and laugh.

Have confidence in yourself.

Ask a girl out.

Be creative.

Don't throw yourself pity parties when you get turned down. Go find another girl to ask out.

Flirt.

And finally, ask a girl out.


^^^ This! I have seen fat guys, even ugly fat guys, with decent looking women because they have confidence in themselves and aren't afraid to say hi. Stand up straight and smile!
  12242281
December 6, 2012 7:44 PM
QUOTE:

QUOTE:

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Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight


Ask a girl out.

Have confidence.

Like yourself so they can too.

Make them smile and laugh.

Have confidence in yourself.

Ask a girl out.

Be creative.

Don't throw yourself pity parties when you get turned down. Go find another girl to ask out.

Flirt.

And finally, ask a girl out.


^^^ This! I have seen fat guys, even ugly fat guys, with decent looking women because they have confidence in themselves and aren't afraid to say hi. Stand up straight and smile!


Seriously this. There are plenty of skinny guys that lack self confidence and can't get a date either!
  17723229
December 6, 2012 7:45 PM
Is chubby fat? I love a man with some padding. I can't stand the hard 6 pack thing. To me that says, he'll be too busy toworkout to spend time with me. Next, it'll be a guy without a DAMN cell phone. That's all my SO does is plays on his cell.
  26239534
December 6, 2012 7:47 PM
My hubby was obese when we dated. We had a lot in common and he is funny/has a great sense of humor and he's very loving. It's what you are on the inside that counts.

There are plenty of studs who are just right (figure wise), but they are stuck up, inconsiderate, and not nice people. Not all, but most I have seen or known.
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December 6, 2012 7:47 PM
I've always been thin and I've dated average men to obese men. For me it's all about the personality and confidence. I've dated two very overweight men. Both were highly intelligent, well groomed, funny, good looking and all around fun to be with.

One was confident (at least outwardly) about his weight. He was realistic about why he was overweight and honest with himself and others. He ate too much. He enjoyed food too much. He was willing to pay the price of being a big man to enjoy his food. He didn't let his size stop him from being the best he could be at everything he did. His size NEVER bothered me and he was the larger of the two men.

The other man suffered from severe low self-esteem. I felt like I was being punished for his weight problem. He was in denial that it had anything to do with his eating habits and it was his moms fault, genetics, unfair, etc, etc. The I had to hear, I'm too fat to do that...or too fat to do this. I HATED that. The only thing I wanted to say was "if it's limiting you and making YOU unhappy then stop being fat". I wouldn't have meant it about his weight but more his whinniness about it drove me INSANE.

You can't say women don't date "fat" guys. I did before I got married. My husband isn't skinny but he's not obese either. It wouldn't really matter over-all if he was. If you're having a hard time finding a girl you need to re-evaluate other things about yourself. Weight loss will help with the initial attraction but will not win you a long term meaningful relationship.
December 6, 2012 7:48 PM
Maybe, by instinct, they think that we have: bad DNA, health problems, confidence issues; bad jobs or that we spend all our money on food jajaja. We fail the pre-qualification process.
December 6, 2012 7:48 PM
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Maybe because fat guys aren't confident enough to ask thin girls out?

Spoken from a girl who has a huge crush on an overweight dude that's going nowhere -.- It's all about the chemistry, which, for me, isn't looks based (you could tell that if you saw my last bf-HA)
Deffinately wish i was that guy. You're BEAUTIFUL. if it helps, I'm too OCD to be a slob, most people say I'm the cleanest person they know. Yes, I'm motivated, even though I don't have a job, I'm going back to school to further my education, in physical therapy. I'm on here to get in shape, because before I lost my job, I was in school to be a personal trainer, and even though I graduated, I fell into a depression and got out of shape.
December 6, 2012 7:49 PM
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Why women don't date fat guys? Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight


I think this question translates to "Why won't women date me?" and the answer to that is:

A) Don't assume it's because you need to lose weight. There could be a multitude of reasons ie. have you asked anyone out? do you make an effort to meet new people? are you a weirdo creeper who tells girls you want to sniff their armpits or something? do you have douchey friends (which often scares girls off before they even talk to you)? are you too shy to even say hello to a girl?

B) If you are getting rejected, categorically, because of your weight then you're probably asking the wrong girls out and need to just be patient. The world is full of different sorts of people with different preferences and eventually you'll stumble across one or more who think you're terrific. In the mean time, keep up the hard slog to get healthy :)
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December 6, 2012 7:49 PM
Size has never been an issue for me either. I've never actually been with anyone who would be considered a hard body.
December 6, 2012 7:49 PM
The reverse of this thread would get taken down before you could blink...
Edited by n0ob On December 6, 2012 7:50 PM
December 6, 2012 8:00 PM
Some people have a misconception that obese people posses poor qualities such as: lazy, unclean, unmotivated, lack will power, etc. Some might be, but not all are. But the same can be said for thin people.
December 6, 2012 8:11 PM
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Why women don't date fat guys? Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight


I think this question translates to "Why won't women date me?" and the answer to that is:

A) Don't assume it's because you need to lose weight. There could be a multitude of reasons ie. have you asked anyone out? do you make an effort to meet new people? are you a weirdo creeper who tells girls you want to sniff their armpits or something? do you have douchey friends (which often scares girls off before they even talk to you)? are you too shy to even say hello to a girl?

B) If you are getting rejected, categorically, because of your weight then you're probably asking the wrong girls out and need to just be patient. The world is full of different sorts of people with different preferences and eventually you'll stumble across one or more who think you're terrific. In the mean time, keep up the hard slog to get healthy :)

Yeah this is a pretty good response. Different people (men and women both) have different preferences. I'd work on the confidence thing, keep working out, and do what you really love in life (a lot). Good Luck.
December 6, 2012 8:11 PM
On a sub-conscious level, we all look for signs of good health in a mate. When someone is fat, a woman knows that person is not in their best state of health.
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December 6, 2012 8:16 PM
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confidence and charm. You'd be surprised how gullible women can be. You'd also be surprised what you can do if you have a silver tongue.


Boom. This.


Yup.
  26153332
December 6, 2012 8:28 PM
I happen to like guys with more to love. To each their own. Its really all about personality. Make me laugh

I'm yours.
December 6, 2012 8:29 PM
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How about asking out the fat girls?


I don't know if you realized in the tittle says women not matter fat girl don't like fat guys either


People tend to get what they give out. No one has asked so I will. Do you like big girls? Are you attracted to them? Do you attempt to ask them out on a regular basis? If you're not showing the love to the big girls then don't expect anyone, big or small, to show you the love.

Can't get back what you didn't put in
December 6, 2012 8:31 PM
My hubby isnt fat but he is a "big guy" hes like 6'2 and 240 pounds .. I love his size. I dont like to look at a guy and think if I got to carried away I would break/hurt him lol and im a personality person, if you have a big heart, good sense of humor and take care of yourself thats what attracks me. (But I do like beefy guys too like Channing Tatum lol)
December 6, 2012 8:36 PM
I would date a heavy guy as long as his chest isn't bigger then mine. I'm a D cup.
  28686872
December 6, 2012 8:50 PM
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I find it funny how some women find those lanky hipsters attractive though.


Agreed....when a guy can wear skinny jeans better than me, not cool. I mean come on; for me I need a man that looks like a man. Much rather the guy have some meat on him than be smaller than me. But if we all liked the same thing, it would be a scary world.

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