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November 20, 2012 5:35 AM
OK guys im thinking hard about joining.. Im not sure if i should or not.. i have been going back and forth for a couple years now.. With two kids and my husband about to get out of the military we have a choice for my husband to reenlist or to not reenlist.. With how hard it is to find work out side the military would it be worth it throwing the towel in and get out.. Or do i join the military and my husband reenlist.. Does anyone know what benefit of being dual military in the army is? Or Guard.. Im getting closer to being able to pass the Female past.. not just passing but passing by more then expected. I still have more to do but idk what are your guys thoughts.. Positives and negitives are welcome.. And if you think you have good info about this just PM me it would be alot easier to talk about it!
November 20, 2012 6:14 AM
The positives are obviously financial and job training.
The negetives are:
1: The possibiilty of deployments.
2: (if both are enlisted) no gaurentee you will be serving together.
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November 20, 2012 6:17 AM
Other negatives....think about the long nights your husband puts in, field training and time away from the family. Now imagine that times 2, the affect that would have on your kids and the stress it would have on your marriage. It works for some, but doesn't for most.
November 20, 2012 6:19 AM
I've been on active duty for 12 years now. My opinion is that if he is in an MOS with good promotion opportunity and he can't secure a job in the civilian sector then he should reenlist.

Now, if you want to join being a military spouse you already know what to expect. As dual military you can be stationed together. Try to pick an MOS that would likely be at any duty station he is could go. Some MOS's are only at select duty stations.
November 20, 2012 6:33 AM
His job doesnt make it easy for him to get promoted thats the problem he needs to reclass before i enlist so he can get promoted and i believe it would make things easier on both of us. And we have been through 3 deployments now.. So im pretty we can get past the stress of those.. being away from my babies is where im lacking the motovation to do it.. i think im more nervous about that part then ne
November 20, 2012 6:38 AM
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His job doesnt make it easy for him to get promoted thats the problem he needs to reclass before i enlist so he can get promoted and i believe it would make things easier on both of us. And we have been through 3 deployments now.. So im pretty we can get past the stress of those.. being away from my babies is where im lacking the motovation to do it.. i think im more nervous about that part then ne


Who will watch the kids if both deploy at the same time? Or you go to the field? Or TDY? Like a previous poster mentioned, some can make it work and some can't. You will definetly need a family care plan if you join also.

Can I ask what rank you husband is?
November 20, 2012 6:55 AM
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His job doesnt make it easy for him to get promoted thats the problem he needs to reclass before i enlist so he can get promoted and i believe it would make things easier on both of us. And we have been through 3 deployments now.. So im pretty we can get past the stress of those.. being away from my babies is where im lacking the motovation to do it.. i think im more nervous about that part then ne

I was actually in the opposite situation.
I was an 11B (light) and, while I flew thru the promotions, job opportunities on the outside were scarce.
I didn't want to be a police officer.
I ended up re enlisting and became a (at the time) 74C.
The promotion opportunities slowed down but, learning computer communications enabled me to have an excellent career on the outside.
If he is ready to get out and maybe join a reserve unit while you go active duty and get a job skill, I say go for it.
But, get an MOS that easily translates to the outside. I used to ride bikes with a guy who fixed x ray machines for the Army.
Once he got out, his wife signed up.
When we were hanging out, he was working for a German hospital while his wife provided housing (free), insurance (free) and all of the other benefits. and he was making BANK fixing these machines.
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November 20, 2012 7:41 AM
would be awesome to start making great money.. lol.. but thats not the only reason why i would want to join.
November 20, 2012 7:45 AM
<<< ---- Prior AF w/ a prior AF hubby.

Granted we got out quite a few years ago. But we still have many friends (couples) who are in together. In my honest opinion, I think the pros far outweigh the cons. Jobs are tough in the civillian world right now and if your husband is not fed up....he should probably re-enlist. If you go - you will be able to get joint spouse and be station with or near him. The main drawback I see is if you both get deployed - where will your children go? That is something to really consider. But other than that....it may be a great option for you both!
November 20, 2012 8:13 AM
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<<< ---- Prior AF w/ a prior AF hubby.

Granted we got out quite a few years ago. But we still have many friends (couples) who are in together. In my honest opinion, I think the pros far outweigh the cons. Jobs are tough in the civillian world right now and if your husband is not fed up....he should probably re-enlist. If you go - you will be able to get joint spouse and be station with or near him. The main drawback I see is if you both get deployed - where will your children go? That is something to really consider. But other than that....it may be a great option for you both!


Depending on the branch you join, you both can not be in the military with kids without wavers. Think about that.
Air National Guard you can choose you deployments, just FYI.
November 20, 2012 9:55 AM
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<<< ---- Prior AF w/ a prior AF hubby.

Granted we got out quite a few years ago. But we still have many friends (couples) who are in together. In my honest opinion, I think the pros far outweigh the cons. Jobs are tough in the civillian world right now and if your husband is not fed up....he should probably re-enlist. If you go - you will be able to get joint spouse and be station with or near him. The main drawback I see is if you both get deployed - where will your children go? That is something to really consider. But other than that....it may be a great option for you both!


Depending on the branch you join, you both can not be in the military with kids without wavers. Think about that.
Air National Guard you can choose you deployments, just FYI.


Army just requires a Family Care Plan

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