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November 17, 2012 6:31 PM
Honestly I have never been on web community so full of so many people that go out their way to be unwelcoming and mean to people. What are yall doing to combat the nasty attitudes on here?
November 17, 2012 6:32 PM
*Points at the report post button*
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November 17, 2012 6:34 PM
Its beyond that Dan. Its more than one person reporting posts and seeing no results. The point of this site is motivation and the social aspects. All i see in the forums is diet attacking, unwelcoming posts, who is the hottest, who would you date, etc. Its like this is junior high.
November 17, 2012 6:39 PM
Agreed! Would you like a friend request and seeding to a better group of people?
90% of the folks I roll with are losing weight the right way and they help each other out.
I try to help out on this forum and am surprised by the attacks I get daily.
If you want a strong community let me know.
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November 17, 2012 6:39 PM
Hi, at first when I started writing my opinion about whatever and got shot down by some people I was really upset because I just wanted support from other people in the same situation as me; but then as I thought about it I thought maybe they didn't mean to hurt my feelings and I wasn't upset anymore! And truly 99% of people on here are really nice and encouraging. What kind of rudeness are you encountering?
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November 17, 2012 6:41 PM
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Its beyond that Dan. Its more than one person reporting posts and seeing no results. The point of this site is motivation and the social aspects. All i see in the forums is diet attacking, unwelcoming posts, who is the hottest, who would you date, etc. Its like this is junior high.



I think there are some people on here who ARE in high school---but there's also older people too.
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November 17, 2012 6:42 PM
I try to combat it with being nice. It's very difficult to be *****y to someone who is being nice to you!
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November 17, 2012 6:43 PM
there are good people!!!
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November 17, 2012 6:45 PM
I posted this topic here, in hopes of the owners will see it and know there are people here that think this site is great but please clean up the negativity.

I try not to even post in the open areas due to so many people thinking they *OWN* this website. Go read the forums its full of people being rude and saying mean things. Highly critical of spelling, grammar and opinions.

I am pretty sure that was not the concept of having a forum area open to everyone.
November 17, 2012 6:47 PM
There are substantial numbers of people in junior high also, they just lie about their age and pretend to be 18, but MFP does not remove them.

As far as the "real?" adults, stay away from Chit-Chat, Fun, and Games - which is where most of the flirting/[pseudo-dating/junior hight stuff is

As far as the rest, some people (me included) have strong opinions about eating strategies and many post questionable informration that is not backed up by research - those threads can get rough and rude

I've seen threads that get too abusive will get edited/removed or locked.
Edited by Bob314159 On November 17, 2012 6:48 PM
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November 17, 2012 6:51 PM
If you think MFP is one of the rudest... have you been to YouTube?
November 17, 2012 6:56 PM
Is the whole premise behind the forum aspect of Youtube...SUPPORT AND MOTIVATION?
November 17, 2012 7:00 PM
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Is the whole premise behind the forum aspect of Youtube...SUPPORT AND MOTIVATION?


People will continue to be people, online or offline, regardless of the premise set forth by the site creators. Your best options are blocking and/or reporting, and because the mods are people too, they aren't going to be able to catch everything. It takes time to police the forums, and many of the mods are unpaid volunteers. They've gone out of their way thus far to make groups available for politics, religion, and people who like naughty posts. Nothing drastic is likely to change anytime soon.
November 17, 2012 7:03 PM
I quit posting here real quick because of this very thing. I only came here tonight because I saw the topic on my home page and thought I would add my two cents. From what I've seen, if you don't agree with the 'right way' of losing weight, you get bashed... repeatedly. Not to say there aren't good people here as well, but in my opinion it's just not worth it to weed through all the mean comments just to get to the few supportive ones.
November 17, 2012 7:06 PM
I think sometimes rudeness is the nature of the beast, this beast being internet forums. Sometimes people are actually rude, and sometimes they just don't take the time or care to be gentle with people, or just don't have the writing skills. We all have different ways of expressing ourselves, and I find it's easy to misread tone with people I don't know.

It's funny you would say this today, because among the usual snarky comments (some of which are very funny), I have read some posts that really moved me, both requests for help and offers of it.

In a short time I have found a small community of "friends" here, and feel I can rely on them for support and advice. I'm grateful to have them every day and am enjoying getting to know them better every day. I don't have an issue with the dating/hotness/etc threads, although I don't read them. But I do think there is a value in getting to know people beyond what they like to eat, how much they weigh, and if they do weights or cardio. Just my two cents.
November 17, 2012 7:10 PM
Don't join bodybuilding.com/forum!
They'd chew you up and spit you out!
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November 17, 2012 7:13 PM
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I remember OP is the one who sends insulting emails that way it can't be reported and posted. NO, she likes to put people down in private!!!!!

*hint guy posted the message on a thread how OP was calling him insults and he got the strike because it's against rules to post it in public forums.
Edited by avir8 On November 17, 2012 7:24 PM
November 17, 2012 7:13 PM
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I think sometimes rudeness is the nature of the beast, this beast being internet forums. Sometimes people are actually rude, and sometimes they just don't take the time or care to be gentle with people, or just don't have the writing skills. We all have different ways of expressing ourselves, and I find it's easy to misread tone with people I don't know.

It's funny you would say this today, because among the usual snarky comments (some of which are very funny), I have read some posts that really moved me, both requests for help and offers of it.

In a short time I have found a small community of "friends" here, and feel I can rely on them for support and advice. I'm grateful to have them every day and am enjoying getting to know them better every day. I don't have an issue with the dating/hotness/etc threads, although I don't read them. But I do think there is a value in getting to know people beyond what they like to eat, how much they weigh, and if they do weights or cardio. Just my two cents.


I LOVE THIS POST! And agree completely. I have made a great group of friends here and we encourage each other daily. I think MFP has FAR more positives than negatives.
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November 17, 2012 7:14 PM
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Honestly I have never been on web community so full of so many people that go out their way to be unwelcoming and mean to people. What are yall doing to combat the nasty attitudes on here?


Really? you must not be a part of very many online communities because this one is actually pretty mild compared to some of the others I belong to.
November 17, 2012 7:14 PM
This place is pretty tame compared to some forums I've been on.

It's the internet, this type of thing is always going to happen. Since the first IRC channels opened, administrators have struggled with trolling, abuse etc ...never an easy job because if they are too punitive social interaction is restricted, and if they're too lax abuse can happen quite often. Better them than me lol.

I say ignore the people who annoy you, interact with people you like and don't take it all too seriously :)
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November 17, 2012 7:17 PM
I've not found this to be the case. Some people are rude... That happens in "real" life too. How about just ignoring the ones you can't get through to?
November 17, 2012 7:19 PM
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QUOTE:

Honestly I have never been on web community so full of so many people that go out their way to be unwelcoming and mean to people. What are yall doing to combat the nasty attitudes on here?


Really? you must not be a part of very many online communities because this one is actually pretty mild compared to some of the others I belong to.


Indeed. There are plenty places on the Internet that will curl your hair and give you insomnia. laugh
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November 17, 2012 7:19 PM
QUOTE:

I think sometimes rudeness is the nature of the beast, this beast being internet forums. Sometimes people are actually rude, and sometimes they just don't take the time or care to be gentle with people, or just don't have the writing skills. We all have different ways of expressing ourselves, and I find it's easy to misread tone with people I don't know.

It's funny you would say this today, because among the usual snarky comments (some of which are very funny), I have read some posts that really moved me, both requests for help and offers of it.

In a short time I have found a small community of "friends" here, and feel I can rely on them for support and advice. I'm grateful to have them every day and am enjoying getting to know them better every day. I don't have an issue with the dating/hotness/etc threads, although I don't read them. But I do think there is a value in getting to know people beyond what they like to eat, how much they weigh, and if they do weights or cardio. Just my two cents.


I like this a lot!!! flowerforyou
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November 17, 2012 7:20 PM
Report User, Ignore User/Block User, and leave forum.
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November 17, 2012 7:21 PM
Interact with and "friend" the people you like and who post reasoned and sound advice.

Ignore the rest.

Report the worst.



That "ignore" part is the big thing - you have to learn how to ignore people. You are probably perfectly OK at doing so in "the real world", so why not on the Internet? Just skip past the posts. I realize it is not always that easy as some people are just very inflammatory posters, but with time it gets easier to just skip the nonsense.
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