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October 12, 2012 12:21 AM
No, you won't be thin or fit if you give up now. Two blowout days are gone and done - forget them and eat clean and exercise today. Don't worry - it happens to us all and champions are made from off days!
October 12, 2012 12:21 AM
Hey, you have your whole life to live! :) whether you are fat or thin,live a good happy one. Either way has trials (skinny or fat course of life) but as long as you work hard yet remain care free it will all work out :)
October 12, 2012 12:25 AM
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You either want to do it, or you don't. You either will, or you won't. Whatever happens, it is YOUR decision and only you are responsible. Many have done it before you, so it IS possible.


I like this response, I'd also add its sometimes a case of how bad you want it. Previously I've tried to lose weight, and have lost a bit (up to 7kg/15lb) but for one reason or another I just wasn't motivated enough to persevere with it. Over time I resigned the weight as my lifestyle hadn't fundamentally changed.
This time around I'm overflowing with motivation, I know this will be the last time I'll be losing weight and I'm determined to get to my target.

If you want it bad enough, then you'll do it. It may not be your time right now, it's a big lifestyle change and a lot of work, and ultimately you will be the only one benefitting from it so you have to have a lot of self monitvation.
  14240730
October 12, 2012 12:28 AM
Hey, chin up!

Yesterday is done and dusted, nothing can change it so look forward, not backward - new day, new challenge.

I've just had an 11lb gain whilst on holiday, but managed to get 8lbs of that off this week, which I know is all water as I bloat awfully every time I fly. I'm still up 3lbs, but I'll take that as I just had 11 days of not rigidly dieting and I believe in myself that I'll get back on track.

Believe in yourself - at the end of the day, whatever anyone says or does to try to help you, you are the only person who can make it happen.

Good luck.
  3894102
October 12, 2012 12:36 AM
Everyone has slip-ups. That's nothing to be ashamed of at all. You can do one of two things. You can either give up and thus all your work so far was for nothing. OR you can pick yourself back up, go "hey, I messed up, but tomorrow is another day and I can get back on track".

The choice is yours and yours alone.
  30690295
October 12, 2012 12:43 AM
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Okay my love first things first...stop making excuses! You don't need an expensive gym pass or over priced 'healthy' foods. Walking for 60 minus a day at a pace that makes you breathless but you can still talk can burn up to and over 700 calories.

Gym memberships are over rated. Want to lift weights..get a couple cans of soup. Want to use the elliptical..go up and down two or the same steps for 15 minutes. Want a treadmill..go outside and walk.

As for the not being able to afford healthy foods..that is bull. I feed my family of three very healthy well balanced meals on a budget of $200 a month. It all comes down to wise spending. Instead of fresh veggies go with frozen..same for meats. Store brand is just as good as name brand but a whole lot cheaper.

If you can't afford a good bra, wrap them girls up tight in an ace bandage. Make yourself a workout jar. Each time you workout for at least an hour drop a dollar in it. If you do it every day for a month..get a good bra. Same for shoes.
Workout shoes don't have to be expensive but have to be comfortable.

Until you stop feeling sorry for yourself, and quit making excuses, this will be hard.

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October 12, 2012 1:55 AM
This happens to me nearly every weekend but on Monday I just dust myself off and get back on the wagon, as long as you have more good days then bad you'll lose, don't sweat it :D

Here's some tips though, I'm a bit of a forager when I get the emotional snacking on so try to rid your house of all junk! It's hard to stick to a diet when you know there's a party size bag of doritos in the pantry and a tub of full fat sour cream in the fridge.

Get some low fat hummus in and crunchy veg to dip and snack on, low cal ice lollies in the freezer when you get a sweet tooth and some low cal hot chocolate for when you need a choccy fix, if you're a big portion girl like me pad out all your meals with loads of salad and a low fat dressing, or some nice stir fried veggies depending on the meal.

You can do it!!!!
  22231677
October 12, 2012 2:00 AM
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This happens to me nearly every weekend but on Monday I just dust myself off and get back on the wagon, as long as you have more good days then bad you'll lose, don't sweat it :D

Here's some tips though, I'm a bit of a forager when I get the emotional snacking on so try to rid your house of all junk! It's hard to stick to a diet when you know there's a party size bag of doritos in the pantry and a tub of full fat sour cream in the fridge.

Get some low fat hummus in and crunchy veg to dip and snack on, low cal ice lollies in the freezer when you get a sweet tooth and some low cal hot chocolate for when you need a choccy fix, if you're a big portion girl like me pad out all your meals with loads of salad and a low fat dressing, or some nice stir fried veggies depending on the meal.

You can do it!!!!


Thanks! It's a new day now, it's 2am and I am over my self-pitying.
October 12, 2012 2:36 AM
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I should mention, it's feeling impossible because I can't AFFORD healthy food. I can't AFFORD a gym pass. All I can do walk, I can't run because I don't have a proper bra, which I need. I can't afford one. Don't even have runners. All the food I have is salty and bad...

I can't afford a gym pass either. For months, my main exercise was walking, and I lost loads of weight just doing that. You can start strength training with just your body weight - that's free. There are tons of free workouts on the internet that you can do at home - try youtube and bodyrock.tv for starters. Healthy food doesn't have to be more expensive, sometimes it just takes more planning and research to work out the best places to buy things from, and which veggies are in season etc.

I used to think I would never be thin or fit, until one day I decided to just do it. I'm not going to pretend it's always easy, but being overweight sure isn't easy either. Ultimately, it's your choice.
  15417651
October 12, 2012 2:40 AM
Very well said.
October 12, 2012 3:17 AM
i have lost 45 pounds before starting here on the website, but honestly 2 days is nothing, get your head back in the game!
it's for your own good, whatever your first motivation was, be it to look better or to simply feel healthier you have to go on. please! xD
October 12, 2012 4:08 AM
I'm currently unemployed... I feel the trick is preparation. Don't go to the supermarket, try out local markets and see what you can get. Make a basic mix of vegetables with onion and tomato, and put it in the fridge. Spice it differently every day! One day it can be pasta sauce, one day a curry, one day a ratatouille!

Think about what it is you want to invest in. I did recently get a gym pass at a local cheap leisure centre. It means I won't be able to buy any fun things or see my friends as much, but this is what's important to me right now. If not the gym (which is only one option after all) why not download the Couch to 5K programme? It's really great! And as people have said, a 60 minute walk at pace every day WILL make a difference.

As for bras, I feel you sister. At the moment I'm double layering bras, which adds a little bit of support. Sweaty and uncomfortable, but functional.

And everybody has off days. That's totally allowed. Just don't let the exception become the rule. You CAN do this. And we're all behind you! x


EDIT: Just seen you're already feeling better about this. Hope my words are helpful nonetheless! x
Edited by raethepain On October 12, 2012 4:12 AM
  7200417
October 12, 2012 4:21 AM
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I should mention, it's feeling impossible because I can't AFFORD healthy food. I can't AFFORD a gym pass. All I can do walk, I can't run because I don't have a proper bra, which I need. I can't afford one. Don't even have runners. All the food I have is salty and bad...


Then walk. Walk everywhere. Walk up and down stairs. When I lived in the UK I used to walk everywhere to save on bus fare and petrol. I also stayed thin. Then I moved to the Arabian Gulf where it's way too hot to walk anywhere, and got fat. Don't let anyone tell you walking is not good exercise, it is. Walking + portion control will get you thin. (and I got thin again with exercising indoors with the air conditioning on, e.g. exercise videos on you tube and weights and bodyweight exercises; plus eating what foods I can get, and where I was living until recently, western style foods were hard to get so I had to just go with what I could get locally that was healthy.)

Re salt, it doesn't make you fat. It's not good for you, but for now, just do one or two changes that you know you can stick to, and once you're in the habit of those, add more changes. So eat the food that you can afford, just eat less of it, i.e. stick to your MFP goal in terms of calories, even if the food is not the healthiest on the planet. Later, you can look at making healthy substitutions. If you have a farmers market near you, that may be a good way to get some fruit and veg on the cheap. Or it may not be. Or maybe you can buy direct from farms, I don't know, it depends where you live. But wherever you live there will be *some* way to get some kind of healthy food cheaper. So that's something to look into... but just for today, eat the food you have, but stay within your MFP calorie goal, that plus walking, will mean that the fat will start to burn off.

It's not all or nothing. Small sustainable changes are what's going to work in the long run, and if you can't make all the changes right away, just do what you can. Work with what you've got, you can make more changes as you go along and find out more ways to make healthy changes to your diet and what exercise you can do that's within your budget.

You can do this :)
  12093827
October 12, 2012 4:26 AM
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I should mention, it's feeling impossible because I can't AFFORD healthy food. I can't AFFORD a gym pass. All I can do walk, I can't run because I don't have a proper bra, which I need. I can't afford one. Don't even have runners. All the food I have is salty and bad...



I ate bad fo an entire week last month...and the whole month of June. I still made progress evertime I got back on the horse. Eating healthy isn't that expensive, my groceries don't cost anymore than they used to when I ate junk. If you need a bra go to Marshall's Bulington Coat Factory or Target they all have good sports bras. Your real problem is that you keep making excuses.
October 12, 2012 4:34 AM
You don't need to AFFORD anything. Walk girl, walk. Eat like a cow all you want, just DO NOT touch...chips, sodas, sugar, fat, take-out food. Produce is high, yes, but not skinless, boneless chicken ($2.79/#). Grill or bake the chicken and buy a bag of brown rice. Now those things you CAN do!!! smile
October 12, 2012 4:36 AM
Try not, do or do not....Yoda :)
  29172378
October 12, 2012 4:41 AM
Thin and fit are non synonymous. I will never be thin. I am healthy, strong, and in good shape. Thin is what I was in high school. I'll take the curvy, toned, with muscles and endurance, over thin any day.
October 12, 2012 4:45 AM
Open your diary so we can understand what the issue is.

Are you giving yourself a reasonable deficit?
Are you working out?

Or

Simply unmotivated?
  7369177
October 12, 2012 4:45 AM
Hey I do this a lot too, BUt I never give up. I started out tuesday went to the gym burned 600 calories and weight trained. I wanted to go yesterday and didnt today I should but my schedule is whack cause of my sons bday party satuirday. Monday I will go back to the gym and start over I DONT GIVE UP. I live with other people who try to eat healthy but it never works. I get sad I get mad I even punish by eating bad (which I am struggling to stop) This is my weight so far started 220....214.....223.....217......212......215......217.....I will catch this and keep it down. You are not alone. (eventhough I do feel alone and very mad) Just start over and keep moving. I gain weight when i exercise and dont lose inches but somehow my pants fit different. I am a human yo yo and I am getting dizzy too. I found it helpfuil to mantra gym gym I dont care what others want I AM GOING TO THE GYM
October 12, 2012 4:45 AM
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I should mention, it's feeling impossible because I can't AFFORD healthy food. I can't AFFORD a gym pass. All I can do walk, I can't run because I don't have a proper bra, which I need. I can't afford one. Don't even have runners. All the food I have is salty and bad...


It's a total myth that healthy food is more expensive. You just need to learn how to shop and cook. Tinned food is pound for pound way more expensive then non-tinned food. For veggies, get the no-name frozen ones, stuff like large carrots, onions, things like that. Make tomato sauces, but get the no salt added sauce and go easy on your pasta. If you can't afford whole wheat pasta, because it is way more expensive, get the white stuff just measure it carefully and have way more sauce then pasta. Frozen ground beef is cheap in a tube, it's super versatile, and just cook it and drain all the fat off if you can't afford the lean stuff. Shop the sales and cut coupons.

I've never had a gym membership in my life, you don't need a gym. Go to the local library and pick up some work-out dvd's. You can have them for 2 weeks, and if no one wants them after you, just renew them. Check out your local second hand store for runners. Loads of people give theres away when they want to up grade to a newer model and they have lots of wear left in them.
October 12, 2012 4:47 AM
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Try not, do or do not....Yoda :)
"Do or Do Not...........There is no try.- Yoda Sorry had to correct it my son is a star wars junkie lol
October 12, 2012 4:47 AM
Negativity breeds negativity... Always try to stay positive! You can do ANYTHING you set your mind to.
I also thought I would always be heavy... I am changing that! :)
  23094782
October 12, 2012 4:50 AM
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QUOTE:

Try not, do or do not....Yoda :)
"Do or Do Not...........There is no try.- Yoda Sorry had to correct it my son is a star wars junkie lol


I love this quote.
  27662467
October 12, 2012 5:00 AM
Value porridge oats in Tesco cost 75p for 1kg. That's 35 breakfasts, at 28g per serving. If you don't like porridge, use them to make your own muesli.

I always look in the reduced fruit and veg section, a bag of cheap stuff e.g.carrots are great to grate or chop and freeze.

I walk twice a day for forty minutes, around a park. It costs nothing and I can chat to folks if I wish. It's especially lovely in the mornings.

Plan your meals and shopping, if it isn't available at the price you want to pay, walk to another shop, burn those calories and buy it cheaper elsewhere. (Sometimes I have to return to the original shop, I don't mind, more calories burnt.) Fine if you have the time.

Plan a snack.

Aim for strong , fit and not overweight. Being thin isn't everything.

Move that hoover. Polish that mirror. Clean the house, it's amazing how many calories you can burn. Sing if it helps.

Have a lovely day.
  29348737
October 12, 2012 5:02 AM
Awesome advises!!

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