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October 13, 2012 9:38 PM
Just read some of your last comments. People are not trying to be mean they are trying to help you because im sure most of us have been their ourselves. I know I have and I recognize all the excuses...I made them first. Been there done that. People are trying to be supportive by showing you that you need to get real and honest with yourself. Honesty is the best support.
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October 13, 2012 9:53 PM
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Actually I've said thank you more than once. And this thread should be OVER. God dammit people are just being mean because they feel all high and mighty online.


i've actually just read through most of this. the incredibly vast majority of people were just being amazingly helpful. there are some great tips there! the one person who said they thought that you were attention seeking also had a viable opinion. his opinion isn't wrong just because it isn't the same as yours.
now, this is the interwebz. you put something out there that says 'i'm always going to be fat', to be fair i'd have expected A LOT more negative posts. this is a really positive response from MFPland. you may want to consider your wording and ask for support rather than just make a negative statement then follow it with a list of excuses- particularly as many people on this site have been at the beginning of this journey and found ways around their excuses.
and yes, some people do feel high and mighty online, but i suggest that you have a browse through the forums to see some of the responses that you could have got. i'd say you're lucky!
so, have you got back on the wagon, or aren't you ready to do this yet?
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October 14, 2012 5:15 AM
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Actually I've said thank you more than once. And this thread should be OVER. God dammit people are just being mean because they feel all high and mighty online.


Im probably twice your age. I assure you, I have many many reasons why its so damn hard to lose this weight. Lets see......Ive had a broken back a couple times resulting in mega amounts of time in a body cast or sorts followed by months and months of inactivity. Ive had a fractured neck.........I have several titanium pins, plates and screws. ....I have a fair amount of trouble breathing for reasons no one can quite explain. et al

BUT Ive managed to drop 60 pounds since July. Im not rich, I live on a budget like many others here. I work full time and love it. I also workout at HOME in the evenings with various weights of dumbbells. When I first started out I used cans of soup or whatever I could grip. I do a lot of it sitting in a chair because my back is so fu@ked up I cant stand for long.

Excuse? H!! ..that!! Ive used em all and look where I am...........here at MFP with a hundred pounds to lose. It aint easy but who said it would be and what gives you the right to expect that?

JUST
KEEP
MOVING

seriously.....stop over thinking or over dramatizing this......just do it
  26428378
October 14, 2012 7:53 PM
I've taken some foods listed here and added them to my grocery list. Thanks!
October 14, 2012 7:56 PM
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Ate like a cow today, second day in a row...Losing motivation.

I honestlyjmight just give up on the whole weight loss thing and admit I will be fat forever.


Cows eat pretty healthfully.

Good luck!
  8199411
October 14, 2012 7:57 PM
...your choice. No one is going to care in the long run, except yourself.
"If it's important, you'll find a way."
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October 14, 2012 7:58 PM
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You either want to do it, or you don't. You either will, or you won't. Whatever happens, it is YOUR decision and only you are responsible. Many have done it before you, so it IS possible.


True story. Don't ever give up. Yes, there will be slip ups...they happen and will keep happening. But you can't quit. Have more better days than bad and keep living your life to the best of your ability. Everything will fall into place.
October 14, 2012 7:59 PM
Trust me, you CAN do it. I've had my BAD days and I've had my good days. I lost 50ish pounds since August 2011. I NEVER thought it was possible, I always thought I was meant to be big. Here I am, a much smaller person, and able to maintain a healthy weight. I had a bad day today but I'm not going to let that hinder my hard work and continue maintaining. It takes time and patients, you can do this if you really want it.
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October 14, 2012 8:02 PM
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You either want to do it, or you don't. You either will, or you won't. Whatever happens, it is YOUR decision and only you are responsible. Many have done it before you, so it IS possible.

^THIS!
October 14, 2012 8:03 PM
I am doing it...I was just saying thanks for the grocery ideas haha.
October 14, 2012 8:03 PM
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Two days is a drop in the bucket of 365..... get back on it tomorrow! You can do it! It's the first day back that's the hardest, but you can do it. You're the only person standing in the way of what you want to accomplish! :)


Exactly. So what? You had an indulgent weekend. It was thinking like this that held me back for so long. You can do this!
October 14, 2012 8:04 PM
You lost 52 lbs....its ok to get off program once in awhile....you are way ahead of us. Now if you had only lost 5 lbs then ate out of control i could see you feeling that way....But 52 lbs!!!!
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October 14, 2012 8:04 PM
Here's something you might try. Lower your goal from the 52 lbs you have listed. Maybe start with 10. Not such a daunting number to look at. When you reach that goal...set a 10 lb goal again. Repeat til you get where you want to be.
October 14, 2012 8:06 PM
I've had a rough couple weeks lately too- so don't worry, one or two bad days won't be the end of you unless you let it! One day I just told myself I have to stop the behavior that's sending me in the wrong direction. I told myself I have to start getting back under my calorie goal and start going to the gym. And then, most importantly, I did it. I made myself go to the gym, only to find out I've gotten really out of shape. I got back under my calorie goal. And it's not as easy as sitting around and stuffing my face, but it's so worth it. I feel so much better when I'm working out regularly compared to how I've felt the last few weeks. I really liked how much better I had been feeling and even looking, and how much stronger I was. And I liked how proud i felt of myself when I stayed under goal. And I recognised how yucky I felt when I ate badly and stopped working out. It seems easier to let it all go because it is easier. But it's definitely not as rewarding and it's definitely not worth it. You're worth more than this!! All it takes is just to do it. Don't overthink it- just go to the gym, just go back to eating better. I find that the more I think about it, the easier it becomes to rationalize letting it all go. Just trust the program, trust the lifestyle change, and trust yourself!
  17595740
October 14, 2012 8:06 PM
Be strong! You can do it!!!
=)) Be strong and stun everyone~
learn from your mistakes ^^
October 14, 2012 8:07 PM
Dont ever give up dear! You are worth it so much! Hard days will come and go. Just remember that you are doing amazing!!!! Postive thinking! :)
October 14, 2012 8:11 PM
Everyone has bad days. Saying "oh no, I pigged out I may as well stop trying" is the equivalent to dropping your mobile phone on the ground, saying "oh well" and smashing it until it breaks.

If you really want this, you have to commit to it for the long term. And yes, there will be days when you cheat, and there will be things like birthdays and weddings and life events where you may eat a bad thing or two. I like to call those "real life choices" because even when you reach your goal, you are still going to be faced with the task of maintaining your weight!

Think of this as a life style and not just a diet and you will get there. It all depends on your attitude.
October 14, 2012 8:13 PM
Everyone has bad days. Saying "oh no, I pigged out I may as well stop trying" is the equivalent to dropping your mobile phone on the ground, saying "oh well" and smashing it until it breaks.

Haha love that visual.
October 14, 2012 10:12 PM
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Here's something you might try. Lower your goal from the 52 lbs you have listed. Maybe start with 10. Not such a daunting number to look at. When you reach that goal...set a 10 lb goal again. Repeat til you get where you want to be.


THIS! That's what I'm doing right now. I'm setting little goals so it's not so overwhelming to me.
  30690295
October 15, 2012 1:37 AM
"If you're walking down the steps and trip...do you figure awww what the hell and throw yourself down the rest of the steps"........or do you just become more careful and more vigilant??
  26428378
October 15, 2012 1:51 AM
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"If you're walking down the steps and trip...do you figure awww what the hell and throw yourself down the rest of the steps"........or do you just become more careful and more vigilant??
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lmao, this made me laugh.
Edited by FutureMrsWarby On October 15, 2012 1:51 AM
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October 15, 2012 2:10 AM
losing weight is not a target.
it is vague.
stop being vague.

Getting in shape is like saving up for something. You can do it, there will be set backs, but overall you'll get there.
Don't start saving for a super yacht, start saving for a row boat!
Then work up, this is lifestyle, not a one off.

Write down what you want, why you want it, when you can get it and how you'll do it.

This isn't for you, this is an example, make your own, do what you want with this. Put weight training in (you can make a sandbag very cheaply, it's any weight you want it to be).

Bad Statement:
I want to lose weight because I feel fat

Good Statement:
I want to lose 6lbs of fat, 2" off my arms, 4" off my waist, 1" off my legs.
I wish to do this to improve my self esteem and fitness.
I will start today & complete this by the 1st December 2012!
I will exercise with the following timetable:-
Mon - @ 6am I will run for 20 minutes as fast as I can at the local park
Tue - @ 8pm, I will do 100 burpees at home as quickly as I can
Wed - @ 7pm I will use my old skipping rope on the grass for 20 minutes
Thu - @ 6:30pm train with my local boot camp
Fri - rest day (no exercise, but I will use the internet to research new ways to exercise)
Sat - @ run stop/start for 45 minutes
Sun - @9am I will use an exercise DVD at home

I will control my calorie input through the week:-
I will eat all my calories through the week including my exercise calories.
I will not go over my allowance, if I do, I will not let it stress me, it will not stop my progress.
I will remove as much processed food from my diet over this period.
I will remove grains from my diet and replace them with vegetables.
One day a week is my blow-out day, I may eat what I want on this day, there are no calorie restrictions.

At the end of this 6 week period, I will reassess my needs and build a NEW plan.

I hope I've helped, but at the end of the day, it is up to you to own your body :)
good luck
October 15, 2012 2:20 AM
The longer you diet for the more self-control you'll get. I love junk food i could eat it every single day and i used to eat junk food like 6 days aweek although i was always on the move so i did'nt gain weight that fast, but now i've been eating healthy for awhile i have become a better eating and am starting to control myself. You dont need alot of money to lose weight because you dont need diet suppliments or speacial branded diet snacks, you just need fruit , veg and a healthy eating plan. In terms of gym, i know some people who workout at home and have got amazing results. Home workouts are free and you dont need any equipment. Do cardio moves such as: jumping jacks, jogging, mountain climbers, burpees.

Healthy eating is about making better choices not about how much money you have. Become like a diet jedi and control the ways of your eating. :) Goodluck!
October 15, 2012 2:48 AM
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I should mention, it's feeling impossible because I can't AFFORD healthy food. I can't AFFORD a gym pass. All I can do walk, I can't run because I don't have a proper bra, which I need. I can't afford one. Don't even have runners. All the food I have is salty and bad...


I'm supporting 3 adults on a government pension while trying to pay every bill & rates (we own the house outright) as well as put my son through school. I can't afford NOT to eat healthy. I eat chicken thighs...have done since day 1 of this.... not breasts cause they cost 2 much. I have onions, tomatoes, garlic & capsicum as my main foods....every day. Every single day 2 meals a day. For 8 months.

I afford 3 pairs of runners a month because I go through that many.... they cost me $20 each... nothing fancy... they do the job for my running. I get all my workouts from youtube & shop for my gym equipment on ebay...even if it takes 2 months to get here. I have 6 sports bras.... only cause my last ones died.... plus they were bigger than I was. They last AGES even with my workouts.

You can't afford healthy or gym...... nor can I...but scrap the gym...you dont NEED it. Cook in a budget.... eat the same thing every day if you have to..... but don't ever make the excuse that it costs so much..... I get $500 every 2 weeks for 3 adults to survive on....


BTW I should mention that I am doing all this with a back injury that has had me out of work for 3 years & made it so I cant ever work again in a manual job... the kind I love. Excuses are for the weak.
Edited by pinkraynedropjacki On October 15, 2012 2:52 AM
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October 15, 2012 3:04 AM
If you decide to give up, then that's on you, and if you do give up - then you'll be right - you'll never be thin or fit. Your ticker say 27 lbs to go, which indicates (to me) that your goal was 30ish to lose. That's not all that much; there are people on here who have lost hundreds of lbs. If they can do this, so can you. (If any of us can do this, so can you.)

I suggest ditching the negatives (can't, don't, never) and start focusing on the positives; like you are ABLE to walk. Walking is a terrific form of exercise. There are plenty of other types of exercises you can do for yourself without gym equipment. You apparently have internet, start searching for ideas.

Also, if I were you, I'd change your ticker to lbs lost instead of lbs to go. Yours gives you a seemingly overwhelming number to face daily. By seeing lbs lost each day, you can celebrate your success.

You won't reach your goal overnight; that's not what it's about here, but if you quit - you'll not reach your goal either - right? What harm is it doing you to stick with it? wink

I hope you get your thoughts turned around and realize you are worth the effort. Peace. flowerforyou
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