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October 8, 2012 10:58 AM
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October 8, 2012 11:01 AM
I knew you'd do it, Marla. wink
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October 8, 2012 11:10 AM
The devil made me do it. wink
October 8, 2012 11:19 AM
And now you're channeling Flip Wilson. laugh
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October 8, 2012 11:22 AM
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October 8, 2012 11:29 AM
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And now you're channeling Flip Wilson. laugh


I'm very versatile.
October 8, 2012 12:56 PM
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October 8, 2012 1:00 PM
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October 8, 2012 2:01 PM
This team is AMAZING, as so many have already said! Love the support, the positive comments, and the kicks in the pants when needed! Thank you for the encouragement to not get too down on myself about the time. I'm still second guessing and kicking myself, but I am happy and proud I completed. Donna, you are absolutely correct about the labor analogy. I've been saying that too. bigsmile My NEXT marathon will not be all incline and hills into the wind for the last 6 miles though....if there is a next laugh I am not going to say never, though. When I walked in the mornings with good friends, I said I would NEVER be a runner. When I started running and some friends did Dam to Dam (20K) I swore I would NEVER do that! I always said I would NEVER do a marathon...well, you know how that ends.

I feel pretty good today. I am a bit sore in the quads, but nothing too bad. I took ibuprofen this morning and again at noon. I'm not overly tired.

Jeannine: Wish you weren't so far away...I would LOVE to do the Color Run with you. (Or Color Me Rad, can't remember which). there was one here this weekend. If it hadn't been marathon weekend, I would have done it. I think it just looks like silly fun! And as long as you are moving, who cares if it is a run/walk/wog?!?!

Hope Andrea's hand continues to improve.

How did Aaron's appointments go?

Hi Dewey!

Kati, I thought of you when I went to the chiro over my lunch hour. Both doctor's in the practice are graduates of Palmer. Did you know Dr. Brian moved to Texas? Anyone, figured 26.2 miles of pounding on concrete might need a bit of straightening out. I was right!

Off to Anna's last volleyball game!
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October 8, 2012 4:00 PM
QUOTE:

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And now you're channeling Flip Wilson. laugh


I'm very versatile.


da booth in da back in the conah in da darksmokin
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October 8, 2012 4:44 PM
flowerforyou Thanks Marla
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October 8, 2012 5:09 PM
I'm a little bit brokenheart today. Andrea was let go from her job. Her boss was in tears and said it was the hardest conversation she's ever had with an employee. They all love her and are very sad to say goodbye. The bottom line is safety. Andrea was not physically strong enough to restrain the one dog. Her boss repeated over and over that it wasn't her fault, but that safety has to take priority over everything else — safety of the animals and safety of the people. My daughter has grown so much during these two short months, and even though she is crushed that it is ending so soon, she is thankful for having had the experience. She realizes she has grown a lot too. This just sucks. She really loved this job, and she really had come such a long way. I've been cautiously optimistic that it would keep working out really well, but I never pictured a scenario like this. On the bright side, she is handling it extremely well. I couldn't be more proud of her. heart heart heart
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October 8, 2012 6:07 PM
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October 8, 2012 6:14 PM
Jill -- wow....that was totally the last thing I expected to hear. That truly sucks. I'm so sorry to hear that. Please give Andrea a hug from the crazy lady in Jersey. Everything happens for a reason.....fingers crossed she rolls with these punches.

Speaking of punches....Aaron got another one today....figuratively speaking. We'd canceled last week's oral surgeon's appointment, because it was his first day back to school....and by 10:45 he was exhausted. I'd brought him home, and he passed out. He begged off the 2pm appointment. Fair enough.

So, he went today. First time anybody has ever LOOKED at his mouth/jaw since his fall. The arrogant shmuck in the hospital looked at a CT scan another hospital had taken and made his diagnosis and treatment.....soft diet for four weeks. Now having said that....Aaron hasn't adhered to that. He has been chewing here and there, and his jaw has been very sore....so off we went for today's appointment.

Bottom line-- his bite is off by nearly a tooth....meaning, when he bites down, his front teeth don't meet with the bottom front teeth....the bottom is pushed to the right by nearly a tooth. Oral surgeon is at same office as orthodontist. So, she compared current bite to Aaron's bite from the pictures pre-orthodontic treatment..... sooo....against Aaron's wishes, we approved her recommendation .... Aligning his bite up, and wiring his jaw together so it heals in place-- a no-brainer. Significant pain as they did this, obviously-- and he's uncomfortable now.

He's pouting....won't talk to me. Hey.... It is what it is, my son.... YOU don't call the shots-- sorry. One day you'll realize why they call parenting the most difficult job on the planet.

Soooo........ Since the issue with Sarah first began, I got into a routine-- every morning, without fail, I check my e-mail first thing-- hoping against hope I'll hear from her. Yesterday, I had things to do....didn't get around to checking e-mail until noonish. I finally realized, "Hey, I didn't check my e-mail yet..." Then I all but chided myself for the folly.....how silly to keep up this pattern. But then, the thought came to me...."You never know, today could be the day...."

I open up my e-mail.....and go figure....there's an e-mail from my daughter.

She begins with these two sentences: I wanted to email you and tell you that Jordan and I have set a date for the wedding. And I wanted to tell you that I can't express how much it would mean to me if both of you, as well as the whole family, would be a part of the wedding day.

Ummmm.....huh

She then goes on to plead for our acceptance of Skype Boy, telling us what a Godly husband and father he will be, and extols his work ethic....and praises him thus: About a year ago, he started working at Target and after a few months, he was named employee of the month for the whole store. And then went on to say that two weeks ago he was promoted to full-time....and has now doubled his income....

Ummmm.... huh noway

Long story short....... Either my daughter is unstable, or someone other than her wrote this letter.... It is unbelievable.

In any event.... It rather shook Keith and I a bit....obviously.....we replied to her separately. I'll leave it to your imagination, knowing us as you do, as to how we addressed her. I was brief and courteous. Keith was less brief, less courteous-- ha. Seriously, he said things he needed to say to her.... he wasn't hostile, necessarily-- he was to the point, and addressed things of importance......both of us told her she was nuts to think we'd ever consider sanctioning this union. We haven't heard from her since......

We are hopeful that as the big day approaches, she'll reconsider. I think the fact that she reached out to us at all is a good sign...shows an emotional c-h-i-n-k in her armor. She expressed her love for the family, and that she misses us....and that she wants her dad to walk her down the aisle. She expressed her regret for some of her behavior this past year, and for not being thankful for all we did, blah, blah, blah-- a rather hodge podge of an e-mail...... All boiling down to the point that she doesn't want to get married without her family present. We all have choices in life....choose wisely.

Again......Aaron's problems are REAL problems. This young lady made her bed..... I have no patience for her right now. I spent a year of my life mourning..... I'm done. I have kids with real problems.

Oh well-- need to scoot--
Edited by Marla64 On October 8, 2012 6:25 PM
October 9, 2012 5:23 AM
Just popped in to tag for my topics, but there's some stuff I actually want to comment on so I'll be back in a bit. Wow, this is heavy today!
October 9, 2012 6:05 AM
Marla, Andrea says thank you. flowerforyou She wanted to know how Aaron was doing. She asked me to tell you she thinks it sucks he had to have his jaw wired, but she agrees it's for the best (like you needed her seal of approval, LOL). Anyway, she wanted to know how long it will be wired. We both hope it won't be for too long and wish him a speedy healing and recovery. He sure has been through more than enough lately. I hope he's stopped pouting. I'm sure he knows deep down that Mom is right. It's no wonder he's angry with the situation. It sucks that he's taking it out on you. Keep breathing. heart

And that email from Sarah. Whew, that's really heavy stuff. I know that you and Keith hope that she reconsiders. I don't know how likely that is, but what stands out to me is that she loves you both very much, and she misses her family. brokenheart It is my hope for all of you that you are able to heal the wounds of the past and find a way to be in each other's lives again. heart heart heart

And now for something a little bit lighter. Hopefully that will be me! tongue My my planned active recovery week (that ended up being ridiculously inactive) came to an end yesterday. Today, I will sweat, and I will eat right, and I WILL whip this old bod back into the shape that I know it wants to be in. The scale has already started cooperating, which is a bit puzzling. It must know I needed that little bit of encouragement. Whatever the reason, I'll take the little head start. Here I go! bigsmile

Love you all lots and lots. Each day is a gift. I shall not waste the gift that this day is.
Edited by PJilly On October 9, 2012 6:06 AM
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October 9, 2012 6:15 AM
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I'm a little bit brokenheart today. Andrea was let go from her job. Her boss was in tears and said it was the hardest conversation she's ever had with an employee. They all love her and are very sad to say goodbye. The bottom line is safety. Andrea was not physically strong enough to restrain the one dog. Her boss repeated over and over that it wasn't her fault, but that safety has to take priority over everything else — safety of the animals and safety of the people. My daughter has grown so much during these two short months, and even though she is crushed that it is ending so soon, she is thankful for having had the experience. She realizes she has grown a lot too. This just sucks. She really loved this job, and she really had come such a long way. I've been cautiously optimistic that it would keep working out really well, but I never pictured a scenario like this. On the bright side, she is handling it extremely well. I couldn't be more proud of her. heart heart heart


Oh, I'm sorry to hear this. But, of all the ways to be let go, this sounds like one of the best. Now she's seen how she can make a difference. What was it she liked about the job? Could she use that to help direct her search for a new job? My sister is a receptionist at a veterinarian clinic - I think all she does is do the client intake - the techs handle the animals. Hers is more of a people interface and computer work job but she loves animals and is a great initial advisor to the pet owners. Is that the sort of work that Andrea would enjoy?

Good luck to Andrea!

Jeanne
October 9, 2012 6:19 AM
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And that email from Sarah. Whew, that's really heavy stuff. I know that you and Keith hope that she reconsiders. I don't know how likely that is, but what stands out to me is that she loves you both very much, and she misses her family. It is my hope for all of you that you are able to heal the wounds of the past and find a way to be in each other's lives again.


Me too on what Jill said.

Jeanne
Edited by JeanneTops On October 9, 2012 6:19 AM
October 9, 2012 6:27 AM
Jeanne, Andrea loves animals. Always has, always will. But I think what was most special to her about this job was the people. She felt like they accepted her just the way she is, which is something she has always struggled with. It was a special combination of the job itself and the environment. Her personal growth has been nothing short of amazing, so while I am devastated for her that it's over, I am so thankful that it was a part of her life, even for a short amount of time. Her boss let her know she was welcome and even encouraged her to come in and volunteer. I asked how she ceases to be a safety risk just because they're not paying her. huh But Andrea explained that it's because there would be two employees on duty as well. Makes sense. That girl is smarter than her mama sometimes. I got a very nice Facebook message last night from her boss. Former boss, I guess. She truly is heartbroken as well. I can understand why this was such a special place for my girl. Anyway, one positive that I hope comes of this is that Andrea will start working on her physical fitness/health. She told me yesterday she wants to start working out. I'd love to see her do this because it will be good for her regardless of her future employment. I know she is hoping she can earn her job back by getting stronger and by volunteering. Here's where my thing about balance comes into play. I want to encourage her to keep this positive attitude and to actually work to get what she wants, but I also want her to be realistic about whether she can actually get THIS back again. I'm not saying she can't, but I don't want her to set herself up for disappointment if it doesn't happen. This is the part about parenting that I struggle with the most. When my babies were little, I could swoop in and take care of every little thing for them. Now I have to cheer them on to take care of themselves without being too hands on.
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October 9, 2012 6:28 AM
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This team is AMAZING, as so many have already said! Love the support, the positive comments, and the kicks in the pants when needed! Thank you for the encouragement to not get too down on myself about the time. I'm still second guessing and kicking myself, but I am happy and proud I completed. Donna, you are absolutely correct about the labor analogy. I've been saying that too. My NEXT marathon will not be all incline and hills into the wind for the last 6 miles though....if there is a next I am not going to say never, though. When I walked in the mornings with good friends, I said I would NEVER be a runner. When I started running and some friends did Dam to Dam (20K) I swore I would NEVER do that! I always said I would NEVER do a marathon...well, you know how that ends.

I feel pretty good today. I am a bit sore in the quads, but nothing too bad. I took ibuprofen this morning and again at noon. I'm not overly tired.

Jeannine: Wish you weren't so far away...I would LOVE to do the Color Run with you. (Or Color Me Rad, can't remember which). there was one here this weekend. If it hadn't been marathon weekend, I would have done it. I think it just looks like silly fun! And as long as you are moving, who cares if it is a run/walk/wog?!?!


When we finally win the lottery and have the BT reunion - let's do a Color Run! Only, I'll be falling down from laughing too much!

Kaylynne - yesterday I ran my longest ever - in time and distance. You were my inspiration the whole way. I'm really fighting not setting up a marathon as a goal but I'm not going to say never!

Jeanne
October 9, 2012 6:38 AM
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Jeanne, Andrea loves animals. Always has, always will. But I think what was most special to her about this job was the people. She felt like they accepted her just the way she is, which is something she has always struggled with. It was a special combination of the job itself and the environment. Her personal growth has been nothing short of amazing, so while I am devastated for her that it's over, I am so thankful that it was a part of her life, even for a short amount of time. Her boss let her know she was welcome and even encouraged her to come in and volunteer. I asked how she ceases to be a safety risk just because they're not paying her. huh But Andrea explained that it's because there would be two employees on duty as well. Makes sense. That girl is smarter than her mama sometimes. I got a very nice Facebook message last night from her boss. Former boss, I guess. She truly is heartbroken as well. I can understand why this was such a special place for my girl. Anyway, one positive that I hope comes of this is that Andrea will start working on her physical fitness/health. She told me yesterday she wants to start working out. I'd love to see her do this because it will be good for her regardless of her future employment. I know she is hoping she can earn her job back by getting stronger and by volunteering. Here's where my thing about balance comes into play. I want to encourage her to keep this positive attitude and to actually work to get what she wants, but I also want her to be realistic about whether she can actually get THIS back again. I'm not saying she can't, but I don't want her to set herself up for disappointment if it doesn't happen. This is the part about parenting that I struggle with the most. When my babies were little, I could swoop in and take care of every little thing for them. Now I have to cheer them on to take care of themselves without being too hands on.


If she uses the hope of getting her job back as a motivation to get into shape, that will help. If she does the volunteering, then she's up and about and continuing to grow, instead of sleeping all the time. And, if she stays in touch with that wonderful (former) boss, then who knows? Maybe a different job at the clinic, maybe the boss will mentor Andrea and help her find something somewhere else. Yeah, she could be setting herself up for disappointment but if she continues to grow, her self-esteem and her horizons will grow as well.

I know what you mean, though. I could live my kids' life for them so much better than I lived my own laugh heart

Jeanne
October 9, 2012 6:39 AM
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And that email from Sarah. Whew, that's really heavy stuff. I know that you and Keith hope that she reconsiders. I don't know how likely that is, but what stands out to me is that she loves you both very much, and she misses her family. It is my hope for all of you that you are able to heal the wounds of the past and find a way to be in each other's lives again.


Me too on what Jill said.

Jeanne


Well, this is specifically what I wanted to comment on...and precisely what I was going to say....so I'll just say 'Me three!' heart

ETA: Jill, get out of my head, please and thank you. laugh
Edited by SatelliteCrush80 On October 9, 2012 6:44 AM
October 9, 2012 6:49 AM
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And that email from Sarah. Whew, that's really heavy stuff. I know that you and Keith hope that she reconsiders. I don't know how likely that is, but what stands out to me is that she loves you both very much, and she misses her family. It is my hope for all of you that you are able to heal the wounds of the past and find a way to be in each other's lives again.


Me too on what Jill said.

Jeanne


Well, this is specifically what I wanted to comment on...and precisely what I was going to say....so I'll just say 'Me three!' heart

ETA: Jill, get out of my head, please and thank you. laugh


Me four.

And Jill-- tell Andrea, I agree....it sucks....and it had to be done. He'll be in them 2 - 3 weeks.... Weekly checkups until then.

Doctor really went back and forth....he needs nutrition. She didn't like how pale he was. And then hearing of his anemia, she really hemmed and hawed....but she decided on healing the bite. I got him a bunch of milkshake stuff....and liquid iron supplements.

On top of all that.....he has a cold. Really hoping it stays out of his chest.....

He stayed home today.... Feels awful. And I know he's bummed. I feel horrible for him..... Really hoping he accepts it better today, and slurps down some shakes, et cetera. I bought him a gallon of chocolate milk, too-- he needs calories, carbs, protein.....

Oh well-- boring typing today....can't stay awake....need to go finish.

Later.
October 9, 2012 7:12 AM
For anybody who's wondering what my friend Gretchen (the one who had the prophylactic mastectomy) has been up to:

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OK everyone, I need your help! :) My Previvor Sisters and I made a video. We swallowed our pride and danced Gangnam Style. The reason we did it was to hopefully get it to go at least semi viral so that we can raise awareness about Previvors.

We are desperately hoping that we will catch the attention of The Ellen Show, Katie, or any other talk show that would give us a platform to talk about our stories.

So here is what I am asking......

#1. Please go watch our video. :) Trust me, it will make your day!
#2. Please send a note to The Ellen Show with the link to our video
(http://www.ellentv.com/be-on-the-show/685/)

Hope you enjoy our silliness! PASS IT ON!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e8gW7w3oD9M&feature=youtu.be
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October 9, 2012 7:23 AM
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And that email from Sarah. Whew, that's really heavy stuff. I know that you and Keith hope that she reconsiders. I don't know how likely that is, but what stands out to me is that she loves you both very much, and she misses her family. It is my hope for all of you that you are able to heal the wounds of the past and find a way to be in each other's lives again.


Me too on what Jill said.

Jeanne


Well, this is specifically what I wanted to comment on...and precisely what I was going to say....so I'll just say 'Me three!' heart

ETA: Jill, get out of my head, please and thank you. laugh


Me four.

And Jill-- tell Andrea, I agree....it sucks....and it had to be done. He'll be in them 2 - 3 weeks.... Weekly checkups until then.

Doctor really went back and forth....he needs nutrition. She didn't like how pale he was. And then hearing of his anemia, she really hemmed and hawed....but she decided on healing the bite. I got him a bunch of milkshake stuff....and liquid iron supplements.

On top of all that.....he has a cold. Really hoping it stays out of his chest.....

He stayed home today.... Feels awful. And I know he's bummed. I feel horrible for him..... Really hoping he accepts it better today, and slurps down some shakes, et cetera. I bought him a gallon of chocolate milk, too-- he needs calories, carbs, protein.....

Oh well-- boring typing today....can't stay awake....need to go finish.

Later.


ditto. I can't keep up with you guys! Will someone please win the lottery? That is all!
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