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October 4, 2012 3:41 PM
To the men who open the doors when a lady is behind or in front of you.

Why?

What prompts you to open a door for a woman?

My reasoning for asking is simple. I have never been in a situation where there was a man immediately before or behind me where I've actually had to touch the door myself. They always, always, always open the door for me. I'm so used to it I've never noticed it.

However, a coworker of mine has been complaining that she has never met a man in this town who will open the door for her!

So what's the difference? Why are guys ignoring her and tripping over themselves to open doors for me?

It can't be appearance because she dresses better, she's skinnier and she's prettier (not being modest, this is just facts). So it's not as if I'm getting special treatment because of appearance. So what else could it be?

What is this elusive thing that will make you open the door for one woman and ignore the next? Please discuss and enlighten me. :D Thank you.
  10697651
October 4, 2012 3:54 PM
I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.

It's called manners and the result of good parenting.
October 4, 2012 3:59 PM
It is a conditioned response passed down from father to sun. I guess it starts with hold the door for your monther. This then evolves to we on in general. It is now reflex.
October 4, 2012 4:00 PM
QUOTE:

I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.

It's called manners and the result of good parenting.
I second that
  9190056
October 4, 2012 4:01 PM
So she's saying they just let the door go in her face? Sounds like most women I encounter when walking into or out of a business. noway

FTR- I hold the door for anyone within a few steps of reaching it. I consider it rude to let it go when they are about to reach it.
October 4, 2012 4:01 PM
QUOTE:

I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.

It's called manners and the result of good parenting.


Said, better than I could
October 4, 2012 4:02 PM
i get the door held open for me occasionally, not as often as it should be. where are the gentlemen??
  11396845
October 4, 2012 4:02 PM
I open the door for everyone who is within a few feet of me when I go inside somewhere.
October 4, 2012 4:03 PM
well i always ALWAYS open the door for women or for men!!!

When you are raised properly by your parents you will have respect for other people. So if you have the chance no matter male or female OPEN THE DOOR FOR THEM!!!!
October 4, 2012 4:04 PM
Respect and courtesy. I think that it is a woman that LETS me open the door for her. Not me just doing it. If I didn't then my mom could pop out from hiding and smack me!!
October 4, 2012 4:05 PM
QUOTE:

I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.
QUOTE:




I've always done that...just trying to be nice and I know it is appreciated...Courtesy goes a long ways.
Edited by LCSoulkat On October 4, 2012 4:06 PM
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October 4, 2012 4:05 PM
I open the door for anyone who happens to be near me - male, female or small pets.... To me it is just common courtesy and social decency
October 4, 2012 4:06 PM
i do it cause my momma taught me to do it.
October 4, 2012 4:06 PM
I'm a woman, and I hold doors open for whoever's behind me. So do my daughters. (Ok, they have been known to shove each other out of the way to hold the door open for strangers, but one manner at a time, I guess.) It's just polite.

My guess? You don't have an expectation that men MUST hold the door open, so you notice it when they do and the once or twice they don't doesn't register. She believes that all doors must swing by male arms only, and so the outrage gland starts working when they don't. (And we all listen to our outrage gland more than any other organ. True fact.)
October 4, 2012 4:07 PM
Don't even have to think about it. Been doing it all my life. Will even hold it longer certain places like my apt. building if I see the person behind me has their hands full carrying kids/groceries/laundry/etc...
  27653663
October 4, 2012 4:09 PM
QUOTE:

I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.

It's called manners and the result of good parenting.



^^^This
October 4, 2012 4:10 PM
Personally I think it has to do with respecting your significant other. My guy always opens any door for me, car, house, business. I feel special and he loves doing it. It was really hard to get used to tho. Most guys I dated prior just walked ahead of me and entered the building. Hm. Looking back maybe it was that they had big egos. Anyway, I love my guy for treating me this way and more men need to open doors for women!
  27328365
October 4, 2012 4:12 PM
QUOTE:

QUOTE:

I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.

It's called manners and the result of good parenting.



^^^This


^^^^ this for me too
October 4, 2012 4:12 PM
I was brought up that way. Not just to open the door for a woman. But if you are there first you open the door and hold it for all the others behind you. As a kid if I was seen not opening the door for someone I would get my rear end busted good to remind me to do it right the next time.
October 4, 2012 4:13 PM
I and most people here, open door for others! I find not to do pretty rude.
October 4, 2012 4:13 PM
I do it all the time as well... although one time a feminazi wouldn't walk through the door. (awkward) Now if I get that vibe, I won't hold it.
  19210101
October 4, 2012 4:14 PM
Yup.... always felt that whatever the climate (PC/weather/mood/whatever), it is something I can do for others that costs me nothing. If it makes someone's life easier/better/day, that is just icing on the cake.

I wonder if your friend just notices those who don't while not recognizing those who do.... you know. So many of us forget all the good things in a day and dwell on the 'not so good'?
  25234146
October 4, 2012 4:15 PM
QUOTE:

QUOTE:

I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.

It's called manners and the result of good parenting.
I second that


^^ yep, this.
October 4, 2012 4:16 PM
Ah, the fine art of door-opening. Seriously, I don't know how some guys do it. I, of course, hold the door for anyone within a reasonable distance -- it's only polite. But those gentlemen that manage to walk along side a woman, yet always manouver themselves to reach the door first without any awkward shuffling...I love that. Unless, of course, it's only until we start dating. Start as you mean to carry on, I say!

This can get funny-awkward at work, though. In the military, who holds the door and who goes first is based on rank precedence, not gender. But some men have a really hard time with that, so are always getting the door for junior-ranking women, which usually results in an awkward shuffle as each is trying to manouver themselves to do what they think is right.
October 4, 2012 4:16 PM
QUOTE:

I do this on a regular basis and it makes no difference if it's a lady or a man. If I'm coming out of a building or approaching a door I allways hold the door, or open it and wait if someone else is going that way.

It's called manners and the result of good parenting.


This.

QUOTE:

It is a conditioned response passed down from father to sun. I guess it starts with hold the door for your monther. This then evolves to we on in general. It is now reflex.


And this.

If its a guy, I'll hold it open for him as I'm walking through.

If its an elderly lady or man, I'll hold it open and wait for them to pass through first.

If its a young, capable woman/girl, it depends on her comportment.

Attractiveness has far less weight than demeanor in this particular scenario.

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