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TOPIC: MAYBE I AM THE PROBLEM |
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Joined Mar 2012 Posts: 921 |
September 18, 2012 11:45 am
I have been in three serious relationships that always seem to go the same way no matter how different or great the person seems at first they always turn out to be someone completely different. I fight and fight and fight to get that person back I fell in love with fighting til the very end . I feel like it is them being dishonest to me. Why would they be wonderful and everything I ever wanted in the beginning and a year or two down the road when I am completely in love with them they change into the meanest nastiest person..... What could I be doing wrong
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Joined Aug 2012 Posts: 1,562 |
September 18, 2012 11:45 am
QUOTE: What could I be doing wrong You're picking the same man. 3 times over. 
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Joined Feb 2012 Posts: 7,443 |
September 18, 2012 11:46 am
Because they get used to you, you need to spice it up a bit.
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Joined Jun 2011 Posts: 6,339 |
September 18, 2012 11:47 am
You should take up shake weights and underwater basket weaving... stat.
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Joined Feb 2012 Posts: 311 |
September 18, 2012 11:48 am
Date women, they are much easier to deal with than men :P
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Joined May 2012 Posts: 3,475 |
September 18, 2012 11:49 am
Haven't you posted several threads on this last relationship?
You are likely as previously said, picking the same kind of gentlemen. So change who you look for. Or don't look for a while. Go to therapy and maybe get to the root of why you pick Mr. Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. A-hole. |
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Joined Jan 2012 Posts: 324 |
September 18, 2012 11:49 am
Personally, I began to try to work through my own issues (the ones I swore I didn't have) with a therapist because every relationship was turning out the same because I was creating the circumstances to allow it. All without knowing it and mainly because I wasn't happy with myself, even though I would lie and say I was.
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Joined Mar 2012 Posts: 482 |
September 18, 2012 11:51 am
Yep. It's you.
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Joined Aug 2007 Posts: 15,626 |
September 18, 2012 11:51 am
Or maybe it IS them.
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Joined Jun 2011 Posts: 6,339 |
September 18, 2012 11:52 am
or maybe it's raspberry ketones.
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Joined May 2012 Posts: 380 |
September 18, 2012 11:52 am
MustBeTheRows Is just one man.
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Joined May 2011 Posts: 2,128 |
September 18, 2012 11:53 am
QUOTE: Date women, they are much easier to deal with than men :P WTF!?!? 
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Joined Feb 2011 Posts: 9,287 |
September 18, 2012 11:57 am
You are expecting people to remain the same always. That is not human nature, baby, I'm sorry. Humans by nature evolve to adapt to constantly changing surroundings. If you fight to make a person stay the same always, they will resent you and feel that they can never live up to your standards to always be the person they met at first.
Simply falling in love changes you. Date someone for sixth months, you fall in love, you are already both different and different triggers are going to cause different reactions and personality changes. If you fight to the very end to make someone stay who they were in the beginning, then you are fighting against growing together. If you are not both growing,.... then one of you is left behind and confused and thinks they've been abandoned- when all they did was try to stay the same. 
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Joined Jul 2010 Posts: 3,456 |
September 18, 2012 11:57 am
You are a woman so of COURSE you are the problem.
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Joined Apr 2012 Posts: 3,052 |
September 18, 2012 11:58 am
Your the girl that is left at his parents. While he is at the bar?
Girl call me. We can fix this for you. 
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Joined Feb 2010 Posts: 2,245 |
September 18, 2012 11:58 am
it probably is you
and yoovie you are very pretty......OOPS wrong thread never mind the Hey yall creeper reference \m/
Edited by jackpotclown On September 18, 2012 11:59 am
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Joined Aug 2012 Posts: 184 |
September 18, 2012 12:04 pm
QUOTE: You are expecting people to remain the same always. That is not human nature, baby, I'm sorry. Humans by nature evolve to adapt to constantly changing surroundings. If you fight to make a person stay the same always, they will resent you and feel that they can never live up to your standards to always be the person they met at first. Simply falling in love changes you. Date someone for sixth months, you fall in love, you are already both different and different triggers are going to cause different reactions and personality changes. If you fight to the very end to make someone stay who they were in the beginning, then you are fighting against growing together. If you are not both growing,.... then one of you is left behind and confused and thinks they've been abandoned- when all they did was try to stay the same. ^^ nicely said 
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Joined Apr 2012 Posts: 74 |
September 18, 2012 12:05 pm
People in general play the same game..they act the way you like..then they change hoping you will follow..
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Joined Jun 2012 Posts: 134 |
September 18, 2012 12:06 pm
QUOTE: Personally, I began to try to work through my own issues (the ones I swore I didn't have) with a therapist because every relationship was turning out the same because I was creating the circumstances to allow it. All without knowing it and mainly because I wasn't happy with myself, even though I would lie and say I was. this. |
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Joined Dec 2011 Posts: 177 |
September 18, 2012 12:14 pm
QUOTE: QUOTE: You are expecting people to remain the same always. That is not human nature, baby, I'm sorry. Humans by nature evolve to adapt to constantly changing surroundings. If you fight to make a person stay the same always, they will resent you and feel that they can never live up to your standards to always be the person they met at first. Simply falling in love changes you. Date someone for sixth months, you fall in love, you are already both different and different triggers are going to cause different reactions and personality changes. If you fight to the very end to make someone stay who they were in the beginning, then you are fighting against growing together. If you are not both growing,.... then one of you is left behind and confused and thinks they've been abandoned- when all they did was try to stay the same. I also agree with this.. u cant expect someone to stay the same forever. That is boring and old! And if your fighting for.him to stay moat likely your annoying piss out of him. ^^ nicely said
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Joined Jul 2012 Posts: 499 |
September 18, 2012 12:28 pm
Sounds like one of you fell out of lust.
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Joined Mar 2012 Posts: 921 |
September 18, 2012 12:30 pm
It hurts and I can't get past it.. I don't know how to move forward :-(
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Joined Aug 2011 Posts: 1,712 |
September 18, 2012 12:31 pm
QUOTE: Date women, they are much easier to deal with than men :P Having dated both, I can say in my experience, men are *far* easier to deal with. |
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Joined Oct 2011 Posts: 96 |
September 18, 2012 12:33 pm
QUOTE: You should take up shake weights and underwater basket weaving... stat. True dat. 
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Joined Jan 2011 Posts: 756 |
September 18, 2012 12:36 pm
It's so you!
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