I have lost about 42lbs so far, but still have a long way to go. For a few weeks now my jeans have been falling off me, so last weekend I went out and bought myself three new pairs of pants which were not one but TWO sizes smaller. To say I was thrilled would be an understatement, spent a lot of time looking at myself in the mirror, feeling so good about myself.
Now, heres the thing, I felt good on that day, I felt good on the Monday when I went to work in new clothes and everyone admired me. Since then, how do I feel? Fat and frumpy because now my clothes are not loose! They fit me properly, but instead of making me feel smaller they make me feel bigger :-( I know I should be feeling happy, but when I feel a waistband that fits instead of one that is huge for me I just feel huge! Anyone else ever feel this? How can I get that "thin" feeling back?
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Joined 2012-02-11 Posts: 136 |
August 17, 2012 09:13
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Joined 2012-02-21 Posts: 550 |
August 17, 2012 09:15
QUOTE: I have lost about 42lbs so far, but still have a long way to go. For a few weeks now my jeans have been falling off me, so last weekend I went out and bought myself three new pairs of pants which were not one but TWO sizes smaller. To say I was thrilled would be an understatement, spent a lot of time looking at myself in the mirror, feeling so good about myself. Now, heres the thing, I felt good on that day, I felt good on the Monday when I went to work in new clothes and everyone admired me. Since then, how do I feel? Fat and frumpy because now my clothes are not loose! They fit me properly, but instead of making me feel smaller they make me feel bigger :-( I know I should be feeling happy, but when I feel a waistband that fits instead of one that is huge for me I just feel huge! Anyone else ever feel this? How can I get that "thin" feeling back? I have been there. I try to focus on how tight my body feels, on the lesser muffin tops, the decrease in jiggle. Focus on the changes and the positives. Stand tall and walk proud! :) |
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Joined 2011-04-28 Posts: 1,346 |
August 17, 2012 09:18
Yep been there, just watch how quick the new ones get to big then you
will really be PUMPED :) 
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Joined 2011-08-18 Posts: 776 |
August 17, 2012 09:18
Use that as motivation to continue your weight loss journey so that THOSE pants become too loose!
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Joined 2011-07-25 Posts: 1,155 |
August 17, 2012 09:18
I can relate. In my opinion, it takes awhile for your brain to adjust to your new body and the changes you've made. Just keep at it, everything will even out eventually. And congrats on being 2 sizes down! That's nothing to sneeze at my friend!
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Joined 2011-08-04 Posts: 1,298 |
August 17, 2012 09:19
Your not alone, just hang in there!!
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Joined 2010-05-27 Posts: 1,151 |
August 17, 2012 09:19
I know, but just wait till your skinny pants start to sag. Then you will get that thrill all over again.
It's good to buy cloths that fit along the way because we get used to feeling like we are done. Celebrate the new size and let it motivate you to shrink out of them. (unless you truely are done) 
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Joined 2012-02-22 Posts: 61 |
August 17, 2012 09:19
Take a picture of yourself in the baggy clothes and take a picture of yourself in you fitting clothes, once you SEE how much thinner you look it should help you FEEL how great you look!
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Joined 2010-09-15 Posts: 192 |
August 17, 2012 09:20
You have what most of us have--body image issues. Sometimes you have to turn off your brain when it comes to looking at yourself. Stick with your plan and keep going. You can be smaller, but your brain's perception is not telling you that. Stay motivated and really believe and work toward your goals.
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Joined 2012-02-07 Posts: 512 |
August 17, 2012 09:21
Yeah, that really loose feeling is niiiiice. I've only gone down one size and I've kept the jeans in the bigger size and wear them sometimes. I would say you should probably wear the proper fit for work, but when you're at home on your own time, do what you want.
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Joined 2011-05-20 Posts: 312 |
August 17, 2012 09:21
This boggles my mind, but somehow...I understand! I agree with taking some side by side pics. That should help!
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Joined 2012-07-07 Posts: 719 |
August 17, 2012 09:22
I can understand that. I do prefer my clothes to feel loose around the belt line. But I must say, when I have pants the fit my properly, it makes my butt look hot!
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Joined 2011-01-16 Posts: 1,347 |
August 17, 2012 09:23
I remember that feeling... and I remember when my new jeans got to big for me and I had to put them in a hot wash just to shrink them enough that they didn't fall off! Just one more thing for you to look forward too :)
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Joined 2012-02-21 Posts: 892 |
August 17, 2012 09:24
I had this same thought today. I just cant wait until these new ones fall off too!
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Joined 2011-10-28 Posts: 826 |
August 17, 2012 09:24
I actually have the opposite problem, but I've always liked wearing tight clothes. I really hate wearing loose clothes. I feel lost in the clothes & that the clothes are just covering fat, not me or my body, kind of like my body is all fat and nothing else. I'm just dying to wear clothes that fit properly. I can't wait to go clothes shopping and get the latest styles and not have to worry about whether or not the clothes will fit. I want jeans, shorts, skirts, dresses, coats, work out clothes. I want it all. Oh, and boots, I love wearing boots in the Fall! And when I do go clothes shopping, I am NOT buying anything with a stretchy waistband except the workout clothes.
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Joined 2011-09-12 Posts: 1,854 |
August 17, 2012 09:24
I agree with a previous comment that your brain has not yet adjusted. You've been so used to your clothes fitting loosely that it feels strange for them to be snug. It reminds you of how you felt when your old clothing was tight on you before you lost the weight. I guess you just have to keep telling yourself that you're NOT the same person you were. Also, it helps to make sure you look as nice as possible, not just in the way you dress, but also your hair and makeup. Try and remind yourself of the visual changes, and no matter how you are feeling mentally, ALWAYS carry yourself like you own the whole world. Somehow projecting confidence actually makes me feel more confident, too.
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Joined 2011-04-27 Posts: 89 |
August 17, 2012 09:24
QUOTE: Use that as motivation to continue your weight loss journey so that THOSE pants become too loose! Yes I agree with this! Use all of these feelings (the good and the bad ones) to keep motivating you and moving you forward! But then..you have to start talking to yourself in a postive way..and telling yourself how for you have come already..and how beautiful you are inside and out no matter what size you are...and start loving yourself at every single stage! Some people never are happy with themselves no matter what...and I have struggled with this..so start being happy and enjoying each stage...and then celebrate each new one that comes along as an accomplishment! Congrats on your weight loss so far...and keep up the great work! =) 
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Joined 2012-03-18 Posts: 164 |
August 17, 2012 09:26
You are not alone, I definitely relate. I wish I could snap out of it and feel good about my progress/changes.
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Joined 2011-01-06 Posts: 2,246 |
August 17, 2012 09:27
You get adjusted! I promise!
I have been in limbo land for the past 2 months, with very small changes on the scale! I decided it was time to hunt down another pair of jeans! (One of my "goal" outfits was colored jeans, but I hadn't found any yet.). Well I went to the store to try on pants. And they were down one size compared to the pair I bought a month ago! They could be stretchier. Or fit differently, but I'll take it. (I have been basically shifting the same 3-4 pounds for the past 6 weeks.) 
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Joined 2012-01-04 Posts: 131 |
August 17, 2012 09:31
I have been purchasing some jeans at the Goodwill. Amazing how many good jeans you can get there. Anyway I started out at size 20, then got some 18s, 16s, 14s, and even some 12s. I got these on dollar day or at my local thrift store where stuff is only 50 cents. I buy the ones that look like new. As I get smaller I take them back and donate them, it's like renting clothes. Really helps with the budget and keeps the closet in check. So far I am now in the 14s. I noticed a couple were loose so tried a 12. Almost there. Since all my pants used to have elastic waists wearing jeans feels good. I still have a lot to lose but as I go down in jean size they are tighter and have a muffin top hanging over. But I tell myself how far I have come from a 20 down to a 14 even though they were tight. I still feel really good and even better as they get looser. Just remind yourself how far you have come. Good luck!!
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Joined 2011-07-14 Posts: 48 |
August 17, 2012 09:35
Yep it's a lose/lose situation it seems. I had to get new sz 5 jeans for work and while I was ecstatic that I fit into a 5 I felt like everyone could see everything!!! I wasnt protected by the loose baggy slacks I was wearing before. I know it looks much better to wear clothes that fit, but I found myself trying to stretch them out as well as my shirt so that it was loose on me... So weird. But agree with other posters use it as motivation to continue your journey, defeat this pant size and move on to the next! It's such a high walking out of a store with new smaller sized clothes!!
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Joined 2012-08-03 Posts: 6 |
August 17, 2012 09:37
Yup! Been there! Actually, there now... stinks! Don't get discouraged, you are doing an amazing job!
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Joined 2011-07-19 Posts: 205 |
August 17, 2012 09:37
I don't like when my clothes are baggy. I think I eat more that way too, because I don't feel the tightness around my belly. Even drinking water and feeling the tightness reminds me to lighten up on eating. I haven't replaced the clothes since last summer and have been at a plateau, so I'm looking to get rid of the big stuff and get a couple of smaller sized pants.
When I look in the mirror in the tighter, smaller clothes, I see the progress. When my clothes are too big, I look sloppy. I remember a couple people saying they keep the big clothes "just in case they gain all the weight back" I don't want to do that, so mentally I get rid of the clothes and commit to keeping the weight off. 
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Joined 2012-06-20 Posts: 30 |
August 17, 2012 09:38
You lost 42 pounds!!!! That is awesome. Dwell on that when in doubt. Many people who want to, are never able to make the commitment you have made and have such great success. I have had part of that same experience. What happens is when you wear clothes that fit, you look more the way we are supposed to look in our clothes. People just don't notice that as much.
You are creating a new image of yourself in people's mind as "that person that looks like this". It is replacing the image of you as" the bigger person who lost some weight and now has baggy clothes". Try to EMBRACE THE NEW HEALTHIER IMAGE. Thin people just don't go around commenting on other's thinness very much and bigger people are often a little discouraged that they have not been able to accomplish what you have so, they won't continue to comment either. 
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Joined 2012-04-03 Posts: 2,129 |
August 17, 2012 09:40
Keep losing weight the way you have been (and good job, by the way!). The NEW jeans will be loose soon enough.
Awesome job! Keep it up! Remember, the day will come when you'll be over this need to conceal, because there won't be anything to conceal. The desire to conceal may persist long after the need is gone. This is normal, don't worry about it. 
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