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July 22, 2012 12:05 PM
I'll let you know when I do...when (if) I ever move out, I can stop keeping those foods in the house =/
July 22, 2012 12:06 PM
ABC... antecedent, behavior, consequence.

Antecedent: what happens before you binge eat? what are you doing? how are you feeling? what are you thinking about? what has happened within the previous 12-24 hours that might trigger your binge?

Behavior: actually binging.

Consequence: you feel awful, you fee shameful. you can't look at yourself in the mirror. not only do you feel terrible emotionally and mentally, but you probably feel physically terrible and painful from the excess food in your stomach, eventually leading to some digestive pains as the food makes its way through you.

you know what you're doing. you know what happens after you do it. you need to figure out WHY you're doing it. it will take a lot of "come to jesus" talks with yourself, you will really have to figure out what your trigger is. if you can pinpoint the triggers that cause you to want to binge eat, you can develop specific actions to take to keep yourself from allowing the trigger to play out. if you recognize something is triggering you, you can be proactive in preventing it from leading to your binging.
July 22, 2012 12:14 PM
Binge eating is a very complex problem. I disagree with those who say it's simply a matter of choice or self control. If that were so, a lot of us would just choose to quit it because of all the negative (extra weight, feeling sick, etc) that goes along with binging. For many of us, binging is a coping behavior and each of does it for our own reasons. A book that has helped me begin to change my thinking about food is "Intuitive Eating". It was written by two nutritionists who work with eating disordered people. The case studies they describe helped me feel less alone and gave me some tools to begin changing some of my messed up food related behaviors. It's a good place to start!
July 22, 2012 12:19 PM
I don't think I could be getting through my binging difficulties if it wasn't for counseling. For me, my binging was anxiety driven, along with low self-esteem. If I would get upset or pushed around, I would just have a binge. Then I would feel even more upset and think I could make up for it the next day or two. It is a viscious cycle to get out of. My counselor recommended Myo-Inositol to help me with my issues and it helps a lot, along with regular exercise. As long as I take it every day I manage to stay relatively anxiety free. Plus I have been replacing my bad habits with good habits - for instance, if I get upset about something instead of binging, I run. I don't know if I will be ever completely over binging, but I just take one step at a time. I probably haven't had a binging episode for a month, when I used to have them almost daily.
July 22, 2012 12:19 PM
FEAR!!! I've always gained and lost a large amount of weight. This time I work out for hours and eat healthy and the scale doesn't move. I have fear that with everything I put into my mouth I will gain... When I feel like eating something crazy I list out the calories and what it will take to work it off, like how many minutes do I have to get on the elliptical to eat that? THEN I go to the gym and burn that amount BEFORE I eat the extra treat. Most of the time....after I've worked that hard I don't want to wreck it:) I also allow myself one eat out meal once a week and try to pick one things I've been craving..
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July 22, 2012 12:20 PM
with all the choices and the pressure out there...i doubt that i will ever give up binge eating for good...all i can hope for it to keep it below 5% of the time....
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July 22, 2012 12:24 PM
Something I noticed was that when I eat foods with a lot of carbs like pastas or have some junk food even if it is in moderation, that the next day or later in the day I am REALLY hungry and it is hard to resist. So I have started avoiding those foods because I hate feeling like that. I'm not on a low carb diet or anything so I do still eat some of those things sometimes but I try really hard to fill up on veggies and things like that on the days that I add these things to my diet. Because if I feel hungry and I start raiding the cupboards, it's already over...
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July 22, 2012 12:28 PM
god. true story.
July 22, 2012 12:29 PM
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I haven't binged in over a month, which doesn't sound like much, but it's a big deal for someone who has always either not eaten enough or chowed down on thousands more calories than I needed in a day.

I went low carb, but that is no cure all. Yesterday I had binge cravings like mad. I tried to reason myself into giving in because my appetite didn't exist for foods that aren't binge friendly like eggs or steak. Then logic kicked in. If I was really hungry, I'd eat the eggs or steak or whatever, woudn't I? Which means those cravings were at least mostly mental. I know I take my vitamins, I know I don't feel lightheaded or sick even now that I'm too low on calories for two days. I know if it was hunger, real hunger, I wouldn't have a specific food craving.

So that's what I'm trying to teach myself. A test to see if I'm really hungry. I ask myself, yeah, you want a burger? Would a steak do as well? Or eggs? If the answer is no, then it's not real hunger. I'm sick of my body's demands for specific foods and I'm going to keep right on denying those demands. If food is for fuel, then any reasonably healthy food should do the trick.


Wow, that is like a lightbulb for me!
July 22, 2012 12:31 PM
I try and not buy the items I know I am going to binge on.
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July 22, 2012 12:32 PM
QUOTE:

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Binge eating and over eating have nothing to do with will power or control. It has to do with Choice.

I have spoken at length about binge eating and over eating in this thread: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/656765-bingers

Give it a quick read :-)


I have to say I disagree with that. Choice isn't everything. Binge eating can come from a place that you don't even know about. Choice, control and willpower are not the same thing. They're all psychological and as such are all complicated but it's not as simple as just choosing not to do something when you don't know why you're choosing to do it.


Well it's your right to disagree, but I must ask, did not read the post I linked to, or my replies to it? Choice and control are what I talk about in them at length, you might have a different opinion. :-)

I'm just sayin'.
July 22, 2012 12:33 PM
I feel the same way! If I post it, I see it; it's right there for me to see every time I post what I have eaten...it either helps or it hurts but either way it's right there for me to see what I have just eaten!
July 22, 2012 12:34 PM
QUOTE:

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I haven't binged in over a month, which doesn't sound like much, but it's a big deal for someone who has always either not eaten enough or chowed down on thousands more calories than I needed in a day.

I went low carb, but that is no cure all. Yesterday I had binge cravings like mad. I tried to reason myself into giving in because my appetite didn't exist for foods that aren't binge friendly like eggs or steak. Then logic kicked in. If I was really hungry, I'd eat the eggs or steak or whatever, woudn't I? Which means those cravings were at least mostly mental. I know I take my vitamins, I know I don't feel lightheaded or sick even now that I'm too low on calories for two days. I know if it was hunger, real hunger, I wouldn't have a specific food craving.

So that's what I'm trying to teach myself. A test to see if I'm really hungry. I ask myself, yeah, you want a burger? Would a steak do as well? Or eggs? If the answer is no, then it's not real hunger. I'm sick of my body's demands for specific foods and I'm going to keep right on denying those demands. If food is for fuel, then any reasonably healthy food should do the trick.


Wow, that is like a lightbulb for me!


It makes me really happy if what I'm struggling with can help someone else. I'm new at this, and it's tough, but I know if I can resign myself to eating 'boring' foods when I'm hungry instead of 'entertaining' foods, I'll have this weight thing beat for life.

Edit: Here is a study that might back up my new philosophy of food:

http://www.webmd.com/diet/news/20110722/food-boredom-may-lead-to-weight-loss

July 21, 2011 -- A new study suggests that one path to successful weight loss might be culinary boredom.

Researchers found that when people were offered the same food over and over again, they tended to eat less overall.

The study expands on a growing body of research suggesting that the unprecedented level of variety in the American diet may be a major contributor to the obesity epidemic.
Edited by MaraDiaz On July 22, 2012 12:41 PM
July 22, 2012 12:34 PM
Variety of reasons for me.

1. Reframed my mind, my perspective on food and my body. I learned to love myself more, to not worry as much as I have in the past, became less restrictive, more tolerant of mistakes and junk food, stopped obsessing over what the scale said, etc.
2. Upped my calories, a lot. I now eat my TDEE (calories needed to maintain my weight) minus 15% and never net below my BMR (calories needed to sustain your body daily if you just laid in bed all day) as calculated by scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator and per the Eat More to Weight Less group. And I lose about a 1lb a week at this rate of 2100 calories.
3. Stopped buying my trigger foods as much. Still have them occasionally and in moderation.
4. And when the urge comes (rarely does now, three months since my last binge), I remind myself of why I'm doing this: I want to be healthy and there was nothing healthy about that period in my life.
Edited by keyboardwench On July 22, 2012 12:37 PM
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July 22, 2012 12:37 PM
Therapy is the only thing that has truly helped me... and that's not to say that I don't slip up once in a while. Once you find coping skills that do not involve food, binge eating becomes less inviting.
July 22, 2012 12:39 PM
WOW! You are all amazing. Thank you so much for the responses!

I think I'm going to bite the bullet and see a therapist. To answer someone's previous question, I do live alone. I buy only healthy and mostly whole foods, but the minute I am out at a restaurant or at a friend's house I immediately lose it if there is an option to eat something sugary and unhealthy. I would love to be able to eat these things moderately but I can't. I'm very black or white when it comes to food and if I eat one cookie then dammit, I need 12 more, plus some chocolate cake and ice cream on the side. I'm determined to change that, though.

In addition to the therapy, I will try eating more throughout the week and maybe taking some of that Inositol stuff. Again, I don't know if I'm ready to moderately insert "treats" into my diet, but I'll get there.

Thank you again, sooooo much. :-)
July 22, 2012 12:41 PM
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As soon as I started eating a healthy amount for my weight, I found that the binges stopped completely. I also found the cravings began to subside and now have totally disappeared. Find out your TDEE and eat just under it. That should help! http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/ Hope this helps :)


Yep. A very small deficit. I eat at a 250 cal/day deficit and don't binge anymore. I'm losing weight slowly but permanently. It's actually been a very long time since I've binged, but the cycle of trying to make up for it just perpetuates it.

The OP said she wasn't overweight at all... I'd suggest she find her TDEE and aim to eat that every day on purpose. That may help.
July 22, 2012 12:45 PM
I'm a binger too. I hate the guilt and the hiding and the need to explain myself to my family about why I'm eating a second dinner. I hate it all.
July 22, 2012 12:47 PM
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Ugh. I'm typing this from my bed and I feel like dying. I ate over 5000 calories yesterday and it's like I can't even look in the mirror without being disgusted.

To give a little background on me: I'm not overweight and never have been, but I've developed a ridiculously unhealthy relationship with food. I will eat MASSIVE amounts of food - and generally do, a few times a month - but I always feel like crap afterward. I always tell myself that I'm going to stop binging and that I will eat normally and healthfully but a few days or maybe a week down the road I'll always come back to those cookies and cakes. Of course, I eat below my calorie limit for several days in a row in attempt to "make up" for these binges, but that's just textbook yo-yoing. I feel so dumb, and I feel like I'll never learn.

I'm sick of this. I'm sick of my obsession with food. I'm sick of counting calories every single day as I've done for the past 5 months - literally, I've not missed ONE day. I want to go back to the old me who knew when to stop eating, who exercised and enjoyed it and didn't use it as punishment. But it seems like no matter what I do, I can't break free from my mind. When I get in that binge zone, I am in the zone, and I go at it, hard.

To all former bingers, what did it in for you? Was it therapy? Was it something someone said? Was it the feeling after a particular binge? I'm so desperate to stop binging for good...I appreciate the support. Thank you.


Drop some money on a good personal trainer. You are going to get your ass kicked in the gym, have someone to hold you accountable to your decisions, and begin to see results. Once you see results you want more results. My trainer has become like a brother. I text him almost everyday. We work out 2-3 a week. He is as excited for my weight loss as I am and as disappointed in my falls as I am. It's hard not to be motivated when you put a lot of money into something.

If I ever ate 5000 calories in one day and then told him about it... I'd be running suicides til I threw up.
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July 22, 2012 12:58 PM
ABC... antecedent, behavior, consequence.

Antecedent: what happens before you binge eat? what are you doing? how are you feeling? what are you thinking about? what has happened within the previous 12-24 hours that might trigger your binge?

Behavior: actually binging.

Consequence: you feel awful, you fee shameful. you can't look at yourself in the mirror. not only do you feel terrible emotionally and mentally, but you probably feel physically terrible and painful from the excess food in your stomach, eventually leading to some digestive pains as the food makes its way through you.

you know what you're doing. you know what happens after you do it. you need to figure out WHY you're doing it. it will take a lot of "come to jesus" talks with yourself, you will really have to figure out what your trigger is. if you can pinpoint the triggers that cause you to want to binge eat, you can develop specific actions to take to keep yourself from allowing the trigger to play out. if you recognize something is triggering you, you can be proactive in preventing it from leading to your binging.


This is really good because I ask myself these questions or something close to them before I overeat/binge. I look alot at my triggers too and am I really hungry or trying to cover up some feelings? Thanks for the past and all the replies.
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July 22, 2012 1:02 PM
I gave up sugar, and anything else that was unhealthy. As someone else stated, when I began to eat the correct amount of healthy foods, I quit craving the crap. I advise you to get control of this now. You are very young and I did this for many years with no real consequences that you could see outwardly. As I got older, the weight began to add up. It will add up as you age. You are smart to get control now. I wish I had! Good luck!
July 22, 2012 2:28 PM
I was on a trip with two friends and they are both gorgeous, normal weight girls and I just suddenly got sick of being the fat girl. After that trip I have had an amazing self control that I never thought I could have. I've eaten under my calorie goal and not even touched the foods that used to make me over eat. Idk something just snapped in me and made me decide that this is it, my life is going to change NOW.
July 22, 2012 4:34 PM
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Don't buy it.

If it's in the house, I'll eat it. If they aren't here, well... I can't eat them.

Best defense IMO.


I freak out and make my husband get me stuff if it's not here.


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July 22, 2012 4:42 PM
I've only binged one weekend in the last 30 days (it wasn't a bad binge and I had no mfp crutch). What has helped me a lot has been two things. First, upping my calories to 2100 (still lost 8 lbs in the 30 days) and Second eating whatever I wanted within the calories and finding delicious low calorie/healthy item. The binge monster is triggered by me not feeling like I am satisfied with what I'm eating. By upping the calories and finding things I really like (toaster streudels are my fave) I haven't really felt deprived and I don't feel that true screw it mentality and loss of control that comes with a binge. Good luck!
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July 22, 2012 4:54 PM
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As soon as I started eating a healthy amount for my weight, I found that the binges stopped completely. I also found the cravings began to subside and now have totally disappeared. Find out your TDEE and eat just under it. That should help! http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/ Hope this helps :)



Maybe I will try this.


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