I can see both sides of the situation. I think it's ridiculous when people of normal, healthy body weights call themselves fat, but that's their opinion of themselves. And it's a lot easier to say, "I'm fat," than it is to say, "I know rationally I'm technically ok, but I'm still not 100% satisfied with my results, so I'm going to keep pushing."

Preach it sista!! Thank you!!

Honestly, this is why I surround myself with people who have the same weight loss goals as I do. It's not that I don't care about the smaller ones, but why torture myself? I need to lose over one hundred pounds and I already get ticker envy so, it's just more productive for me to see tickers that resemble my own. Just my thoughts.

These kinds of posts really rub me the wrong way.

How do you think us girls who weigh 130-140 get to weigh that much? Maybe by watching what we eat & exercising? It's really annoying when people tell me I need to eat more or stop exercising because I'm already skinny. Hello, how do you think I got this way?! By doing what I am doing!
You're basically mad that we didn't let ourselves get as heavy as you let yourself get ? Sorry , but that's rude.

There is nothing wrong with a person that weighs 130-140 wanting to get in EVEN BETTER shape.

Also, the truly skinny women who view themselves as disgustingly fat are not doing it to bother you. It's called body dysmorphia and that's how they really see themselves.

I am in that range, but I don't think I am fat. I just want to be FIT looking/athletic looking. Not everyone joins MFP because they think they're fat. It's a fitness site. I have some more weight I would like to lose because I think that's what it would take for my muscles to show the way I want.

Oh, I totally understand this!!

I weigh 202, which is overweight. A 'good weight' for me is around 170 or so, I'm really tall. Coming from 301, I look in the mirror and feel good about where I come from; but then I think about when I weighed that, and got to 200, how I felt horrible about it. It's all the perspective.

I also see peeps on here whose "before pics" I'd seriously LOVE to look like. I get that their proud of looking better, while my 'better' is their "before"

Sometimes I should just stop thinking and go with it, LOLOL :)

I am usually pretty sensitive and ofen overreact, but for some unspoken reason, I get what OP rants about. :) I am in that range, but I always think I am fatter than my friends.

Very good points are made here. I have to say however that if it is 10 pounds or 100 pounds, lots of times it is as much what it is doing to the person mentally (maybe as well as physically). If you hate yourself being 15 pounds over weight, I am not so sure that the "hate" felt at 15 pounds is not as devistating as the hate at 50 or 100. Either way, we all have our own struggles and at times it helps to complain (vent) and talk it out. I think this site allows that to happen. Yea for MFP!

I think it changes. And I know someday you will see what it's like.

10 years ago I needed to lose 95 lbs. It totally annoyed me (and made me wicked jealous) to hear people say they needed to lose 5 or 10 lbs. Or were 5 or 10 lbs from their goal.

I lost the 95 lbs.

Fast forward to today. I have 10 lbs I want to shake SO bad!! And I can not do it! My pants are snug, I am uncomfortable with the extra weight, even though it's "just" 10 lbs. And looking back, it is more of a struggle to lose THESE freakin 10 lbs than it was to lose 95 lbs.

I think everyone has their own battles and you just have to think outside the box a bit.

Some of us girls who are 130-140, or in my case, 126, have also had years and years of struggling with the image we see in the mirror, coupled with eating disorders and intense self hatred from childhood abuse, so maybe you might wish to bear that in mind, as quite a few on here have or had eating disorders, and might have had to battle damn hard with their own weights, in various ways, whether having to gain due to anorexia, or having to lose due to bulimia, or binge eating disorder. Everyone has their own battles in life, and it is unfair for anyone to believe theirs are somehow worse.

Walk a mile in someone else's shoes, as the saying goes. I would not wish the battles I have had on anyone. It is true, I have never been overweight, other than a little pudgy at one stage as a child, but not everything is as simple as the weight on the scale.

You can be unhappy with your body at any weight. I hated how I looked when I was super under-weight at 5'7 and 115 lbs for goodness sake. Just because it's a different number does not mean it's any less of a struggle. It's just a different goal.

I like this response very much. Yes, It is all relative. Thanks for clearing that up!

So many of us have a problem with our weight. And it is such a hard row to hoe until you figure out your activity level correctly and eat the right amount of cals. And then it is a daily struggle to stay under that number.

Like you I am overweight, my thights rub together and I am daily uncomfortable because of it. But I am finally getting my head around the fact that it does not matter what anyone else does and I can steer myself away from the superficial comments of "I`m fat" Or " I hate my thighs!"

I am also learning to un hate my body. That`s right unhate. I have hated myself my whole life. It never did me any good. **** happens, and your going to make it through.

Ignore everyone else. Some days its hard, but it`s just one day. You can do it.

After all, tomorrow is another day.

I don`t think I`ve ever been this positive in my whole life.

OP you do realize that there are people even larger than you who see 225 as their ultimate goal weight? i know someone who's my height and over 400 pounds for her my starting weight (224) is her idea of her perfect body

people should be allowed to feel about how ever they need to feel about THEIR bodies without someone else approving of that.

I wish I only had 5 to 10lbs to lose, cause people that do are great motivation cause they got on there weight lose sooner than later, and these are the the people you want to get tips from also you can learn from everyone. We are all here to help each other.

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2012/07/12/why-do-people-fall-in-love_n_1667527.html?1342094881&icid=maing-grid7%7Ccanada%7Cdl6%7Csec1_lnk2%26pLid%3D178113

have read it before but still old news is like new sometimes:)

I have been overweight three times ( I am 53 years old) I am at the midrange of where I want to be now since I started on 12/31/11.. lost a total 39 lbs so far. …135 but want to hit the bottom of my range before the holiday season - 129.. So I think it is only human to voice things that bother you on this forum so maybe you get them out there… I can tell you that I felt pretty miserable at 174.. But that is just "me"..

What is very real to me is this last 6 pounds…and I don't care if it takes 2 more weeks or 12 more weeks… I am really in awe of people who can maintain their weight.

I totally hear you! You are a beautiful person :) keep your head up and you will get to a comfortable place

I have to admit this rubs me the wrong way. I have a close relative who is shorter than 5 ft and probably 250 lbs. I am 5ft 1 and closer to 125. I get so tired of hearing her complain about how it's not fair that I "can eat whatever I want and not gain weight". I have watched what I've eaten and kept moving instead of just making excuses. Her eating habits are atrocious (eating out big meals several times a week, tons of salad dressing and sour cream, etc...) and just b/c she eats better than she used to and walks several times a week doesn't mean that she's doing what it takes. I've done what it takes and still am not happy with my gut and big butt and am still working on it, no excuses. And I never allowed myself to get that big, no excuses, through 3 pregnancies and being a stay at home mom with no way to go to the gym or time to myself.
All that to say, stick with it and you'll get there too. But maybe when you reach that 130-140 wt and only have a few lbs left to lose (and those are the hardest to lose!), you'll see it differently.