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Joined 2012-05-22 Posts: 194 |
June 28, 2012 06:16
Ok, so far I've lost almost 15lbs (i lost weight before joining mfp). When I weighed.131lbs, I would go out and would be approached several times, now, I go out and NOTHING! I don't understand! I think I look better and have more confidence, but maybe losing a little bit of weight made me less attractive?! Ugh, I don't know, it's a little discouraging. just needed to vent. Has anyone else had this sort of thing occur?!
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Joined 2012-06-26 Posts: 70 |
June 28, 2012 06:20
could be youre more intimidating. but beauty is beauty....15lbs heavier......30lbs lighter.....whatever. dont wait for us, see a guy u like , and approach him! :) he'll probably pee his pants
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Joined 2011-10-11 Posts: 362 |
June 28, 2012 06:20
Wow, that is discouraging, but its got to be some weird coincidence as you look phenomenal! Don't stress on it. I'd totally approach you! :) Keep up the good work!
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Joined 2012-03-06 Posts: 200 |
June 28, 2012 06:20
You're absolutely gorgeous! They are probably intimidated by your awesome looks! Maybe even worry that someone smokin' like you would turn them down. Keep your head high because you're lovely!
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Joined 2011-03-21 Posts: 200 |
June 28, 2012 06:20
all kidding aside there was a study that showed men who knew the girl use to be over weight is less likely to be attractive to her.
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Joined 2012-05-10 Posts: 8 |
June 28, 2012 06:21
One of two things may be happening...Perhaps you have gotten so hot that men are intimidated...Or sometimes when women lose weight their faces get gaunt, and though their body is nice they tend to look a little older, and thus haggard...
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Joined 2010-02-05 Posts: 966 |
June 28, 2012 06:22
You may have put yourself out of most men's league....
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Joined 2012-01-01 Posts: 172 |
June 28, 2012 06:22
It's true, they are probably thinkin, she's so hot and she would never go for me. Then again, some guys just like a woman with a little meat on her. Not sure, But I think you look great!
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Joined 2011-08-14 Posts: 130 |
June 28, 2012 06:23
You look awesome; I really think they are intimidated by u.
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Joined 2012-03-16 Posts: 1,637 |
June 28, 2012 06:23
I lost 40 pounds and trying to get back into the dating scene and I figured I'd get many more looks, but it's not the case. I think I get less attention now that my body looks good than when I was heavier. But then again, I'm 5'11 and have been told I'm intimidating as hell to approach, so maybe the weight loss made that more so. I'm not a cute, 5'2 blonde that's easily approachable...LOL
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Joined 2012-01-10 Posts: 2,157 |
June 28, 2012 06:23
Maybe you are just so hot now that the men are intimidated and too shy to approach you?
I know - it sounds ridiculous - but I used to rarely get hit on during highschool and university, and I always wondered why. I was thin, took care of myself, etc. Years later I was talking to this guy that I knew from highschool and he told me that he and several of his friends used to think I was so hot, but they thought I was intimidating. I was baffled... little old me? Intimidating? Not really! LOL Just continue to do what you are doing...be confident, smile a lot, and I am sure the men will start falling all over themselves to get a chance with you. You're gorgeous. :) 
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Joined 2012-03-15 Posts: 994 |
June 28, 2012 06:24
I'd have to agree with the others. After looking at your pics I'm thinking guys are scared to approach you for fear of being rejected.
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Joined 2011-02-28 Posts: 820 |
June 28, 2012 06:24
If I'm going to be honest, if you go out expecting to be hit on, you may give the impression of being self-righteous or stuck up. I'm by no means saying that you actually are, but sometimes people misconstrue confidence as something less flattering. I find that this is largely because people suck.
BUT you are gorgeous, and you've done a great job, so don't let it get to you! 
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Joined 2012-05-22 Posts: 194 |
June 28, 2012 06:25
QUOTE: One of two things may be happening...Perhaps you have gotten so hot that men are intimidated...Or sometimes when women lose weight their faces get gaunt, and though their body is nice they tend to look a little older, and thus haggard... This is exactly what I'm afraid is happening!
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Joined 2012-04-23 Posts: 345 |
June 28, 2012 06:25
Judging form your picture, I think you are a stunner. You look like you are fun to be around.
My ex gf (whom I still talk to every now and then) lost 40lbs and is now 5'2" 115lbs. She looks much better than she did a few years ago. However, the two guys I know who dated her one time (a piece) said she was VERY intimidating, physically. One guy said it made him feel self-conscious. To me, that is HIS problem, not hers. What I suggest is use that newly found self-confidence you have and go up to guys and ask them out. Unless they are blind, gay, or married, they will say yes. You are stunning. 
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Joined 2011-07-08 Posts: 15,605 |
June 28, 2012 06:25
The majority of fit beautiful women I have worked with hardly got hit on. And I believe it's because many males didn't think they had a chance. Lol, so I used to hit on them. Till I got married. Now I just flirt with them.
A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer IDEA Fitness member Kickboxing Certified Instructor Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition 
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Joined 2010-05-07 Posts: 1,336 |
June 28, 2012 06:27
Too hot to handle now! I agree with some of the posts. You might be more intimidating now that you lost weight and put yourself out of the the avg men's league. You need to find the one that is just like you confident and not intimidated by a beautiful woman.
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Joined 2012-04-27 Posts: 547 |
June 28, 2012 06:27
moves eyebrow up and down illl hit on ya buh babbbby
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Joined 2010-10-12 Posts: 376 |
June 28, 2012 06:29
Well, you're gorgeous so I'm surprised you don't.
It's true what everyone else is saying, though. If there's amazing girls at the bar, it's a lot more likely you won't get hit on because most men simply don't have the balls to try. 
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Joined 2012-06-21 Posts: 428 |
June 28, 2012 06:30
Maybe you're not standing in the right place? I dunno...I don't really go out of my way to hit on women. I'm busy and prefer convenience...It's been working out well.
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Joined 2010-02-25 Posts: 2,213 |
June 28, 2012 06:31
I wouldn't look at it as such a bad thing really....most women complain about being hit on....but yeah I did read somewhere that men are inclined to go for the not as attractive and not as smart woman....aka the sure thing....as opposed to the incredibly hot and intelligent....so you may be on to something there.....um, sorry for your apparently new hotness???? \m/
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Joined 2012-05-22 Posts: 194 |
June 28, 2012 06:33
You all are really sweet! I'm about in tears! thank you for being so awesome.
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Joined 2012-01-09 Posts: 839 |
June 28, 2012 06:37
You are gorgeous! Is it possible that now with your improved confidence that you appear more aloof, less approachable? Maybe now, guys are more intimidated by your beauty?
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Joined 2010-02-25 Posts: 2,213 |
June 28, 2012 06:38
Look at it this way.....now that you've improved yourself so, you have the opportunity to go out and get what you want.....instead of waiting for mr. right to come along....and you have the confidence as well as the look to get it....\m/
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Joined 2011-07-16 Posts: 13 |
June 28, 2012 06:40
This one's easy. Now you intimidate people. If you're a good person and a kind person, it will shine through. Don't worry!
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