I also say go with the dry shampoos, if you hold the can kind of away from your hair and brush it in when you're done or rub it it won't make you look gray or like you have powder in your hair. And it smells good! I've used suave and it works good, I have black hair (In the process of going blonde though :) )

Also there is a product at Sally's beauty supply (not sure where you live) that is like Wen, or you can get sulfate, silicone, paraban free shampoos. I wouldn't use conditioner on my scalp, just on the ends up to the scalp.

It does sound frustrating and having hair that you feel looks good can really make a difference in the way you feel about other things. But do your best and don't let it get you down.

hehe thanks guys for caring about my hair.

It's always been an issue, but I've just kind of ignored it, and stayed indoors, a lot. ..... Todays incident really REALLY made me take notice.

I live in Aus. It's the middle of winter and COLD and I still have this oil slick. I wanna have long wavy blonde hair, but maybe I can't.

I will ask at the salon and try some of these different treatments you've all suggested.

Now who can help me with my skin care/make up and fashion.... (I am a hopeless case, seriously)

I have very thin hair and CANNOT shower the day before than wake up and go the next day or it looks disgusting.
I would recommend showering the day of.
Than there are some various shampoos and such that should help with your skin on your scalp.

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Make sure you use the right products for your hair and scalp. Get a shampoo and conditioner for oily hair but only use the conditioner on the ends of your hair, your scalp doesn't need extra moisturising.
When washing your hair try not to massage your scalp too much as this stimulates the sebaceous glands, causes more oil production.
Always wash out your products thoroughly, product build up can make the hair look greasy.
Baby powder or dry shampoo applied to the roots of your hair will soak up any excess oil throughout the day.

I can also suggest having a purifying shampoo. Put it on your hair before adding water, then rinse. It attracts the oil and products. I usually use this method on clients who use a lot of products in their hair causing oily build up, give it a try it might help with excess oils.

Dust a little baby powder in your roots, my sister does it and it makes all the difference. Try to stay away from greasy foods as well.

Same sort of thing happened to me yesterday.. I was in the washroom and a coworker came in and I saw that she had wet hair so I said "Oh it's raining out?" and she said "no my hair just sucks". I felt like an ass.

I can't see your diary to know what you're eating, but diet has a big part in how oily your skin and hair are.

http://healwithfood.org/greasyhair/

Also, if you typically rub your conditioner in all over your hair, try to just put the conditioner on the ends of your hair and not on the top.

Changing my conditioning habits and dietary habits worked well for my hair (I used to waste my money trying different shampoos/conditioners, none of which made any difference), I hope these tips help your hair too!