So, how long were you with your SO before getting engaged?
Edited by brewface811 On June 28, 2012 04:45
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Joined 2012-05-14 Posts: 106 |
June 28, 2012 04:35
I've been with my boyfriend 6 1/2 years now, even though we are younger (about to be 22 and 23) I really feel like it's time to take next steps in our relationship. We're planning to buy a house within the next year and I'd really like to either be engaged or married by then. I find that everyday more of my friends are engaged or moving in with their boyfriend/girlfriends I just hate that we aren't at the next step yet. **Edited to include that this is merely an observation, not that I think we should be at the same point or compare our relationships to other people. I know that ours is much different than others and I respect that I just feel like it is time for us to be taking next steps.
So, how long were you with your SO before getting engaged? |
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Joined 2010-08-17 Posts: 1,234 |
June 28, 2012 04:36
A year and a half
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Joined 2010-08-16 Posts: 113 |
June 28, 2012 04:37
Just under 4 years.
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Joined 2011-08-11 Posts: 148 |
June 28, 2012 04:37
3 years and at the same level that you guys are. but that's not my choice! i hate that men have all the power in this ;)
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Joined 2011-04-10 Posts: 67 |
June 28, 2012 04:38
Four and a half years and still not living together or engaged. We're young too (20 and 24) and currently can't afford the living costs here :(
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Joined 2012-05-31 Posts: 3,434 |
June 28, 2012 04:39
2.5 years.
May have been sooner but we're long distance. |
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Joined 2012-03-22 Posts: 423 |
June 28, 2012 04:39
9 months. Please don't use other people's lives as a way to direct yours. That will not end well.
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Joined 2011-03-09 Posts: 114 |
June 28, 2012 04:40
4 years - met when we were 17. If you really want to get married; why don't you take the bold step and ask him instead
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Joined 2012-05-11 Posts: 7 |
June 28, 2012 04:40
18 months though close for over 6 years first :)
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Joined 2012-03-12 Posts: 99 |
June 28, 2012 04:40
Exactly two years (we got engaged aged 22 - me and 23 - him). We had lived together about a year when we got engaged.
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Joined 2012-01-16 Posts: 82 |
June 28, 2012 04:40
It was after 6 months of dating back in 1987. We married 1 year later and have stayed married for over 24 years. We are at our happiest now. Kids are almost full grown. Life is great. Good luck.
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Joined 2010-12-03 Posts: 83 |
June 28, 2012 04:40
Three months!
The timing is going to be different for everyone. Do what's right for you! 
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Joined 2012-02-03 Posts: 7,034 |
June 28, 2012 04:42
My fiance proposed to me on our 6th year dating anniversary. I am 23 and he is going to be 24 in August. We started dating when I was 16 and he was 17.
It's different for everyone, be patient. I felt like I waited forever, and then when it happened I was the happiest girl in the world! 
We bought a house together in September 2010, we lived together for 2 years before he asked me, but dated 6 years. Our 7th year dating anniversary is coming up in October, and we are having an August 2013 wedding.
Edited by coliemariealessi On June 28, 2012 04:43
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Joined 2010-12-03 Posts: 83 |
June 28, 2012 04:42
QUOTE: If you really want to get married; why don't you take the bold step and ask him instead Also, this ^^^ :-)
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Joined 2010-09-11 Posts: 962 |
June 28, 2012 04:42
2 months
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Joined 2012-04-13 Posts: 130 |
June 28, 2012 04:42
I got pregnant at 17 by a guy I honestly didn't know too well, we had only been dating for maybe a month. He got a job working with the navy, we kept the baby, and got married when she was 3 months old. Our three year anniversary is approaching, and we're about to close on our own home, we're happy and he's an amazing guy.
Point of the story is love can come after 10 years, or 10 days. I don't think there's a clock on it. Remember, the only thing that changes is a title, you're still the same people and share the same love. Good luck to you.
Edited by KrystleKiri On June 28, 2012 04:42
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Joined 2010-04-15 Posts: 188 |
June 28, 2012 04:42
me and my partner got together when we were 16 engaged after 2 years, bought a house together 3 years ago getting married this year after over 9 years off been together.
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Joined 2009-01-30 Posts: 351 |
June 28, 2012 04:42
6 months and been happily married 11 and together 12,but definitely it's something you guys have to figure out you can't look at anyone else's relationship but your own!
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Joined 2012-02-24 Posts: 374 |
June 28, 2012 04:43
Been married 30 years now, he proposed 4 nights after our first date. We were married eight months later. I still get roses on the anniversary of our first date.
Everyone is different, if you are ready why don't you pop the question?
Edited by SmallMimi On June 28, 2012 04:45
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Joined 2010-01-19 Posts: 47 |
June 28, 2012 04:44
Two months. And we were married four months after that. It's worked out very well for us - married nine happy years so far, and we just had our third baby - but I still wouldn't recommend moving that quickly to anyone. Looking back I totally understand why my mother was freaked out.
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Joined 2010-03-08 Posts: 205 |
June 28, 2012 04:44
12 years!!!! Had a child after 8 years, bought a house together at 10 years, engaged at 12, another child at 13 and married after 14 years lol I wasn't even sure I wanted to get married until he asked me and put me on the spot
Happily married for 5 years now, together 19 years in total! By the time we got married we had been through everything that could possibly break us up but we were still together, which means (as far as we're concerned) we'll be together forever 
Moving in together, having children and buying houses are all really stressful - if you can survive all of that then you've got a real good chance of lasting - but's that's just my opinion! |
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Joined 2010-04-04 Posts: 116 |
June 28, 2012 04:44
a year and half. but I am engaged at 34. I think you should just go with it for a bit. I hope you have at least discussed marriage during your time together...if not that may be a problem.
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Joined 2011-10-16 Posts: 119 |
June 28, 2012 04:45
he was 37 and I was 25 ......hmm we kissed for the first time sept 15/1996..... ran away (from my ex) and moved in together 19 sept/96....he asked me to marry him Oct 96, got pregnant in the november but didnt find out till the december of 96.....got married St Vals Day 97 and our son was born 1 year to the day that we moved in together :-)
Oh and 15+ years later still very much in love with my best friend...we've never had a fight either.
Edited by melcpia On June 28, 2012 04:46
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Joined 2011-09-13 Posts: 126 |
June 28, 2012 04:45
Have there been any discussions along those lines? If he is willing to purchase a house with you but not get married I would say you need to have that discussion. If he isn't willing to slay dragons for you and drop down on one knee I'd say you have hitched your wagon to the wrong star.
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Joined 2012-06-24 Posts: 7 |
June 28, 2012 04:46
DH and I have been together going on 21 years and married going on 11. Yes, you read that right. We were together 10 years before we got engaged/married.
Life just works like that sometimes. We even have a child together (he's 19). |
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