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June 28, 2012 5:26 AM
I love Leslie Sansone's walking DVDs! When I first started I weighed over 300 pounds and was embarrassed to just go out in public...never mind exercising. I got one of her DVDs and started from there.

You are worth it and you can do it!! flowerforyou
June 28, 2012 5:26 AM
I used to be... but then I thought. I am out here, I am DOING it... which is way more than what most people do.. SO, Just do it.. AND i've found that most people at the gym are there to do their own thing and aren't concerned with anyone else.
June 28, 2012 5:28 AM
I was when I first started out, but I just kept telling myself..."It is either now or never." I can continue on this horrible path or I can take today and start a healthy on. It takes time, but surrounding yourself with positive people will HELP BIG TIME:)
June 28, 2012 5:28 AM
I'm on school break, but up until mid-May I worked out at my school's gym. I had to share it with a bunch of skinny track girls and super-fit softball team members...but I told myself I helped pay for the gym and equipment out of my tuition, so I had every right to use it too. I went into the cardio room with my jaw set and my music pumped up...and no one gave me any ****, even though I'm a very overweight middle-aged mom hoofing it on the treadmill or doing a pilates workout in the aerobics room.

I'm kinda ashamed it took me this long to get to this point, but I've decided that I will do whatever I need to do to be healthy, everyone else be damned! :)
June 28, 2012 5:30 AM

Is anyone else embarrassed to actually start going to the gym/running in public? I am happy swimming but at the moment I'm somewhere without a pool nearby, so that's not an option. I don't feel comfortable with exercising in public but I'm not sure what to do otherwise.
Also, swimming/joining a gym = spending money, which, as a student, I definitely don't have much of to spare!!
Are other people in the same situation? Or does anyone have any tips for me?

Aw, sorry you are feeling this way. Let me tell you, I've recently picked up jogging (6 weeks ago) and for the first time I ran on a treadmill Tuesday night and was able to see myself in the mirror... I LOOKED REDICULOUS, but you know what? You are lapping everyone on the couch! It doesn't matter what you look like when you are exercising, what matters is that you are doing it :-) Don't worry!!! xo
June 28, 2012 5:30 AM
I understand 100%, I started the C25K 9 weeks ago and I would only run at night. Now that I don't look sounds like a dying cow trying to run I don't mind doing it when theres a chance people might see me. It's actually kind of nice when I see someone I know because not only do they encourage me it then is accountability, because I don;t wnat to see that persone in a few months and them think to themself "wow the running thing didn't work".
June 28, 2012 5:31 AM
As someone that has been going to a gym for almost 30 years, I can say you shouldn't be embarrassed about starting out. The people that have been going know how difficult it is to exercise and and have the utmost respect for anyone that is trying to improve their health - regardless of what type of shape you are in. Don't let the meatheads that are there throwing weights around discourage you!

You also don't need an expensive gym to improve your health. Take advantage of what God has provided...go for a walk, a run, row a canoe, ride a bike, eat an apple or an orange...etc.
June 28, 2012 5:32 AM

Running when late is an option too actually. I'm most self conscious about my boobs - they're too big for running really, and the sports bra I've got doesn't really do the job properly!

I have the same problem. I work around it by wearing a REALLY supportive sports bra (and buy new ones as soon as they start wearing out- don't wait!) and then I wear an exercise fitted tank top over it, which is built to "support" without a bra as well, but would really only work for a A cup on it's own. The combo keeps the girls from getting out of control, and more importantly, it isn't PAINFUL.
June 28, 2012 5:33 AM


I used to be. I was worried what others thought of seeing a 400+ lbs man out there exercising. I only worked out late at night, went to the gym super early to avoid people seeing me. I am near sighted and I wear contacts most of the time. I remember when I was in my 400's, I was in a rush to get to the gym to avoid people. I popped in my contacts without washing my hands first. They burned my eyes soon as I got there. I took them out and had to do my routine super slow since I could not see at all. People started trickling in and I got nervous. I then laughed. I couldn't see them I felt stupid worrying all this time.

Since then I stopped caring what others think or say. My health is more important. I even been going to a Zumba class at my YMCA for a while now. 1 guy in a class of 20-30 women. I suck at it but I have fun and most important of all, it burns calories. Sure there's probably people pointing and laughing at me but I can't see or hear them over the sound of how awesome I am.

Don't worry if you are the only guy there. We love to see a guy in class!

I think I need to get over that barrier of caring about what other people think of me. You're right, health is far more important. I've heard that zumba is meant to be really fun, I might look into joining a class once I have enough £££! I doubt there's people laughing at you, like others have said here, everyone who does exercise is doing so for the same sorts of reasons.

I got to Zumba and I love it!

Let me know if you find a good sports bra. I don't run for the same reason:)
June 28, 2012 5:33 AM
As long as your hygiene is on point don't worry about the other stuff just focus on the change.
June 28, 2012 5:35 AM
You know, it gets better with normal routines. Think about this, how often do you see somebody exercising and think,, " what an idiot, they look dumb"? I personaly am thinking, " good for them, keep it up."

Just get out there, or in there, and make it happen. Friends and neighbors will secretly be impressed, and you may end up motivating someone else to do the same.
Good luck!

Quick addition: Try looking into P90X or Insanity form Team Beachbody. I have done both of these programs and they are outstanding. You can do these in the pprivacy of your own home in about an hour a day for 60-90 days, get ripped, and wear your confidence around for all to see through the rest of your life.
Edited by RgrMedicRegister On June 28, 2012 5:41 AM
June 28, 2012 5:36 AM
love these
June 28, 2012 5:36 AM
So I used to have the same fear, and it actually started when I was a super fit, inshape swimmer, it started because I sweat...a lot. Like me and a 600 pound man could probably go neck and neck over who sweats the most. For example, in zumba class yesterday I was drenched, through my shirt, dripping down my face, etc. the girls around me looked like they just walked out of a magazine add, but whatever, I just don't care anymore.

What finally got me over my fear was me realizing that when I drive around and look at people running, or I'm at the gym and a person is working hard (and isn't obnoxious and trying to peacock all over the gym) I don't look at them and go "wow look how stupid or fat or whatever that person is" instead, I say "wow look at that person working out, they're really working hard, good for them getting out and running, OMG I could never run outside right now, its 6:30am, way to go" No one thinks anything negative about you, and honestly if they are going to, its not worth it to even talk to them or take anything they say seriously, because they are probably said person peacocking around the gym like the big douche bag they are.

As far as being a student - does your campus have a gym? Thats a GREAT way to workout and its included in your student fees, or your apartment complex? The other option is if there is a planet fitness nearby, its literally only $10 a month to join and they're open 24 hours. If those aren't options theres a ton of workout videos you can get, most of jillian michaels are in the $10-15 range and they will kick your butt.
June 28, 2012 5:37 AM
There are a lot of free workout videos around the Internet - all you'd really need would be a bit of floor space.
June 28, 2012 5:38 AM
Work out a home. Jog / jump / dance around your home to music. That's what I do and log it under aerobics.

I also walk around my neighborhood. You can also riding a bike if you have one.

Go for it! Then when the pounds start to drop and you feel less self-conscious, you could try other things. Or just stick to those things like I did.
June 28, 2012 5:39 AM

You know, it gets better with normal routines. Think about this, how often do you see somebody exercising and think,, " what an idiot, they look dumb"? I personaly am thinking, " good for them, keep it up."

Just get out there, or in there, and make it happen. Friends and neighbors will secretly be impressed, and you may end up motivating someone else to do the same.
Good luck!
Yeah, this summed up my long essay into a couple short sentences. I second this completely.
June 28, 2012 5:41 AM
i see more out of shape people running and biking in my neighborhood than in shape people.

get over it and exercise.
June 28, 2012 5:42 AM

Do not feel embarrassed to go to a gym! Remember, everyone there shares the same goal! I love my gym and, honestly, when I see someone heavier working out, in my head, I'm thinking, "you go, girl!" And am proud of a complete stranger! It's motivation for me to keep going, because if they have the motivation, then why shouldn't I? Some people amaze me because they have much more stamina than I do! I'm not sure if you think people will judge you, but trust me, it's all about YOU! One of my instructor said, if it's not jiggling, it's not gonna go anywhere! Lol! Another said, it's not sweat, it's the fat melting! Idk what to say to make you understand that no one at the gym judges, if they thought they were perfect, THEY WOULDN'T BE THERE EITHER!

Couldn't have said it better!!! Im the same way, if I see someone heavier, im proud of them for wanting to take the time out and get healthy. If they can do it then i have no excuse. Everyone is there for the same thing and that is to get healthy and remain healthy. I used to be embarrassed to go because I thought people were judging but they really are in there just doing their own thing.
June 28, 2012 5:45 AM
I had to tell you I LOVED this post! I was the same when I started running. I thought I was too fat, I was too slow, I looked stupid and people were going to laugh at me but after two marathons, five halfs, four 25k's and more than I can count smaller races...who's laughing now laugh Last year I bought my first true road bike and kind of had much the same thought, that cyclists would judge me or something because my bike didn't cost thousands of dollars but then I said who cares! Now whether I'm running or biking I always say hi to the other runners/cyclists and am just happy to see people out there getting exercise smile If people want to judge me because my bike didn't cost as much as my car or because I'm not running a six minute mile than let them, it in no way stops me from doing what I love to do!


Just do it!

When I started running, I really though I looked stupid - but did it anyway.
It didn't take me long to realise that most people who are out on the streets in the morning are exercising too, or are on their way somewhere. And they are usually quite self absorbed and don't really care what anyone else is doing!

Now I'll usually smile and nod and say good morning when I pass someone, especially another runner. And if they are looking thin and cool and like it's easy, I'll just wish I could do that too. If they are looking red faced and sweaty and overweight, I think "hey, me too, aren't we the smart ones to be out here doing something about it!"

Don't let other people put you off doing something that is good for you.
June 28, 2012 5:46 AM
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Many of us can relate to feeling awkward, I feel worse in a dressing room than I do running in public , so I'll go for that run.
Edited by blair_bear On June 28, 2012 5:48 AM
June 28, 2012 5:48 AM
go to a thrift store and look for some videos!! or tape Gilad Bodies in Motion on discovery fitness channel on TV.. he's on at 6 am.. 2 different programs.. I like to do his program because he does give you a good workout....
June 28, 2012 5:49 AM
No money and embarrassed to work out in public? Exercise DVDs are your best bet, but you'll need a library card. Your local library should have a decent assortment of DVDs to try completely for free.
June 28, 2012 5:51 AM

No money and embarrassed to work out in public? Exercise DVDs are your best bet, but you'll need a library card. Your local library should have a decent assortment of DVDs to try completely for free.

Or youtube has a ton, that's where I get mine.
June 28, 2012 5:55 AM

Honestly, no one is judging you. People go to the gym for a reason, so please get over it, you have nothing to feel embarrassed about. Once you get a job do make it a point to join a gym, it is really motivating when you workout amongst others. You can make friends and they will motivate you to reach your goals.

Meanwhile, you don't even need to invest in a fitness DVD (unless you want to), you have everything you need online. Decide on how many days you plan on working out and for how long (45 mins -1hour is more than enough). Once you've decided that, go to (click on supersite) and/or, and search for exercises you can do at home. has all the necessary info you will never require like articles, videos, etc. focuses on home workouts (there are videos that you can follow). Moreover you can also search on youtube for workout videos, there are plenty.

Lastly, for cardio, you can always run outdoors, but if you are concern about your breasts (or if its raining or snowing), then you can always run in your building IF there are stairs. I do that on the days I don't go the gym. Running up and down that stairs is tiring and will help you burn off calories.

I hope this helps, and well this goes without saying, but watch what you eat since it all boils down to calorie intake.

Good Luck !!! :D
June 28, 2012 5:55 AM
I have a friend that comes to my house and we do walking exercises in my living room. I am also embarrassed to go to a gym. Find a buddy to do home DVD's with or we use the Comcast on demand Kendra Kimmerley or Leslie Sansone walking videos are fun, short and give you a nice work out. If you lived in Jacksonville I would be happy to let you join us!! Good luck!

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