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June 10, 2012 11:10 PM
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i for one wouldnt want to punish myself by withholding, but that is another conversation altogether,


That's the way I've always seen it.


I've only even felt disinclined to sleep with someone I loved...once. I was young, and the girl I'd been with for almost a year admitted to me (while we were in bed) that she slept with her ex boyfriend while we'd been split up for a short time. A 4hr discussion ensued...and at the end, she solved the entire problem by kissing me.

/end discussion.
Edited by crisanderson27 On June 10, 2012 11:11 PM
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June 10, 2012 11:16 PM
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i for one wouldnt want to punish myself by withholding, but that is another conversation altogether,


That's the way I've always seen it.


I've only even felt disinclined to sleep with someone I loved...once. I was young, and the girl I'd been with for almost a year admitted to me (while we were in bed) that she slept with her ex boyfriend while we'd been split up for a short time. A 4hr discussion ensued...and at the end, she solved the entire problem by kissing me.

/end discussion.


My aunt was one of those women who would withhold and made sure everyone in the family knew. She wanted a new ring, nothing til she got it, a new car, nothing til she got it, and on and on. She is no longer married to my uncle. It made enough of an impression I knew I'd never do it.
June 10, 2012 11:19 PM
If we're assuming the hypothetical test subjects are straight, the woman has the "advantage'', because of oppressive gender roles. Women are constantly shamed for their sexuality and therefore less are willing to have casual sex, while men are all for it because society tells them all they're supposed to have as much casual sex as possible. There are obviously cases of people who shun those roles and pressures, but for the most part people are going to stick to what society tells them they're supposed to do.
  139239
June 10, 2012 11:21 PM
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I think you and your friend should just stip tip toeing around the subject and hook up.


BWAHAHAHAHAHA
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June 10, 2012 11:21 PM
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If we're assuming the hypothetical test subjects are straight, the woman has the "advantage'', because of oppressive gender roles. Women are constantly shamed for their sexuality and therefore less are willing to have casual sex, while men are all for it because society tells them all they're supposed to have as much casual sex as possible. There are obviously cases of people who shun those roles and pressures, but for the most part people are going to stick to what society tells them they're supposed to do.


Everyone, please ignore the troll. This topic, my posts, all of the posts so far, have nothing to do with oppressive gender roles. If you respond to her, the thread will be locked by morning. It's happened dozens of times.

Ty.
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June 10, 2012 11:23 PM
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If we're assuming the hypothetical test subjects are straight, the woman has the "advantage'', because of oppressive gender roles. Women are constantly shamed for their sexuality and therefore less are willing to have casual sex, while men are all for it because society tells them all they're supposed to have as much casual sex as possible. There are obviously cases of people who shun those roles and pressures, but for the most part people are going to stick to what society tells them they're supposed to do.


Everyone, please ignore the troll. This topic, my posts, all of the posts so far, have nothing to do with oppressive gender roles. If you respond to her, the thread will be locked by morning. It's happened dozens of times.

Ty.


I don't think you even read what I posted.
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June 10, 2012 11:24 PM
from what ive seen -the woman has the power to say yes or no-is true, and its true that she dosent even have to be attractive at all for the guy to go along, just to get some-especially if hes not sober lol. My brothers tell me"they all have an elephant in the closet" meaning they have slept with a girl who was unnatractive and not even thier type, and would never admitt to it.... deny-deny-deny. But alot of times, you read about-when the girl figures that out, and gets upset, then trouble begins...along with false charges
its sad really.
Edited by imchicbad On June 10, 2012 11:30 PM
June 10, 2012 11:24 PM
women win. go us lol
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June 10, 2012 11:31 PM
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from what ive seen -the woman has the power to say yes or no-is true, and its true that she dosent even have to be attractive at all for the guy to go along, just to get some-especially if hes not sober lol. My brothers tell me"they all have an elephant in the closet" meaning they have slept with a girl who was unnatractive and not even thier type, and would never admitt to it.... deny-deny-deny. But alot of times, you read about-when the girl figure that out, and gets upset, then trouble begins...along with false charges
its sad really.


What you've said...I agree with completely. Although any man that would deny sleeping with a woman he did in fact sleep with, needs a beat down. If you're going to do it, at least own it. We all may have slept with someone who may or may not have been socially acceptable, or even personally acceptable. To deny that person...takes away part of their humanity. To me...that's the act of a coward...someone who has no self respect to begin with.

No thanks.
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June 10, 2012 11:36 PM
Would that be the point you go

Hmmmmm do I risk moving my arm and wake them or just chew it off and run. Lol
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June 10, 2012 11:37 PM
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Would that be the point you go

Hmmmmm do I risk moving my arm and wake them or just chew it off and run. Lol


Coyote ugly?
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June 10, 2012 11:38 PM
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Would that be the point you go

Hmmmmm do I risk moving my arm and wake them or just chew it off and run. Lol


aka Coyote Arm
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June 10, 2012 11:39 PM
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If we're assuming the hypothetical test subjects are straight, the woman has the "advantage'', because of oppressive gender roles. Women are constantly shamed for their sexuality and therefore less are willing to have casual sex, while men are all for it because society tells them all they're supposed to have as much casual sex as possible. There are obviously cases of people who shun those roles and pressures, but for the most part people are going to stick to what society tells them they're supposed to do.


Everyone, please ignore the troll. This topic, my posts, all of the posts so far, have nothing to do with oppressive gender roles. If you respond to her, the thread will be locked by morning. It's happened dozens of times.

Ty.


Well, I was GOING to say that I personally, never enjoyed casual sex much. I certainly gave it the old college try a few times...ha! But it was always more fulfilling with someone I actually cared about. But I don't think of this as my "oppressive" gender role by any means. I don't think of it as a good or bad thing, OR a male vs female thing...just who I am. Some women are just inclined this way, enough to give men a disadvantage? No idea. But, I agree with you, OP...for whatever reasons, (generally and sexually speaking, of course) I think women can much more easily stalk and bag her prey than a man. I wouldn't mind if more WOMEN hit on me (might make me rethink casual sex again)...but that's another topic altogether!
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June 10, 2012 11:39 PM
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Would that be the point you go

Hmmmmm do I risk moving my arm and wake them or just chew it off and run. Lol


Coyote ugly?


aaaahhh - you beat me to it - although I have always heard it as Coyote Arm - as in you would rather chew your arm off
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June 10, 2012 11:42 PM
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Would that be the point you go

Hmmmmm do I risk moving my arm and wake them or just chew it off and run. Lol


Coyote ugly?


aaaahhh - you beat me to it - although I have always heard it as Coyote Arm - as in you would rather chew your arm off


The term 'coyote ugly' comes from the fact that a coyote will chew its own leg off to escape a trap. Likening it to having your arm trapped under an indescriminate choice in bedmates...you'd chew your own arm off to escape the trap.

I can see how it could have changed to 'coyote arm' though.

Language is such a strange thing!
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June 10, 2012 11:43 PM
I'd generally agree its easier for the female to get some but I can be just as easy for a male depending on others factors such as attractiveness and social status
June 10, 2012 11:44 PM
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Well, I was GOING to say that I personally, never enjoyed casual sex much. I certainly gave it the old college try a few times...ha! But it was always more fulfilling with someone I actually cared about. But I don't think of this as my "oppressive" gender role by any means. I don't think of it as a good or bad thing, OR a male vs female thing...just who I am. Some women are just inclined this way, enough to give men a disadvantage? No idea. But, I agree with you, OP...for whatever reasons, (generally and sexually speaking, of course) I think women can much more easily stalk and bag her prey than a man. I wouldn't mind if more WOMEN hit on me (might make me rethink casual sex again)...but that's another topic altogether!


Some men too. I have engaged in casual sex of course. To me...its like empty calories (see what I did there??). I'd much rather have the real thing...and not be wasting my time.
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June 10, 2012 11:45 PM
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I'd generally agree its easier for the female to get some but I can be just as easy for a male depending on others factors such as attractiveness and social status


Dude, even with your abs...you walk up to some random chic in a bar, and drag her to the bathroom for sex...at least 95 times out of 100, you're going to jail lol.
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June 10, 2012 11:45 PM
I 100% agree with OP. Men are normally always DTF with anyone they find attractive and women, not so much.
June 10, 2012 11:46 PM
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Would that be the point you go

Hmmmmm do I risk moving my arm and wake them or just chew it off and run. Lol


LMAO hahaha
June 10, 2012 11:47 PM
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Would that be the point you go

Hmmmmm do I risk moving my arm and wake them or just chew it off and run. Lol


Coyote ugly?


Exactly. Lol
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June 10, 2012 11:48 PM
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If we're assuming the hypothetical test subjects are straight, the woman has the "advantage'', because of oppressive gender roles. Women are constantly shamed for their sexuality and therefore less are willing to have casual sex, while men are all for it because society tells them all they're supposed to have as much casual sex as possible. There are obviously cases of people who shun those roles and pressures, but for the most part people are going to stick to what society tells them they're supposed to do.


Everyone, please ignore the troll. This topic, my posts, all of the posts so far, have nothing to do with oppressive gender roles. If you respond to her, the thread will be locked by morning. It's happened dozens of times.

Ty.


Well, I was GOING to say that I personally, never enjoyed casual sex much. I certainly gave it the old college try a few times...ha! But it was always more fulfilling with someone I actually cared about. But I don't think of this as my "oppressive" gender role by any means. I don't think of it as a good or bad thing, OR a male vs female thing...just who I am. Some women are just inclined this way, enough to give men a disadvantage? No idea. But, I agree with you, OP...for whatever reasons, (generally and sexually speaking, of course) I think women can much more easily stalk and bag her prey than a man. I wouldn't mind if more WOMEN hit on me (might make me rethink casual sex again)...but that's another topic altogether!


I've never been interested in it either. It's all about personal choice. You'd see a lot more women enjoying casual sex and being open about it like men are encouraged to be if the double-standards and slut-shaming were done away with, though. It's not right that people like you and I are deemed nicer/better women just because we don't choose casual sex, and that's pretty much what the problem with the forced gender roles. Not to mention the men who are pressured into casual sex because it's what they're "supposed" to want.

As society is now though, I definitely won't argue with the fact that women will have an easier time finding a sex partner if they choose to. Of course, the balance would shift (probably not totally balance out though, due to evolutionary nature and whatnot) if both genders were allowed choice independent of societal pressures.
  139239
June 10, 2012 11:48 PM
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I 100% agree with OP. Men are normally always DTF with anyone they find attractive and women, not so much.


Single men!
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June 10, 2012 11:49 PM
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Unless she just REALLY has a problem, men are always game which means a woman can go anywhere really and just say the word and it's a done deal. Men on the other hand always have to play the game to get the prize and this does not stop with marriage, it just changes. Women absolutely LOVE to use "it" as prize as well.

If you want make a woman mad real fast then when she says "If you don't do (Fill in the blank), I'm gonna cut you off" you say "You can't because you don't know where I'm getting it from." This makes her mad for two reasons, her prize tactic does not work anymore and now she's not the only one.


wow.i have NEVER used IT as a prize or withheld it as a threat.WOW


Historically, women are more inclined to use "it" as leverage than men.

Regardless of "history" if someone in the relationship is using sex (or feels the need to use it because there is no real communication) then this relationship is failing. My suggestion to those in this situation is to get out or put some real effort into it. Yeah, as the person above me said I've never use it either (or for that matter faked it either). I can't even imagine a relationship like that----sounds dreadful.
June 10, 2012 11:50 PM
Some men too. I have engaged in casual sex of course. To me...its like empty calories (see what I did there??). I'd much rather have the real thing...and not be wasting my time.


So no mars bars for cris. Lol
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