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Good morning everyone...
(Anyone who has me on Facebook knows I had a really bad start to my day...)
Long story short...Last summer, I hired a babysitter through a licensed childcare agency. Her son is in my daughter's class. At first, all was good, but the woman annoyed me because she constantly complains about having kids around. What the...? If you choose to make a living out of watching children, shouldn't you enjoy having kids around? Anyway, recently her son has been asking my daughter (Britt) if she'd come over and help him entertain the kids that his mom is watching. He got her over on Monday, and said he'd pay her $10. Okay...
Britt came home the other day and said that they wanted her to come over on Thursday (today) to watch the kids again. But this time...for free. I said "Absolutely not." Offensive for two reasons: First of all, no one is going to use my child for free labor. The woman makes about $40/day per child, and I find it offensive that she gets her son to help out for $10 or $15 - and that's for watching 2 or 3 kids. She sits in front of the TV. And my daughter...helping out for free?
Second...It offends me beyond words, that this woman makes a living off of watching kids, when she SO doesn't like having them around. Even worse, the woman just took Foster Parenting classes, and she's giddy with the idea of getting paid! In Canada, they pay about $900/month per child for fostering..
Can you see why I'm upset?
Anyway, when her son called and got me out of bed, he sniped at me, said "Where's Britt? She's supposed to come over and help me watch the kids..."
I asked him "Are you paying her for both Monday and today?" He said No. Just for Monday. So then I said "I won't let her go, Kyle. She'll be over later today, to get her pay for Monday, but I'm not letting her babysit for free."
A few minutes go by, and the mother calls Britt. Says "Kyle is crying because your mom yelled at him."
Holy cow...BS! If I'd yelled, the whole town would have heard me...
Then the mother went on to say "Of course we would have paid you, Britt. You misunderstood..."
Again, BS! Because Britt had already told me that she wasn't getting paid for today, I specifically asked Kyle that question...and the answer was No.
Anyway, I do believe the mother wants to talk to me. And I'm not looking forward to the call. But not for the reasons you might think...
She doesn't intimidate me. I'm worried about me and my mouth going off the deep end...
I know that if she gets me started, I'll start yelling and ranting about the fact that I think she's lazy, exploiting children...and it will likely end with me telling her that I'm going to report her...
So that's a call that I'm definitely avoiding, until I feel more in control.
Anyway, that's my lovely start to the day. Trying very hard to get myself in check, because I try to be a rational, pacifist type of person. I absolutely hate dissension...
And I'm wondering...How many calories have I burned...being so hot under the collar?
My goal today is to erase the craziness of the morning, and have a positive day...
WOW cyndee... just WOW! So, I dont know how it is in Canada, but here..you have to have a license to do daycare under most circumstances. I personally dont need one because I only have 3 kids that I watch and not on a full time basis and thier schedules vary from week to week. I may have them only 1 day.. i might have them 3.
Anyway...You are 100% right! Britt should be getting paid if she is going to help this lady, but you also may want to make sure that it is Legal for Britt to babysit at her age. In the US, they have to be 12 years old and for home daycare ANY child 12 & under counts tward your capacity for the daycare. Home daycare here is limited to 7 children unless you have a certified helper and guess what? Your not gonna find anyone for less than minimum wage to help you.
My kids help here, but they arent forced to. There has been a few times where I have specifically asked my youngest to help me when Ive had the 2 babies and yes, I DO pay her. She is a good helper and very creative.
Just the fact that this lady called Britt, instead of talking to YOU sends up my red flag. If she has a problem with how you talked to her son, then why is she calling your daughter?? That to me doesnt make any sense. I would be on the phone to the parent if I thought my kid was treated rudely by them, so that right there tells me that this lady has NO common sense when it comes to dealing with parents or children. (rolling eyes) I would seriously consider reporting her for her lack of brains... LOL