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April 30, 2012 6:33 AM
I truly understand where you are coming from. But most likely she isn't trying to be ugly toward you. I have a skinny friend who always talks about how she can't gain weight and I want to punch her in the face every time she says it, but I know she isn't being ugly toward me.. Just try to remember that some people will never truly be happy with how they look unless they were once really fat. Until someone has truly struggled with weight they never really understand how fat girls feel :)
April 30, 2012 6:37 AM
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I hate when people complain about other peoples' complaints.


THEN WHY ARE YOU DOING IT?
April 30, 2012 6:40 AM
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I hate it when really SKINNY girls complain that they are fat! Have a "skinny friend" tells me she needs to lose weight becasue she can't even look at herself in the mirror anymore. What that makes me???? A cow??? Do perfect fit people around you say the same thing?

Frankly, it has nothing to do with you. I do not understand how you hear "I need to lose weight because I don't like how I look" and somehow hear "SO I'M A COW THEN???" What, she's only allowed to feel how you think she should?
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April 30, 2012 7:12 AM
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WOW!!!
That's all i can think to say!!!!

When i first posted this topic, I didn't really think much. After reading everyone's posting, i have more to say:

From now on, I won't use the word "SKINNY" when talk about another person because i never want to be called "FAT"
Everyone just as pretty because we should not just look at their outside but more importantly their inside.

Thank you all!!!!

When I get skinny, you can call me skinny all you want, being called SKINNY will NEVER offend me.
April 30, 2012 7:15 AM
Hmmm, well ever thought that they maybe see themselvs not as "skinny" ? its all about how everyobne FEELS in their own skin.
April 30, 2012 7:16 AM
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Everyone has their own targets. I'm sure there are people worse than you but you are allowed to moan about things.

Just cos there is someone worse off, doesn't mean you aren't allowed to want to improve yourself.
April 30, 2012 7:17 AM
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Everyone has their own targets. I'm sure there are people worse than you but you are allowed to moan about things.

Just cos there is someone worse off, doesn't mean you aren't allowed to want to improve yourself.


I whole-heartedly agree with this. I have larger friends who think I'm crazy for feeling big as a size 12, but when i used to be a size 8/10 of course it makes a difference to how I feel. In the same way that I give them my full support to reach their goals and feel good, I expect them to do the same for me.


Agreed.
  1134381
April 30, 2012 7:17 AM
I just tell them they better git on it before it gets outta hand. Been there...
April 30, 2012 7:18 AM
I really wouldn't worry too much about it. It doesn't matter if we (as women, and some men) are 360 lbs or if we are 120 lbs. Everyone is going to find something wrong about themselves. I don't know anyone who thinks that they are absolutely perfect.
April 30, 2012 7:19 AM
We all look at ourselves in the mirror and see things we dont like, skinny, fat, muscular.. some people will always want to see improvements. Being a bigger girl I can't lie, I have been annoyed when thinner than myself girls call themselves fat.. But you really need to look at it in their perspective.. maybe there is room for improvement on their bodies, but it's what THEY feel they need to improve upon. it's not for us to judge.
  21601
April 30, 2012 7:20 AM
I hate it when people complain about other people's complaints and then bring it up and then I get irritated and point out the irony and then someone points out my ironic reply and likens it to a complaint.
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April 30, 2012 7:20 AM
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Everyone has their own targets. I'm sure there are people worse than you but you are allowed to moan about things.

Just cos there is someone worse off, doesn't mean you aren't allowed to want to improve yourself.



^^^THIS! I weigh 97ish pounds and I still think I could cut fat. I don't want to lose weight, but losing fat sounds appealing. So yeah, I am a SKINNY girl complaining about being fat. That doesn't mean I think I am unhealthy, because I know I am.
  5947327
April 30, 2012 7:20 AM
think about what she is saying....she is unhappy with her self image...Intellectually she doesnt see fat....she doesn't see herself realistically and that's a problem. If she is truly skinny, FAT is not the issue. But I am sure her comments get annoying. Plus, her weight or lack of weight does not make you a "cow". Her comments are about her perception of herself.

You need to focus on YOU and what you need to do to be who you want to be.
April 30, 2012 7:21 AM
I don't mind them saying they'd like to lose a couple of pounds, but it does irk me when they look in the mirror, curl their nose at their reflection and say, "Yuck! I'm so fat!" I've gotten so I just say, "Yeah, you should do something about that. You don't wanna end up looking like me." They usually shut up real quick.
April 30, 2012 7:22 AM
This is getting old.
April 30, 2012 7:22 AM
Was it really necessary to bump this 2 month old train wreck of a thread.
  5353380
April 30, 2012 7:22 AM
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Everyone has their own targets. I'm sure there are people worse than you but you are allowed to moan about things.

Just cos there is someone worse off, doesn't mean you aren't allowed to want to improve yourself.


I whole-heartedly agree with this. I have larger friends who think I'm crazy for feeling big as a size 12, but when i used to be a size 8/10 of course it makes a difference to how I feel. In the same way that I give them my full support to reach their goals and feel good, I expect them to do the same for me.


I agree with this as well. To some people I am one of those "skinny girls". I'm 5'2 and currently 131lbs. But everyone has body issues, and at this weight, this is the heaviest i've EVER been, I have stomach and back fat which i've never experienced before, and I don't like it. I am used to sitting around 110-115 so an extra 15-20lbs I really feel. When I say I need to get in shape it's in no way a reflection of what I think of people who are larger than I am at all, it simply means i'm unhappy with how *I* am. Most of the time when it comes to body image people are focused on how THEY look, now how you look, and so when they make comments about themselves, that's their own insercurities showing, not them saying they think you're big. :)
April 30, 2012 7:22 AM
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Was it really necessary to bump this 2 month old train wreck of a thread.


I was thinking the exact same thing. Let it die.
April 30, 2012 7:23 AM
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QUOTE:

Everyone has their own targets. I'm sure there are people worse than you but you are allowed to moan about things.

Just cos there is someone worse off, doesn't mean you aren't allowed to want to improve yourself.



^^^THIS! I weigh 97ish pounds and I still think I could cut fat. I don't want to lose weight, but losing fat sounds appealing. So yeah, I am a SKINNY girl complaining about being fat. That doesn't mean I think I am unhealthy, because I know I am.


wait.. what?
  21601
April 30, 2012 7:24 AM
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That annoys me, too... but a lot of people would call me "skinny". I don't necessarily think I'm fat, I just have a little extra hanging around that I'd like to lose and turn into muscle. A lot of people crave attention and they know that they ARE perceived as skinny so saying that they aren't will get them attention. Then again, there are people with messed up body image ideas and they TRULY think they are fat. If that is the case though, they will attempt to do SOMETHING about it. What annoys me more than this is when skinny fat girls are used for inspiration. SKINNY IS NOT THE SAME AS FIT! :)


It absolutely is not. It pisses me off when I say to my family that my husband is taking a walk with me (125 lb skinny thing, totally unfit though) and they get MAD AT ME because "he doesn't need to exercise!" he still needs cardio work! your heart isn't naturally healthy just because you aren't overweight.
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April 30, 2012 7:24 AM
I have a co-worker that is always coming up with a new gimmick to get 'fit'. To her, this means starving herself or eating that Gob-awful cabbage soup or doing Insanity for 4 days in a row then giving up. Now, I don't fault her for wanting to be fit.... I do however try to gently remind her that it's not going to happen overnight and that she's beautiful as is. I think a lot of this is a defense thing coming from her impending divorce. She's just trying to find something to focus on other than that. It is a bit on the irritating side when she grabs the 1/2" of love handle she might have and squeezes it and *****es for an hour about how huge she is. That's her right and I listen and try to give her some advice when she asks me what I think. I tell her that starting slow will be the best way to ensure she won't have sagging skin and that her body will make a lifetime change. She doesn't listen, but that's her deal, not mine. I do, however, feel so huge when I'm around her and she gets in that mode. Before I started working on my health and weight and fitness, I could lay on my side in bed and have nearly 12 inches of belly spread out beside me. That, my friends, is damn well disgusting. Eh, some people will have a bad self image no matter what. Perhaps its easier for them to criticize themselves than to take on the criticism of others from a different part of their lives.
  10215782
April 30, 2012 7:24 AM
I hear that.....my size 2 friend is always saying that to me.....then she will say " OMG i forgot to eat today and its 4:00" what the hell!
April 30, 2012 7:24 AM
I couldnt have said it better! good job lol
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April 30, 2012 7:24 AM
I think people need to stop complaining and do what needs to be done to improve what they feel is wrong.
  5377565
April 30, 2012 7:24 AM
This is super annoying obviously they should be more focused on their mental health and confidence levels. I have at least 50 lbs to lose and have always been confident. Mental health comes first!

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