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TOPIC: Do you still feel "fat" mentally after a lot of weight loss?

 
October 2, 2012 9:24 AM
Right there with you. I lost 25 pounds now and am now a "normal" BMI. I fit into my goal jeans, I know where a medium shirt, and my stomach is way flatter. I still have 20 or so to lose to be the "perfect" weight thus where I think I still feel just as heavy as before. Im 177 ( im 5'11) but if I get asked I almost always reply 198 then have to correct it. I feel very weird shopping because I feel like when someone sees a medium they are gonna mentally be like "there is no way she's a medium". Sometimes people will be tell me that they can't believe how skinny ive gotten but its hard to mentally accept it when I still feel like the fat girl embarassed
October 2, 2012 9:35 AM
I am 4.2 lbs away from my goal weight. I have lost 60 lbs so far and I know that I am a lot smaller than I have ever been in my adult life. My mother has told me to stop losing weight as my face is too skinny. I went for my yearly checkup yesterday and my doctor said that I need to stop now. 4.2 lbs would put me at my "magic weight/goal weight" that I have never achieved. I don't feel skinny. I still am mentally "fat". I hope that the feeling goes away with time. I want to enjoy being "slim", I can't even use the term "skinny" as it is foreign to me.
October 2, 2012 9:38 AM
I've loss a lil' over 40lbs total (had loss weight prior to joining MFP) and I can't say I feel "ridiculously" fat/overweight, but I feel like I should be alot thinner LOL!!! I think it's a "mind" thing and I've been told alot of times when we look at ourselves daily, it's sometimes "hard" to see what others see. If it wasn't for people telling me they can tell I've loss weight or for my clothes feeling a lot less "tight" (some even too big), I'd think my weight was the same too
Edited by jakidb On October 2, 2012 9:39 AM
October 2, 2012 10:49 AM
QUOTE:

YES!!!
I've lost 53 lbs and it doesn't feel like I've lost anything. I didn't "mentally" realize I lost weight until I did a before and after picture. Then my jaw dropped and it put everything in perspective. Our minds can be silly at times. :-)


^^ This exactly! 53 pounds down and didn't realize the difference until a picture with my husband on Sunday night. I was shocked and I keep trying to find that girl again, every time I look in the mirror.
  15955374
October 3, 2012 4:06 AM
All the time. In fact, yesterday I folded a pair of my jeans and I thought to myself... "there's no way my body will fit into these." I think the same thought every time I fold my clothes. Everything fits, of course (it's all brand new) but my eyes and mind always play that trick on me.

It doesn't help that I probably have 20 more pounds to lose. I still feel the burden of extra weight, even though I'm 45 pounds down.
Edited by Cornmuffin On October 3, 2012 4:06 AM
  6813101
October 3, 2012 7:00 AM
bump for reading later.
  27677202
October 3, 2012 12:30 PM
QUOTE:

Yes. Especially when I take my measurements. Because my measurements actually aren't showing any inches lost, which is FRUSTRATING because I've lost 25 pounds already...how can I NOT lose inches when I lose 25 pounds??? But, my body IS obviously changing. That's evident when I wear my yoga pants to go running and they are now slipping off my hips. Also, I have a pair of jeans that are wayyyy too big. But then I try on the next size down and those are too small still...wtf? So yes, I do still feel fat.


THIS IS SOOO ME!!! FINALLY SOMEONE THAT FEELS THE SAME AS ME!!! i GET SO EXCITED WHEN MY PANTS ARE JUST HANGING ON ME. THEY ARE SO BIG THAT I FEEL LIKE I CAN SO DOWN 2 SIZES BUT JUST NOT THERE YET. I'VE BEEN A 13 AND IF I WERE GO TRY A 9 I WOULD HAVE TO SQUEEEEZE THEM ON
  6803913
October 3, 2012 12:34 PM
Yes. I've been overweight all my adult life, and obese for most of it, and morbidly obese for a lot. Even with a BMI of 25.1, I still alternate between thinking of myself as "fat" with occasional bursts of "normal". Then again, 30 years of history of being "fat" has left me with a distorted self-image that's going to take me some time to get over.

Consciously, I know I'm not huge any more. But it might take years for me to really feel that way about myself.
  20407831
November 9, 2012 5:42 PM
yes, iv been overweight my entire life. i did Crossfit this summer and lost 70 pounds in just over 4 months. i can run a mile in under 7 minutes, and am training for a half marathon. I'm in the best shape of my life, but i still feel fat. i know i shouldn't, people tell me all the time i look skinny, but i just still feel fat and ugly.
November 9, 2012 5:55 PM
your doing great. smaller clothes really helps. put on something rather large, then put something on smaller. that will trick your brain, and you will see how fabulous you look.. i am at 40 lbs loss, and i still have my days. but i trick my brain.
  22489451
November 9, 2012 5:57 PM
I still do sometimes, esp when I bloat or carry water weight.
  953407
November 9, 2012 5:57 PM
I feel the same way you do and understand totally as I have lost alot before I got on here. My clothes are way too big for me now, but I go to the same sizes that you do when I am in a store.
November 9, 2012 5:59 PM
YES!! I know exactly how you feel. I still go straight for the XL in the back of the rack before realizing that I am not that size anymore. However, I see that mistake as a positive thing because when it dawns on me that I am not that size, I smile and work my way up to the mediums :)

On the down side of your brain not catching up with your body....it can be frustrating to look in the mirror and not see any changes. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I can't figure out where I even got smaller. I feel like I'm the same I've always been, overweight. HOwever, I have actually lost nearly 50 pounds and certainly have major changes in my body.

The solution....be POSITIVE and don't always believe the mirror. AND, enjoy the fact that you get to remind yourself that you are a medium and no longer an XL
  3963062
November 9, 2012 6:04 PM
I have been between 135-140 for almost 3 years now, at this size 6.

My goal weight was 167 and a size 12.


I feel fat. All the time.
  7782557
November 9, 2012 7:48 PM
Isn't this incredible? Maybe we all should just accept that this happens and get on with our lives, lol. The first thing I do in the morning is check to make sure I haven't gained back all my weight during the night. Obsessive much??

Lately I've noticed that I feel normal more often than I feel fat, which is a great improvement. It will only get better.
November 10, 2012 2:56 PM
OMG! This was a year ago! A lot has happened to me since. Thank you to a MFP memeber for sending me a message, I have forgotten all about this thread.

In the span of this full year I have :

1) Lost 50lbs total
2) Ran a 10k and beat my time by almost 4 minutes
3) Ran a Half Marathon
4) Hiked 14 miles.
5) Average pace went from 10:00-10:30 down to 8:50-930 on runs under 10 miles
6) Next week Running, Spartan Beast Mud run (10-13 mile obstacle course)
7) Went from 0 pulls to 6 pull ups
8) Got featured on CNN for losing weight
Edited by directorj On November 10, 2012 2:57 PM
  10284255
November 10, 2012 2:57 PM
So I ask myself again this question and the answer is, it's not as extreme and my old fat self is wearing off. I don't even remember having the huge stomach. I got rid of all the fat problems/ insecurities I have and turned into a whole new person.
  10284255
November 10, 2012 2:59 PM
YES!!!! I automatically go to the plus size section even though I wear a 12/14. I often have to return something because I get an XL.
  18638030
November 10, 2012 3:01 PM
WOW!! That is amazing! Good for you!!

QUOTE:

OMG! This was a year ago! A lot has happened to me since. Thank you to a MFP memeber for sending me a message, I have forgotten all about this thread.

In the span of this full year I have :

1) Lost 50lbs total
2) Ran a 10k and beat my time by almost 4 minutes
3) Ran a Half Marathon
4) Hiked 14 miles.
5) Average pace went from 10:00-10:30 down to 8:50-930 on runs under 10 miles
6) Next week Running, Spartan Beast Mud run (10-13 mile obstacle course)
7) Went from 0 pulls to 6 pull ups
8) Got featured on CNN for losing weight
  18638030
November 10, 2012 3:04 PM
YES! Then I see myself in the mirror and I have to stop and take a closer look to make sure that's really me.
  24332120
November 10, 2012 3:05 PM
You are most certainly not alone. I'm a size 4 but I'm an unhealthy size 4... I'm blessed with a tiny waste but that's all that is tiny on me. Even though I lost so much weight to get to this size, my brain thinks like a fat girl and I always see the problems instead of how far I've come.

It's time to change that mentality and remember that you deserve only the best. Think about this - if your friend talked to you the same way you talk to yourself, would he or she still be your friend? ;)
November 10, 2012 3:06 PM
I feel a bit freakish looking in the mirror. Don't get me wrong I look a lot better since I have lost some weight. But I was looking at myself in the mirror and it was like a strangers body infront of me. I still have some way to go but I think even after I get to the right size for me, I will feeling strange for a while.
November 10, 2012 3:08 PM
Yes LOL. But then again I'm still 240 so I guess I am still fat technnnnically speaking.
November 10, 2012 3:09 PM
Yes I still feel fat even though everyone keeps calling me skinny and I'm far from it!!!
  13172813
November 10, 2012 3:15 PM
Yes. But then, I'm an obsessive perfectionist. As long as there's still obvious visible fat I'll feel fat. I set myself quite ludicrous (and possibly unattainable) standards.

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