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October 18, 2011 9:56 PM
With my return to fulltime employment just around the other end of this weekend, and the fact that I no longer live in Southern California and can't get away with capri's and flipflops since it snows here in Pennsylvania, and needing to buy cheap to get me through weight loss numbers....
I thought I'd ask for clothing advice. I went to Marshalls but it was just a mish mash of stuff and overwhelming.
How do you match pieces of clothing with accessories? How to pic pieces that work different ways?
What is appropriate for a 40 year old fat woman for business casual?
Are there any good websites to teach me how to conservatively dress my age/body style that will enhance my appearance?
Maybe even give me examples of outfits to start eyeing things.

i.e. learning the stuff of "What Not to Wear"....
October 18, 2011 10:09 PM
Check out Lane Bryant, Woman Within, and Roamans. They all have great professional looks that won't break the bank if you stick to a few pieces. They also have a great clearance section with some things at 75% off.
Oh, I almost forgot....If you don't have a problem with gently used, E-bay has some terrific deals.

Good luck.
Tif
October 18, 2011 10:12 PM
I know where to buy clothes, just don't know how to put it together and pick what looks best for my shape.
October 18, 2011 10:13 PM
Try not to buy anything too cheap - the cheaper the fabric, the less flattering will be the item. I'd prefer to spend a little more money on a few nicer pieces that coordinate, which you can change up. Try Kohl's. I know you have them in PA, and I always find good things on the clearance racks.
I always try to keep the clothes simple and classic, and dress them up with some more interesting accessories, like a large necklace, or a fun bag or shoes. A favorite outfit of mine is black pants, with a solid, burgundy fitted (not skintight) buttondown shirt and a big fun necklace with my burgundy suede heels.
Stacy and Clinton always say, "dress the body you have", and that's great advice that I know is hard to follow. Don't shortchange yourself now.
Just remember to pick items you feel comfortable in, rather than items you think others will like. Play to your coloring, from your picture it's not super easy to tell, but I bet you could pull off some really pretty blues, maybe dark reds/burgundy - jewel tones tend to work well for a lot of people.
Above all, have fun with this. I know it's difficult to shop when you're heavy, believe me, I know, but the more fun you can have with it, the happier you will be at the end of the day.
Good luck! You may have to carve out a day or two for shopping, but the better you feel NOW, the more likely you are to continue to work at your weight loss plan.
October 18, 2011 10:22 PM
Love that show! Some of the basics they always cover that really do help: purchase a size that fits the largest part of you (hips here for me) and get the rest tailored. Properly-fitting clothes make all the difference. Buy quality pieces: you might find a cheapy pencil skirt (this style looks good on most ladies) that is unlined and will fall apart or pill after a few wearings but spend a few more bucks to get the lined wool blend (love Banana Republic suiting) and you won't regret it. Get fitted jackets to layer over blouses: if there aren't darts (seams) front and back (in addition to the sides, of course) you will look boxy. Mid-hip is a good length on everyone - don't think you can disguise a body part by hanging something long over it - just makes it worse. Get a few basics if you are going through sizes on your way down in weight: black and grey pencil skirts, navy and black slacks, a black blazer in the same fabric as the bottoms. Use blouses and accessories to bring the color in. No skirts more than one inch above the knee, wear heels (pumps or boots) with everything, wide leg pants make you look taller if they fit well. Dark wash trouser denim is office appropriate in some places. Layer camis under thin blouses, consider a control garment as well if you have "rolls" to smooth. Great fitting bras make a ton of difference - a lot of people recommend Nordstrom for a fitting. TiVo "What not to wear" - they make shopping look way easier than it is though. Personally I don't have time to root around at Marshall's but you can get deals there if you have the time. When you buy the accessories and blouses, look for colors that make you feel confident. I don't believe in overdressing for business casual - people always err the other direction. No long skirts if you are under 5'8". So to keep the budget down choose fewer pieces for the basics. Kohl's has great sales for the tops and accessories and not nearly as hard to find things as Marshall's. As far as matching, go for "neutrals" in your bottoms and jackets (until you are down to size and have the bucks to splurge a bit) and then choose a color you love for the accessories - more important than matching. Shop the pricier stores for looks (Ann Taylor, Talbots, Banana Republic) but buy everything on sale, where ever you can find it, if the quality is good. Hope this helps.
October 19, 2011 5:59 AM
LOVE that show!!

My basic work wardrobe is slacks and lightweight sweaters. I have a few blazers when I have an important meeting, but I generally don't like wearing them. Too confining, unless they have some stretch.

I have a few scarves for accessorizing. Makes me feel a little dressier.

I agree with the advice of buying quality. I hate throwing away 30 bucks on cheap clothes, when I could have just spent 50 on a higher quality, which will last longer.

I've been shopping at Loft lately. I swear they have vanity sizing, but I'll take it! I can fit into an 8! I also like Charter Club and I-N-C at Macy's.

Good luck!!
October 19, 2011 6:40 AM
Black pants are a must, they go with anything. Khaki pants if it is acceptable. I would get a few blazers because you can dress those up or down. Button shirts are always good and professional looking. Pull on light weight sweaters as well. I would get basic shoes for now, black and brown and then get more as time goes on. I would start with the clothes first and you can always accessorize later. Good luck and congrats for joining the workforce again!
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October 19, 2011 11:33 AM
Start with a couple pair of good fitting basic black pants - the nicest you can afford because you'll be wearing them a LOT! Layer from there. I can wear a pair of black docker style pants with a nice sweater, black dress pants with a pretty blouse, or turn those same black dress pants into a suit pairing them with a nice tank style top and a black lined blazer. I own about 3 pair of black pants, a pair of tan, a black blazer and a red blazer. Those are my foundation pieces and I just vary what type of top and jewelry I wear to either dress it up or down. If you are a skirt gal (I'm so NOT) start with a nice lined black pencil skirt and repeat the above - same basic idea. With the skirts and blazers, I definitely recommend lined - better for how they drape, how things fit under them, and how long they will hold up.

You can never go wrong with the classics!
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October 19, 2011 11:49 AM
I'm 44 and have 3 younger sisters who are always happy to tell me what "my age" group should and should not wear. I tend to wear black pants with a solid colored shirt. You can even get t-shirt type material and dress it up with a scarf or chunky jewelry. I also do tank tops with a sweater or blazer. Printed blouses will make you appear bigger than you are, so I stick with solid.
October 19, 2011 12:47 PM
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Start with a couple pair of good fitting basic black pants - the nicest you can afford because you'll be wearing them a LOT! Layer from there. I can wear a pair of black docker style pants with a nice sweater, black dress pants with a pretty blouse, or turn those same black dress pants into a suit pairing them with a nice tank style top and a black lined blazer. I own about 3 pair of black pants, a pair of tan, a black blazer and a red blazer. Those are my foundation pieces and I just vary what type of top and jewelry I wear to either dress it up or down. If you are a skirt gal (I'm so NOT) start with a nice lined black pencil skirt and repeat the above - same basic idea. With the skirts and blazers, I definitely recommend lined - better for how they drape, how things fit under them, and how long they will hold up.

You can never go wrong with the classics!


^^ This - great advice right here.
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October 19, 2011 3:19 PM
i'm a big fan of Target while I'm at a weight that I won't be (or plan to be at) for long
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