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TOPIC: Adopt a Noob - Official MFP thread

 
January 3, 2014 8:29 AM
I wouldn't mind trying to help out a newbie.

I've been at this for nearly 3yrs now. Lost 151 in the first 18 months, gained 20-25 and re-lost it a couple of times this past yr or so while going through some stuff (death in the family, health issues with my special needs child) and on my way back down at the moment.

I lead a fitness group and run as much as I can. I consider myself the poster child for "you cannot out-exercise a bad diet". Lol

It's not in my personality to drag anyone along...you have to want this for yourself and take the steps to get yourself there. You have to suck it up and push through your excuses or it's just not gonna happen. I did this with so many excuses not to and zero support at home and so can you, if you have to. I can't do this for you, but I will walk through this with you.

I won't pick on you about your food, but if you aren't eating enough, I will say so. I don't want you to fail!

If you have more than 100lbs to lose and are truly ready to invest in yourself (because you ARE worth the hard work and dedication this will take), maybe I can help.

Trish
  9107625
January 3, 2014 10:20 AM
I'm up for mentoring also.

I'm 5'9" 33 years old and have fat to lose. I've lost 33 lbs and have 92 to go. With that being said, I refuse to stave myself. I eat whole foods and relatively a lot of them. My main workout comes from boxing which I love! I like to do challenges to target areas that I want to improve. For example a 30 day pushup challenge, or a 30 day plank challenge. etc.

I eat a higher number of calories (I can explain my math later when we are friends) and I use my FitBit to track my daily activity and calories burned. :) I'm big on drinking water and keeping calories/carbs/proteins/fats in balance. I'm very active on MyFitnessPal and will keep up with your activities, diet etc. If I have a craving for some type of food I will eat it, maybe just a bit of it but I won't deprive myself. If that sounds like a good fit then feel free to send me a request (and yes please include a message with your request).

I've been on here for a bit and I'll be around for even longer. :)
-Shannon
January 3, 2014 10:34 AM
All, for those who are volunteering, I would suggest making your profiles public. This will help with new members a bit as they can track some of your post prior to sending a friend request.
January 3, 2014 1:07 PM
I would accept helping out new people on MFP!

I am a nurse, I am 32, I have lost 70lbs over the last 2 years most of it on my own but have come top MFP to keep me accountable and to help get rid of the last 20lbs.
I understand the struggles of loosing weight while working long hours and shift work.
I want to motivate you to feel your best and look your best! This is a journey not a sprint. I am also a really bad runner, I have done 5 half marathons and handfuls of 5km and 10km runs. I am not fast, I am just about finishing with a better time than my last run!
I currently am doing Turbo Fire daily and logging my food daily. I fall off the wagon, I eat things I shouldn't but in moderation it seems to be working for me. I don't judge only encourage!
Please PM if you are interested, I look forward to working with you to reach your goals!!
  39945701
January 3, 2014 5:09 PM
I am interested in mentoring too.

About me: I am 38 and from Long Island, New York. I have a high activity level but I am not a runner. My Fitbit One keeps me accountable by tracking my steps, distance traveled and calories burned. I walk everywhere. I don't eat clean but I also don't eat fast food or drink soda.

Successful weight loss is comprehensive. Its based on what you eat, where you eat, how much you eat, when you eat and why you eat it. I will look at your current lifestyle and hold you accountable as you make gradual changes you can stick with. Movement is also important. Many exercises may be challenging for larger people so I will suggest movements they can do.

I do not believe in “lose weight quickly” schemes. You didn’t gain the weight overnight so you won’t lose it overnight. But if you are committed to losing the weight I am committed to helping you.
January 3, 2014 6:40 PM
My post was also entirely sincere, but, you know, once the balloon has popped, I'm not entirely keen on going back to the carny and getting another. At that point I just finish my cotton candy, go home, and create plans to burn the circus down.
January 3, 2014 7:09 PM
After posting my MFP success story on the forums, a member suggested I "adopt a noob". I thought they were playing, until I saw this thread. With that being said, I will throw my hat in the ring as well to be a mentor.

I've been on MFP for nearly 2 years. When I first joined, I weighed 461.2 pounds. In my first 18 months, I lost 235 pounds naturally- just eating better and exercising (ya know, "the good ol' fashioned way"!) I set small goals and big goals when I joined, and have worked diligently to achieve them. Amongst my goals were to run a half marathon (I've completed 7) and a marathon (I've completed 3). My next big goals include a 50K and a 50 miler this year. To say I've gone from one extreme to the next would probably be an understatement, but I love this new lifestyle so much its hard not to become addicted to taking full advantage of all life has to offer.

I am a health and physical education major in school, so when I graduate in 3 semesters I'll be able to teach P.E. or coach athletics. I am pursuing my personal trainer certification, as well, which I hope to earn by this summer. I blog online regularly about my faith-based approach to weight loss, and I have an online FB group that offers encouragement and support to those seeking a healthier lifestyle.

I know what's it like to be morbidly obese, and to be overwhelmed by a number on the scale. I know what it's like to hit rock bottom and to worry about whether or not you'll be alive to celebrate your loved ones' next birthday. I know what it's like to not fit into booths at the restaurant, the seats at the movie theater, or the seats on an airplane. I know what it's like to be out breath from just bending over to tie your shoe. I know what it's like to have to shop at a big and tall and be limited to tacky Hawaiian print polos. I know- it sucks. But, it's also possible to overcome.

I'm one of many examples how with hard work, determination, perseverance, and a little extra help from others you CAN lose the weight and do things you had once thought impossible. I can provide nutritional and fitness advice, as well as encouragement and support through nearly every situation. If you need a mentor, and I sound like your guy, feel free to send a request with a message referencing this thread :)
  7866889
January 3, 2014 8:13 PM
Bump to follow.

Not to mentor at this time. I'm more active in the forums and kind of a terrible friend.
I mean I'm awesome, but not as a mentor at this time.
  20711900
January 3, 2014 8:15 PM
I just want to say, thank you guys so much. Sorry that this movement got derailed, I feel really bad about that because it is a really great thing for the MFP community. I really appreciate all the nice things you guys have said because you all give that to me and much more. I feel very lucky to have you all as friends, or if I am not lucky enough to have you as a friend, I look up to you very much. To any potential noobs, hopefully the one person didn't scare you off. That is all, thanks again you guys.
January 3, 2014 8:16 PM
QUOTE:

I just want to say, thank you guys so much. Sorry that this movement got derailed, I feel really bad about that because it is a really great thing for the MFP community. I really appreciate all the nice things you guys have said because you all give that to me and much more. I feel very lucky to have you all as friends, or if I am not lucky enough to have you as a friend, I look up to you very much. To any potential noobs, hopefully the one person didn't scare you off. That is all, thanks again you guys.


Don't worry, hun, the mods will clean it up.
  4822651
January 3, 2014 8:32 PM
I'm a noob too (I'm not even sure if I did the quotes right). I've reached out to a few veterans for mentoring and they have not accepted me. That's totally fine, I get it. My goals or situation may be different than what they are willing or able to help with. I respect that and quite frankly, I appreciate the honesty. Move on and eventually you'll figure out where you fit. At least that's what I'm hoping for myself!
January 3, 2014 8:33 PM
We are willing to mentor and volunteer our time. That means we can put whatever restrictions we want on it. It's ours to give. You probably get something for free and then complain that it's the wrong color.

I'm not even friends with Haley and I'm compelled to come to her defense. Your behavior is unacceptable, and that is why none of us is likely to take you on.

If you have personality conflicts with *everyone*... perhaps it's not because everyone else is a jerk.
  33519010
January 3, 2014 8:35 PM
All silliness aside, I'd be happy to spend a few minutes a day keeping someone on a right track to health(y|ier) living.

I'm truly grateful I stumbled upon myfitnesspal. The community here has done a magnificent job of creating a welcoming environment for persons new to living a healthier life and I'd be glad to contribute to that community by helping a new member get on a right track.
January 3, 2014 8:49 PM
Please get this thread back on topic or it will have to be locked.

The guideline in question reads:

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Please stay on-topic in an existing thread, and post new threads in the appropriate forum. Taking a thread off-topic is considered hi-jacking. Please either contribute politely and constructively to a topic, or move on without posting. This includes posts that encourage the drama in a topic to escalate, or posts intended to incite an uproar from the community.

Please take some time to review the site's guidelines at the following link:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/welcome/guidelines

Best regards,
Ed
MyFitnessPal Forum Moderator
  12269569
January 3, 2014 8:51 PM
Sorry Ed, didn't see you there =)
Edited by Sarauk2sf On January 3, 2014 8:53 PM
  18358448
January 3, 2014 8:57 PM
QUOTE:

Please get this thread back on topic or it will have to be locked.

The guideline in question reads:

2. No Hi-Jacking, Trolling, or Flame-baiting

Please stay on-topic in an existing thread, and post new threads in the appropriate forum. Taking a thread off-topic is considered hi-jacking. Please either contribute politely and constructively to a topic, or move on without posting. This includes posts that encourage the drama in a topic to escalate, or posts intended to incite an uproar from the community.

Please take some time to review the site's guidelines at the following link:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/welcome/guidelines

Best regards,
Ed
MyFitnessPal Forum Moderator


Just quoting to emphasize.

This is a great thread and has the best intention. Let's not let one person ruin it by derailing itflowerforyou .
  18358448
January 3, 2014 8:58 PM
QUOTE:

QUOTE:

Please get this thread back on topic or it will have to be locked.

The guideline in question reads:

2. No Hi-Jacking, Trolling, or Flame-baiting

Please stay on-topic in an existing thread, and post new threads in the appropriate forum. Taking a thread off-topic is considered hi-jacking. Please either contribute politely and constructively to a topic, or move on without posting. This includes posts that encourage the drama in a topic to escalate, or posts intended to incite an uproar from the community.

Please take some time to review the site's guidelines at the following link:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/welcome/guidelines

Best regards,
Ed
MyFitnessPal Forum Moderator


Just quoting to emphasize.

This is a great thread and has the best intention. Let's not let one person ruin it by derailing itflowerforyou .


Agreed. Thanks, Ed.
  4822651
January 3, 2014 9:06 PM
Just wanted to drop in and offer my support for Hayley and for this thread. MFP is a great community, and there are SO MANY successful people here. The fact that many of them have offered to step forward and give direct help to people who are just starting out is a great thing. I never would have made it as far as I have without all of the valuable information they've all posted on the forums this past year. Thanks to all of you! I hope this thread leads to many more success stories. smile
Edited by bajoyba On January 3, 2014 9:07 PM
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January 3, 2014 9:11 PM
Also wanted to add that I'm not technically a noob, there's still a lot I don't know and I really appreciate all the advice and experience that y'all have to give. If an "adopt a lurker" project starts up, count me in! flowerforyou
  11232678
January 3, 2014 9:16 PM
Back to the original topic.....

I wonder where PU is? He would make a great mentor. flowerforyou bigsmile
  20711900
January 3, 2014 9:24 PM
I would take a noob or two. I am a professional working mom. I lost almost 30 lbs over 6 months and have been in maintenance for a few months. I am a daily logger. Message me!
  22957279
January 3, 2014 9:37 PM
From my experience designing and participating in mentoring programs, it's important to remember this is a two way matching process - a mentoring relationship requires a commitment from both the mentor and mentee, and it needs to work for both of their needs.

Those looking for a mentor should consider talking to a number of the volunteers, and really discuss your needs, what you hope to achieve, the type of help you're looking for, and how you see the mentor fitting in.

To be effective, mentors need to be a good fit with the potential mentee - if it's not going to work or meet their needs, it is important they not sign up for something that won't work out. They can and should say no if it doesn't feel right, and the potential mentee should try to understand that this is really a good thing. Keep on looking.
  14276110
January 3, 2014 10:07 PM
I don't know if I should be offering to be a mentor or not since I've only been at this for 9 months now. However in those 9 months I've learnt a lot. A lot about myself, the things that caused me to gain weight, how to become a better more successful and driven person and more about health, fitness and nutrition. I'm still learning - it's a lifelong process.

A bit about me. I'm a 22 year old Canadian girl. I'm small [5'1] but I still love to eat! I used to hate exercise but now I love feeling strong and like I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. I know I'll lose all this weight, it's just a matter of time (I don't have any time limits, it'll come off when it comes off, I just have to stick to my plan). This is a lifestyle to me. I'm not just here to lose weight, I'm working on becoming a better person. Happier, healthier and more positive!

If you...
- love food then I could be your girl
- are looking for tips/advice from someone who struggles with portion control, then I could be your girl.
- are looking for someone who used to hate exercise and learnt how to incorporate it into a healthy lifestyle, then I could be your girl.
- are looking for someone who constantly struggles with emotional eating and can help you with your emotional eating issues, then I could be your girl.
- are interested in the TDEE method/want to eat as much as possible while still becoming a smaller person, I could be your girl
- want someone who will learn along with you (this is something I'm still learning about myself)
- are interested in more than just the number on the scale, I could be your girl

Send me a PM with some of your likes/dislikes, weight loss and fitness goals

However, if you...
- are looking for a quick fix and want to lose at a unhealthy/unsustainable pace (over 1-2lbs/week) then I'm not your girl.
- want to do low carb/low fat/low calories/no gluten/eat clean or any other restrictive diet (that doesn't have a medical basis) then I'm not your girl.
- look at food as good/bad or healthy/unhealthy or want to cut your calories and see food as the enemy then I won't be a good match

Losing fat is simple, but that doesn't make it easy. Dedication, commitment and consistency are key. Everyone has good days and bad days; it's the trend over time that really matters. (That being said, I'm human and some days my mental state is better than others too).

ETA: sorry for the long post but I just want to make sure that any potential mentee and I are seeing eye to eye before we make a commitment to one another!
Edited by EHisCDN On January 3, 2014 10:12 PM
  40492383
January 3, 2014 10:16 PM
QUOTE:

From my experience designing and participating in mentoring programs, it's important to remember this is a two way matching process - a mentoring relationship requires a commitment from both the mentor and mentee, and it needs to work for both of their needs.

Those looking for a mentor should consider talking to a number of the volunteers, and really discuss your needs, what you hope to achieve, the type of help you're looking for, and how you see the mentor fitting in.

To be effective, mentors need to be a good fit with the potential mentee - if it's not going to work or meet their needs, it is important they not sign up for something that won't work out. They can and should say no if it doesn't feel right, and the potential mentee should try to understand that this is really a good thing. Keep on looking.


Very good advice imo.
  18358448
January 4, 2014 6:26 AM
I'd like to volunteer as a mentor....


STATS:
I'm 29. Married, and live in New Jersey. Since joinng MFP I have lost 60lbs. I love to lift, exercise, and stay active. I also knit, obsess over my favorite shows (big bang theory, once upon a time, and bones are at the top of my list), movies, and I love reading, broadway, kingdom hearts, and other various things.


Here is the post I wrote 2 days ago (january 2nd):


Hello, I'm CeCe and I've been a member of MFP for just about 2 years. Infact, New Year's Eve was both my Birthday and my 710th day of logging in:

"LilacDreamer has logged in for 710 days in a row!
1 day ago"


In that time that I've learned a lot, and i've grown a lot. I'm not perfect, and my goals sometimes change, but one things for sure, this is a marathon, not a sprint. This journey is eternal. It's not about fad dieting, eliminating this or that, etc. It's about changing your lifestyle, for good.

Longterm Goals: I'd like to get healthy enough for my husband and I to start planning to have our first child.

Personal Achievements: One of them would be... being able to lift 60 lbs (arms). When I started I had no muscle tone and 8 lbs was "Sooo Heavy". For those that know me, they know that building muscle is not easy for me because I am limited to 35 grams of protein per day, and have been since I was born due to a medical condition. Actually, to be specific, the amino acids that most people use to build muscle are toxic to me in large quantities. So for me, this was an achievement, and one that I plan to continue building on.

In 2013 I was derailed for a number of months because our home was being invaded by mold spores. My husband had a severe allergic reaction to them, so we left and moved in to my mother in law's house for a number of months. We've been back for a little over a month and I am climbing back up the mountain and continuing my journey. If you'd like to join me, please know that i don't have all the answers, but I have a lot of them, and what I don't know, we'll find out together.

I won't set a limit as to how many "noobs" I'll add. If you're interested in being "adopted", mentored, and making a new friend that never gives up, please contact me.
Edited by LilacDreamer On January 4, 2014 6:48 AM
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