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TOPIC: Adopt a Noob - Official MFP thread

 
July 22, 2014 6:14 PM
I would like to be a mentor! :) My name is Amber, I'm 25, and live in Louisiana. I am no true expert, but I've been a member of MFP since 2011 and have lost and kept off 42 lbs. If you're looking for someone to check in on you and hold you accountable, you've found the right girl! I'm not on any diet, nor have I had experience with diets. This is a healthy lifestyle journey, not some fad diet you can quit once you reach your "goal". We're in this for life! I also don't have a gym membership. I did when I was in college, but then that freebie was gone when I graduated. I didn't rely very heavily on the gym when I was in school either. I am mostly a product of the at home gym! Living proof that you can make big changes all at home! I promote clean eating and staying active! If I'm speaking your language, feel free to message me! :)
  5718223
July 25, 2014 8:04 AM
Can someone adopt me:-) pwetty please? I'm 33 been doing boot camp for a year to date stopped the past 2 months but now in the gym trying to eat right (see diary hope I am) and now want to get into lifting BAD but have no clue what to do in the gym etc I wanna be toned and have definition. I am having trouble with macros etc I don't understand the lingo or how to calculate anything. I am not please with my boot camp results I lost 30 lbs but I'm skinny fat ugh :-( I am extremely determined and willing to take all the advice I can get to reach my goal. I am also in st pete fl if anyone in the area. I cant afford a personal trainer and hoping someone can help me I'm really motivated but it gets discouraging when I don't know what I'm doing :-( please !
  46792147
July 26, 2014 7:42 AM
I couldn't help you with calculating macros or anything like that, but I will definitely adopt you to help with the clean eating and exercise ideas!!!

QUOTE:

Can someone adopt me:-) pwetty please? I'm 33 been doing boot camp for a year to date stopped the past 2 months but now in the gym trying to eat right (see diary hope I am) and now want to get into lifting BAD but have no clue what to do in the gym etc I wanna be toned and have definition. I am having trouble with macros etc I don't understand the lingo or how to calculate anything. I am not please with my boot camp results I lost 30 lbs but I'm skinny fat ugh :-( I am extremely determined and willing to take all the advice I can get to reach my goal. I am also in st pete fl if anyone in the area. I cant afford a personal trainer and hoping someone can help me I'm really motivated but it gets discouraging when I don't know what I'm doing :-( please !
  5718223
July 26, 2014 8:18 AM
QUOTE:

I couldn't help you with calculating macros or anything like that, but I will definitely adopt you to help with the clean eating and exercise ideas!!!

QUOTE:

Can someone adopt me:-) pwetty please? I'm 33 been doing boot camp for a year to date stopped the past 2 months but now in the gym trying to eat right (see diary hope I am) and now want to get into lifting BAD but have no clue what to do in the gym etc I wanna be toned and have definition. I am having trouble with macros etc I don't understand the lingo or how to calculate anything. I am not please with my boot camp results I lost 30 lbs but I'm skinny fat ugh :-( I am extremely determined and willing to take all the advice I can get to reach my goal. I am also in st pete fl if anyone in the area. I cant afford a personal trainer and hoping someone can help me I'm really motivated but it gets discouraging when I don't know what I'm doing :-( please !



Another successful adoption. I love it when a plan comes together. For macro ideas, you could both have a look at this thread...

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

Specifically, this link from that thread.....

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819055-setting-your-calorie-and-macro-targets

And quite possibly figure out Melissa's targets.

I'm no expert, either, but it looks like her targets are a bit off. But that she's actually eating better than her targets. That is, her protein target is 60, but she's consistently hitting 115 for protein. And any questions you can't answer for her, one of you can always post the question in the forums, as well.

Good luck !
  49454167
July 27, 2014 3:00 PM
I would like a mentor.. I'm 18 and trying to lose baby weight. Don't have a lot of time but I try to make due. Need some one to help and keep me in line. T_T
Starting college very soon and having trouble maintaining calories. Also need help knowing how many calories I need to eat!
July 27, 2014 8:41 PM
I would like to volunteer as a cautionary tale. If someone out there wishes to be mentored in how to be profane, lose friends, and alienate people I'm your huckleberry. I'm not going to read your diary. And I'm not going to celebrate every time you do 20 minutes on an elliptical. I will, however, make this whole process at least a little bit more bearable. Well, more bearable for me. Probably at your expense. Seriously, just go workout already. Less talky talky. More lifty lifty. Jeeeeez.
July 27, 2014 8:52 PM
If there's a midlife mentor looking to adopt a fellow 50ish member embarking on a journey to get fit in this phase of life, I'd love it! I'm not currently tracking food in my diary (I already know what to and how to do it), so it's more about being g accountable to come here regularly, as well as to stay on track with regular exercise and eating. I'm a married woman with a dog and four cats, currently teaching college online and swimming, reading, going on day trips, and generally enjoying life.
  70187226
July 27, 2014 9:39 PM
I would love a mentor! I'm 35 with over 100 lbs to lose. I have been on and off of MFP for a couple years, but never used it for the support. I want to make this time work!
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July 29, 2014 1:35 AM
Would be interested in a mentor. I'm 30 and as you can see from my pic need to lose 50 lbs. Currently 233. Plan to go to the gym 5 or 6 days a week. Mostly eat well and try to eat fruits and vegetables often. On day 4 now. Any help would be appreciated. Goal ultimately is to be healthy and have low body fat
July 29, 2014 2:10 AM
I'm happy to mentor, I can help you with all aspects, nutritions and exercise.
July 29, 2014 2:53 AM
Bump for later!
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July 29, 2014 3:04 AM
Hello I'm looking for a mentor.

I'm 23 years old and has been overweight for as long as I can remember. I recently came out of a depression and starting to take control of my life and that means choosing to be healthier and happier.

I'm 5'1 and weighs 191 lbs. looking to be around 115-120. I've tried Diets before but I've never had the right attitude and commitment to keep at it. What I'm looking to do now is a lifestyle change, eat healthier and be more active. I've recently lost 10 lbs. just by cutting off pop and sweets drastically and I know it's possible if I stay committed and work hard for it.

I'm interested in finding a friend/mentor that would help me keep motivated and on track. Preferably someone who is knowledgeable or has experience when it comes to food/nutrition.
July 29, 2014 3:59 AM
:) I'll happily adopt a noob, but let me tell you something about my 'diet' first so you can see if I match your goals.

1) I don't eat clean. I eat convenience.
2) I don't lift. I'm a cardio bunny, preferably in the water, but I also have a elliptical trainer at home. (I do the odd body weight routine but honestly it bores me).
3) I don't do shakes. I prefer to chew my food.
4) I log everything (or near to as I can). I don't trust 'quick add calories'.
5) I don't do cheat days. I eat everything in moderation (for example I still drink diet lemonade, and today I'll be eating a small chunk of cheesecake and a mini packet of haribo!)

I'm 34. 5ft2ish. (I prefer 5ft2.5 lol). I currently weight 150.5lbs, have lost 23lbs, and my goal weight is 126lbs.
I'm a teacher, during term time I eat 1400 calories plus my exercise calories.
During the holidays I lead as sedentary life as I can, so I've knocked my basic calories down to 1200 but I still eat my exercise calories.

So if I match your needs, send me a message.
Edited by IHateThinkingOfAUsername On July 29, 2014 4:00 AM
August 2, 2014 4:29 AM
How do I go about finding a mentor...? Not looking for anything radical, just someone to keep me on track with a gentle program over the next year or so.

My background is here: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1375862-33yo-trying-to-make-up-for-5-years-of-office-living
  70563507
August 2, 2014 4:52 AM
Hi i am a noob. dont know how to add you. I am looking for a mentor. I am overweight and never had issues with weight until 1 year ago. I am looking for lifestyle change and have no idea where to start. Currently i cannot exercise due to recent umbilicial hernias repair but i am very interested in doing so in the near future. Can you help me or direct me in the right direction. Thanks Kathy
  71074984
August 2, 2014 4:57 AM
QUOTE:

How do I go about finding a mentor...? Not looking for anything radical, just someone to keep me on track with a gentle program over the next year or so.

My background is here: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1375862-33yo-trying-to-make-up-for-5-years-of-office-living


I've copied and pasted the part that pertains to you from the first post in this thread.

QUOTE:



New members

Please review the short paragraphs of the members and feel free to PM them or do a friend request (you should include a little bit about yourself as many members won't accept blank friend request). Hopefully, you will utilize this as a mentoring tool to increase the chances of success. If you have questions, please PM me.

Keep in mind, that mentors are NOT obligated to accept new members if they do NOT feel it's a good fit... especially if you PM them with a creepy message or their plate is full.




This would be how you go about finding a mentor. Peruse all the mentors offering services in the thread, and find one, or a few who look like they'd be a good fit for you. Message them with some info about yourself, and what you're hoping to achieve, and see if they want to get involved. I think quite a few ( not all ) of the potential mentors who offered services in the early days of this thread, may be more full up... whereas, the mentors who have offered services in the later pages of this thread are more likely to still be looking for noobs. That's my advice.

I have successfully hooked up noobs with mentors, simply by reading a 'I want a mentor post,' and PMing that noob, with the name of one of the mentors offering services in this very thread. The system works.
  49454167
August 3, 2014 1:42 PM
I volunteer to be a noob! help me!
August 5, 2014 11:11 AM
I'm going to be a good and smart girl and follow the very helpful directions on contacting volunteer mentors directly. But I hope its okay to take a moment to say here, rather than message every single volunteer, just how inspiring it is just to read all of the information that volunteers have put together. It seems as though some mentors have several noobs even. I have taken the time to read each and every post (slowed down a bit by the 'pick me's) and it is refreshing to see so many dedicated to their own healthy lifestyle, as well as to helping others.
  70003519
August 6, 2014 4:07 AM
Noobs.. please read the first page carefully and good luck on your search!
August 6, 2014 4:15 AM
I would love to take on noobs. (Let me know that's how you found me if you decide to PM me)

I started out at 220, now I'm at 165ish and steadily decreasing.
I'm of the school that nothing's off limits, you just have to work hard and monitor your progress.
I'm a big believer in goals, big and small.
I deliver tough love if needed, or I can be a cheerleader, however you'd respond best.
I have memorized all the advice MFP has to offer, and know how to apply it.
We'll have fun. Pick me.
  33226096
August 6, 2014 4:45 AM
Hi guys,
I have sent a couple of requests to peeps who have offered their services but only had one response so far
So if there is anyone out there wanting a "project" I may be your girl!
I am looking for someone to mentor me, I am a bit of a failed dieter and know I need to really focus on things this time!
I am 30 and weigh almost 18st so have a long road ahead which seems very daunting
I do love food and love to cook and eat out (which doesn't help!) I am willing to try new things and be experimental!
I live with my partner who is into his bodybuilding - living with someone who eats all the time is not the best diet motivation!
If you think you can help that's would be amazing
PS I am in the uk
Lisa
August 7, 2014 10:58 AM
Hey all,

I have been browsing the forums and found this awesome thread. I love the idea of being adopted. Hopefully I will find someone to talk back and forth with. so about me
I am 30 and my starting weight was 267 I want to reach a goal of 150.

What have I changed so far to attempt to reach my goal? Well I recently watched the documentary forks over knives and sort of threw me for a loop and basically changed my whole outlook on food. I have always been told I am overweight but did not care I am / was the fat jolly funny guy at all the parties. So I am now on a strict vegan diet. I am on my 4th day as a vegan and it has not been bad at all.

Exercise: I have been doing cardio videos off my roku in the morning. Then I usually take a walk after dinner around my townhome complex.

Anyone that can be of service please help!
August 8, 2014 8:04 PM
I volunteer!
As far as my experience/history goes, I used to weigh 250+lbs with very little lean mass around 2012. Then I got fatally sick and got a wake up call from life.
Since then, I've been losing weight, maintaining muscle (I had some newbie gains at first but that stops after a while). Now I'm at 194lbs now. I go to the gym almost every single day and eat fairly healthy (I've completely slacked off for the current week because I'm moving to the United States for College next week and am going out a lot).
Time for me to lose the last 30 or so pounds I need to lose and I'd love to help out someone who can't find their way through this while I'm at it!
  40852114
August 10, 2014 2:40 AM
I am so amazed and deeply pleased by the kindness of MFP members, all those people here who seem so focused, so dedicated, and so eager to mentor or be mentored.
I wish I felt even half as motivated.

I think I have given up. I have tried so hard, for so long. Had some great results (45kg down to my normal weight!), was very happy for a few months, and then once again I got *****-slapped by something in my life, lost focus, slipped a little... and my perfectionist side really REALLY does not do "slip a little". The self-loathing I have amassed over the years is impressive. I now feel I deserve to be obese, suffer physically, emotionally and mentally, and here comes the vicious cycle.

I really need someone to remind me why I am doing it all for. Someone to tip me on what I am doing wrong, and advise me on the way to fix it instead of shaming me for slipping. Someone who will sympathise with the hours I work, and why, and not push it when I tell them that the ****ing elliptical gives me vertigo in 9 seconds. Someone who will understand that my metabolism is unnaturally low, and the doctors know it, but they "don't treat this situation unless you are trying for a baby", so my calorie count needs to be lower than low by default.
I know I am a complicated case. A challenge if you will. But I see life slipping away from me, and I need to act. Now. And for that, I need help.

I don't do it for me, I don't like me enough to care right now. Perhaps when I get on track and see some results, I will give self-love a chance. So no, I am making it clear from the start, "loving thyself" has never been a motivator for me. If you would like to be my mentor, please don't go there.

-I am doing it for my mother, who lost my father from diabetes, and lives with fear in her heart every day that I will follow suit. She has done a kick-ass job raising me, and despite our unbridgeable differences, she deserves better. Because as much as you love your child, how can you not resent it every time you cook for it?
-I am doing it for my best friend who is so happy and proud of me, and wants to show her love for me, take me out, buy me gifts, hug me and do all sorts of girly things with me, but I don't let her out of embarrassment and guilt. Because who likes a fat person with them when they go out?
-I am doing this for my Big Bad-Ass Boss and my Supervisors, who are astounded by my performance and hard work, and want to push me forward so much, but I stop them and ask them to find someone else to do the presentation and represent the company. Because what stranger in their right mind would listen to a fat chick's input and advise?
-I am doing this for my family and friends, and the looks on their faces a few years back when I walked in the room weighing as much as I did when I was 16, slim and beautiful, elegant and smiling, and how genuinely impressed and proud they were to call me their cousin, or their niece, or their friend. I want to make them happy to have me as a friend.

So much to ask for, isn't it... ah well, it was worth a shot.
  43679166
August 10, 2014 5:06 PM
QUOTE:

I am so amazed and deeply pleased by the kindness of MFP members, all those people here who seem so focused, so dedicated, and so eager to mentor or be mentored.
I wish I felt even half as motivated.

I think I have given up. I have tried so hard, for so long. Had some great results (45kg down to my normal weight!), was very happy for a few months, and then once again I got *****-slapped by something in my life, lost focus, slipped a little... and my perfectionist side really REALLY does not do "slip a little". The self-loathing I have amassed over the years is impressive. I now feel I deserve to be obese, suffer physically, emotionally and mentally, and here comes the vicious cycle.

I really need someone to remind me why I am doing it all for. Someone to tip me on what I am doing wrong, and advise me on the way to fix it instead of shaming me for slipping. Someone who will sympathise with the hours I work, and why, and not push it when I tell them that the ****ing elliptical gives me vertigo in 9 seconds. Someone who will understand that my metabolism is unnaturally low, and the doctors know it, but they "don't treat this situation unless you are trying for a baby", so my calorie count needs to be lower than low by default.
I know I am a complicated case. A challenge if you will. But I see life slipping away from me, and I need to act. Now. And for that, I need help.

I don't do it for me, I don't like me enough to care right now. Perhaps when I get on track and see some results, I will give self-love a chance. So no, I am making it clear from the start, "loving thyself" has never been a motivator for me. If you would like to be my mentor, please don't go there.

-I am doing it for my mother, who lost my father from diabetes, and lives with fear in her heart every day that I will follow suit. She has done a kick-ass job raising me, and despite our unbridgeable differences, she deserves better. Because as much as you love your child, how can you not resent it every time you cook for it?
-I am doing it for my best friend who is so happy and proud of me, and wants to show her love for me, take me out, buy me gifts, hug me and do all sorts of girly things with me, but I don't let her out of embarrassment and guilt. Because who likes a fat person with them when they go out?
-I am doing this for my Big Bad-Ass Boss and my Supervisors, who are astounded by my performance and hard work, and want to push me forward so much, but I stop them and ask them to find someone else to do the presentation and represent the company. Because what stranger in their right mind would listen to a fat chick's input and advise?
-I am doing this for my family and friends, and the looks on their faces a few years back when I walked in the room weighing as much as I did when I was 16, slim and beautiful, elegant and smiling, and how genuinely impressed and proud they were to call me their cousin, or their niece, or their friend. I want to make them happy to have me as a friend.

So much to ask for, isn't it... ah well, it was worth a shot.


I'm not really sure how to respond to this eloquently, so here's to not botching this badly.

No one "deserves to be obese" and losing and maintaining weight are NOT punishment or to atone for some imagined evil you may have committed with the peanut butter jar.

Your Boss would not sabotage his company or their reputation with a stupid person representing them, please reconsider that stance. Your weight does not equate to what is reflected on the scale. If it did, we'd see supermodels in lab coats curing cancer.

Next up, anyone who wants you for a friend based solely on your looks is a piss poor excuse of a friend and truly you'd be better off living as a hermit at the top of Mount Fuji. True friends are the ones who stand by through all the hell life can sling and never budge. You don't have to have a lot of these people, but when you find one, hold onto them for they are gift from God.

As for life being messy, no one promised it wouldn't be. Those crap moments that hurt remind you to cherish the great moments for what they are...great.

In the 2 years I have been here I have had messy. I have had loss and I have had grief. Despite that I have also had incredible moments too. Ones that make me happy, proud and dance with delight. I can probably match you one for one on the hours, and crap factor, if you wish we can indulge in a full blown pity party excuse thread. But, what I am trying to say is no one can do this for you, it won't always be perfect and that's okay. The point is to keep pushing forward.

Motivation waxes and wanes, the deciding factor is to dust yourself off and keep going.

I hope you discover something in you worth doing this for.
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