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September 22, 2013 7:20 PM
Help. I seem to have no discipline with food anymore. i want to eat all the time and have hardly any energy.
I have a large family to care for and a job and I know I would feel better if I could get this weight off, but my hormones are
wreaking havoc. I don't want to go on hormone therapy. This is the first time I have had belly fat. Can anyone suggest help.
September 22, 2013 7:25 PM

I know the feeling.

You did lose 6lbs, how long did that take you? What did you do then what you're not doing now, or what did you not do while losing but do now?

I noticed you're not doing the meals log, I was curious what your daily meal plan looks like. I have days like you described. Sometimes they lasted more like weeks. So I really know what that is like. Are you doing a particular diet, or how would your ideal meals look like?
Edited by MilliDenney On September 22, 2013 7:30 PM
September 22, 2013 7:28 PM
I started fitness pal in February and I go on and off. I try to only eat when hungry and stick with that for a week. Then I do something else for a week. I just have no patience and feel irritated.
September 22, 2013 7:29 PM
I took a look at your diary and noticed that you haven't been logging. Maybe logging may help you to have more discipline. I know with me, I have to log the food ahead of time so that I won't overate especially when I have a busy life. It sounds like you are a hard worker that has a lot of responsibility. It also could be stress eating or eating because you are tired. Not really sure of the reason. It's kinda hard to tell without knwing the types of foods that you areeating on a normal basis. Also if you don't have energy, it could be the food choices that are not high in fiber. Hope this helps. I used to fell this same way when I was working a lot and not getting much sleep. I ate whatever because I didn't properly plan my meals. now I have 30 meals listed on my fridge that I chose from. I sit down each week and plan my meals for the week. This has really helped me.
September 22, 2013 7:32 PM
I feel you! I'm 50 and have had weight issues on and off for my whole adult life but have never had a big belly till the last year or so. It's much slower going post menopause but just keep at it. It can be done. I'm not on hrt and I feel like the more weight I lose the less hormonal I feel. Good luck!
September 22, 2013 7:33 PM
Waiting to eat until you're hungry is NOT a good system.

If I would do that I would not eat until lunch time, but totally binge the rest of the day. Your bloodsugar will spike, or go down, and eating regularly will prevent that, which helps you to not give in.

Have you been doing that all the time, wait til you're hungry to eat??
September 22, 2013 7:38 PM
Thanks guys. I was posting regularly my meals. I work in a produce stand/ bakery and I am the baker. I am around food all the time and it is a temptation to eat baked goods. I do use food for energy because I feel weak a lot and shaky and that I need more food the get rid of that feeling. I want to drink pop 1/day and looooove chips which I know are horrible but I crave salt. My diet stinks right now but my tummy feels upset alot. Healthy food sounds icky and junk food sounds soothing. How twisted is that. I need to get myself eating healthier, get good sleep (I wake up with nights sweats and don't sleep too good lately from the menopause) blah, blah, blah. I miss the days of going to the store and being able to pick out a cute dress and put it on and not worry about it not fitting. I have 4 beautiful daughters who are super slim and I'm the fatty. It's time to get some discipline and change this. I need to reach down and get some gumption and look at this as for my health, then looks.
September 23, 2013 7:10 AM
Wow... Just.. WOW!!! You know exactly what's going wrong, and you also know exactly what you should and should NOT do!!!

As far as I can tell, you have all the right tools, you also have ALL the support of every MFP-er in the world. I just van not figure out what is keeping you from making the change from bad habits to good habits. Your taste buds?

I assume you have - at one point - made your daily meals plans? You have to start doing that as a first step. Make plans for 3 or 4 days. When you see it all written out, it should be easier to go by. Then go to a good supermarket or healthfood store and buy food for 3 or 4 days. Perhaps, prepare some meals. You can keep food for 3 or 4 days without a problem. Prepare lunch, snacks, dinner and perhaps breakfast.

DO SOMETHING to get yourself out of this vicious circle. YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF TO TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF!!!! DO IT!!!

(Sorry for shouting, don't really mean to...)
September 23, 2013 7:18 AM
Exercise to eat more. I would never lose anything if I didn't get exercise calories.

Also, be sure to incorporate some type of resistance training (weights, body weight exercise, resistance bands) to prevent bone and muslce loss. This is the age when most women start lose both so it's important to work to preserve them. Be sure to eat a balanced diet including enough calcium, protein and vit D. Also, keep any eye on those sodium levels. Too much sodium is not good for bone density.
September 23, 2013 7:21 AM
I'm 53, 5'4.5" 147 lbs. I can empathize with what you are going through. The night sweats, brain fog and desire to graze even though I'm not hungry. The problem with this age is that we no longer have the muscle tone that we did when we were younger. That's why the calories are sticking now. Also, with a higher fat % comes more wacky-ness with hormones. The only real solution, IMO, is to build more muscle and decrease fat %. That will help to regulate hormones, and make the calorie burn easier. I'm guilty too of not logging 100% of the time, but I'm trying to get better. I have found that logging my daily plan in the morning helps me to stick to it. I really don't want to go in and change/add calories once I have the day planned out. Sooo, log everything, everyday and lift heavy weights! That's my plan anyway!
September 23, 2013 7:32 AM
Hi Copeland Mom, I'm right there with ya'.

I've been dieting my whole life and it is definitely harder now. I've been tracking in MFP since June and haven't lost a pound. I take 4 one-hour spinning classes each week. I go up and down the same darn pound. One problem is that I like to eat and not the good stuff. I don't know what I'd weigh if I were around baked goods all day, like you. Another problem is that I've never enjoyed weight lifting, but I think it's crucial at our age. I'm going to give it another shot to do some kind of strength training. I want to give up, but I can't. I'm afraid if I stopped tracking, I would gain weight instead of staying the same.
September 23, 2013 7:36 AM
don't know how helpful this will be but try to stay away from low-fat options and get plenty of fat (within your cals) in your diet as not having enough dietary fat screws with your hormones.
September 23, 2013 7:38 AM
I am 39 and in menopause (surgical) myself. I was feeling the same way you are. Hot, cranky, tired. I do however take hormone replacement due to my age and still have some endometrosis. I find working out has really helped me. Even if its just going for a walk. I also take Vitamin D too. I find that makes a big difference in my energy level. Hope you don't give up and find something that works for you.
September 23, 2013 7:46 AM
I'm 50 and in menopause too. Protein, protein and more protein. It will keep you full longer and keep you from being hungry. I cut out a lot of the carbs and eat higher protein and am not afraid of fats like nuts and olive oil for cooking. I find that eating eggs for breakfast instead of a bagel really helps. Snacking on string cheese or peanut butter and apple instead of chips is good.

I have been known to salt my peanut butter on my apple if I'm craving salt. A little bit is better than eating a bag of chips in my opinion. I also will eat salted nuts as those help but make me fuller than chips do.
September 23, 2013 7:48 AM
Get your Thyroid checked....
September 23, 2013 7:52 AM

Get your Thyroid checked....

This too ^^ Although, honestly, if you are in menopause and your GYN hasn't already checked your thyroid I might start shopping around for a new GYN. It is pretty standard to check it in the same blood test with your estrogen levels.
September 23, 2013 7:53 AM
Wow. Unless you have high risk factors for cancer or heart disease, consider short term HRT at the lowest dose possible. I felt just as you did, and it was a lifesaver!

I have been working with a trainer on interval training, and the intensity of some of the exercises has really shocked the system, and my body composition is changing. I can see the top third of my six-pack, my arms are slimming, and I have a waistline again. If you can, go to your local Y, or a good gym, and make this investment in your health. I have to burn more calories than I eat in order to lose weight/and or inches, and the results are a great motivator. Lately, I've been losing more inches than weight. I consider that a fair trade-off. Don't let weight plateaus discourage you. For me, I worked too hard to get where I have to backslide.

I was told "If I keep doing what I'm doing, I'm going to keep getting what I'm getting." Change is not going to happen without my active participation. For me, that includes logging, using a food scale for my portions, and making wiser food choices. Easier said than done, but logging my food can help me make a decision on the spot. I have MFP on my desktop, iPhone, and iPad, so I have no excuse not to log. I log recipes, and enter new foods as soon as possible.

Good luck, Copeland Mom, and to the rest of the ladies in this thread. I am 62 years old, and I fully intend to be at my "fighting" weight by my 63rd birthday.
September 23, 2013 7:53 AM
I am 45 and going through early menopause now :( (haven't had a cycle since June) and have a couple suggestions....first please eat. Eat regularly....breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and a couple snacks in between. Yes you have to choose your food need low calorie foods with lean protein so you can eat regularly while fitting it into your daily calorie limit. I found I HAVE TO bring my food to work and not ever rely on food here. I bring bananas, greek yogurt, 90 calorie fiber one bars, and my lunch so I don't leave eating to "whatever is close by when I'm starved".

Second, I suggest exercise. Yes I am totally aware of how busy we are AND how if you are a busy mom and employee you are exhausted with a capital E. The exercise is a great way to relieve stress, give you "alone time" and lose the weight....all of which help with the irritation factor AND the losing weight factor.

Third, log.....log everything you eat and be honest down to the drinks. Log, log, log. You will learn sooooo much about how and why you eat if you log. It will help you.....I promise!

Don't give in....Don't give can do this :)
September 23, 2013 7:54 AM
Ffriend me if you like. I will be glad to support you, I am on maintenance now for 2 years. Hormone crazy, don't want a replacement? Find a natural supplement to take for a little while. I am a big proponent of Vitamin E at bed time to help reduce night sweats. Keeping the diary and recording EVERY BITE is critical while losing the weight, exercise is too. Don't restrict your calories below recommended levels. Start with small steps. It took a year and half for me to reach my goal, averaging a pound a week. I did not change my diet much, started WEIGHING and MEASURING portions. Added more vegetables and fruit. I eat 5 to 6 times a day, snacks (to keep energy level) and small desserts (daily reward) were a must for me. Did small things e.g. if eating potatoes at a meal, cut out the bread. It takes time and work. Exercise, even if it is just adding extra walking (really important) and I use free weights and a bench at home when I don't make the gym. You can do it. Oh BTW, hormones at menopause caused me to thicken in the middle a lot, still have a bit left, it is the last to go!! - Nature I guess. Good luck.
September 23, 2013 8:23 AM
If you don't want to go the HRT route (I decided not to), try a multivitamin made especially for women. For a while, I was taking the prenatal vitamins from my Whole Food store (yes, even though I'm in my 50's!), but recently changed to one that is for women going through menopause. It's made a big difference in how I feel. So, if you have any kind of health food store in your area, it's definitely worth trying.

Also, as others have said, add some regular exercise. I started a walking program a few weeks ago, and while I haven't lost any weight yet, I feel myself toning and slimming. I am confident that the pounds will start to come off as a continue AND watch my calories.

Good luck!!
September 23, 2013 8:49 AM
If you are shaky and weak, then you are probably not eating enough.
September 23, 2013 8:59 AM
The cravings for baked goods and chips are an indicator that your body isn't getting enough healthy fats. Snack on some almonds, olives, avocados/guacamole throughout the day to curb the want-to-binge. Also make sure you have some high-protein snacks (chicken strips, greek yogurt...) on hand to curb the carb cravings.
September 23, 2013 8:59 AM
You can do this! I've been in menopause for 4 years and sometimes feel like you do. You can add me as a friend if you'd 50-somethings and over need to stick together for support!flowerforyou
September 23, 2013 9:00 AM
Have you had you sugars checked lately? I was feeling pretty much the same way and found out I am diabetic. New "diet" and medication has done wonders for me.

Non hormonal supplements are available so perhaps question your doctor about those also.
September 23, 2013 9:06 AM
May I recommend as a website that offers many natural solutions to hormonal issues. I purchase a progesterone cream from here that has greatly reduced my hot flashes, night sweats, sleepless nights, etc. There are home test kits you can purchase and send in to find out what exactly your hormonal issues are. Most helpful in understanding hormonal issues is the book I ordered from this site "hormone balance made simple" by dr. John lee. Just letting you know what has helped me. I've actually not used my cream recently because my annoying symptoms have subsided substantially. All the best to you!

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