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July 12, 2013 5:55 PM
Very well put. I don't think that there is ever a time to make fun of the fat girl because of her weight. Now if she is a terrible person who judges others, that is an entirely different matter. Just don't make fun of her weight.

Men and women are equally cruel. It's a shame that people are so quick to judge others or deem themselves superior.
July 12, 2013 5:56 PM
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I think this is a lovely sentiment and I hope it's what most people think.

However every time there's one of those gym rant threads, I suspect that people are more judgmental than that. I've made my peace with the fact that I am likely being judged while I'm at the gym. I just try to remind myself that I shouldn't let other people control whether or not I reach my goals, and I go anyway.

This speaks to a great strength in you. Doing what you should/want regardless of what others are thinking. I believe everyone should be so strong, but for those that are not, we're rooting for you. -Signed, The Majority.


Is that anything like The Borg?
July 12, 2013 5:56 PM
What about Fat guys? When is the appropriate time to make fun of them?
  17121359
July 12, 2013 5:56 PM
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I don't think that there is ever a time to make fun of the fat girl because of her weight.


Agree!
Edited by BinaryPulsar On July 12, 2013 6:43 PM
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July 12, 2013 5:57 PM
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Great post. Im new to the area, hell, Im still fairly new to the country (USA) and I joined a gym close to my job. Im still shy when I go to workout. I just put my headphones on and ipod and just keep my head down when I work out. I'm definitely embarrassed about how I look when I work out but I need to work out to change how I look. Im sure people are watching me jiggle as I walk on the treadmills and cycle but I dont really care. My gym is run by a hospital so I get a free personal training session every 8 weeks to change up my routine and to show me how to use the machines. The thing Im more anxious about is approaching the free weights. I have some bicep curls with dumbells in my routine but for some reason Im embarrased to go over to the weight section and sometime skip that part of my workout all together embarassed frown indifferent


I started out really nervous about venturing into free weights, but in 4 months of lifting no one has ever been anything but nice or indifferent to me. And the changes to my body have been worth getting over my fears. Just do it. Maybe get a friend to go with you. You won't regret it.
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July 12, 2013 5:57 PM
I started hitting a local outdoor track when I was 220lbs. One day some fitness jocks were there and I could tell they were pointing at me as I struggled to keep up with my running intervals. But, I stayed on that there track for 45 mins and finished my workout and held my head up high.

I wish that everyone was as supportive as you seem to be, But I believe that being fat is a choice that I made for myself and I wasn't about to let anyone interfere with my resolve to take control.


I ended up losing 80lbs before I got pregnant (and now I'm working on my 30 lbs of baby weight). And I paid it forward by befriending an obese teenager who started running on the same outdoor track, even showed her my before pics. She ended up losing an astounding 130lbs..
July 12, 2013 5:57 PM
i have about 150 pounds to lose. my friend about the same size as me got me into going to the gym with her. its the first time i have ever gone to a gym......i didnt realize how big i really am until yesterday. i have been doing different classes with my friend; Zumba, zumba tone, step and abs and last night we did a weight llifting class. my heart broke in the middle of class. it was very hard for me to continue. i watched myself in the mirror and realized how big i actually am. i was embarassed and surrounded by very fit girls. if my friend wasnt with me i probably would have left. i appreciate your post and i will pretend that everyone is thinking that way. i also try to think that if someone is judging me on my weight then they are just an ass and i dont want to get to know them annyways
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July 12, 2013 5:58 PM
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Very well put. I don't think that there is ever a time to make fun of the fat girl because of her weight. Now if she is a terrible person who judges others, that is an entirely different matter. Just don't make fun of her weight.

Men and women are equally cruel. It's a shame that people are so quick to judge others or deem themselves superior.

True. But people will make fun of fat people in public, harsh comments whispered under breaths -- both girls and guys, because people are inherently kind, but also inherently insensitive. The point of this post was to express my belief that the same people that make fun of a fat person Downtown at a club/restaurant, will not make fun of them in the gym.

The gym is an area of commonality. Go. Go because you should. Go because you are safe. Go. You are accepted. You are cheered, not jeered. You are pushed forward. Go.
Edited by NathanFronk On July 12, 2013 6:04 PM
July 12, 2013 5:59 PM
Now I feel better about going to the gym!
July 12, 2013 6:01 PM
nice post.
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July 12, 2013 6:02 PM
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Great post. Im new to the area, hell, Im still fairly new to the country (USA) and I joined a gym close to my job. Im still shy when I go to workout. I just put my headphones on and ipod and just keep my head down when I work out. I'm definitely embarrassed about how I look when I work out but I need to work out to change how I look. Im sure people are watching me jiggle as I walk on the treadmills and cycle but I dont really care. My gym is run by a hospital so I get a free personal training session every 8 weeks to change up my routine and to show me how to use the machines. The thing Im more anxious about is approaching the free weights. I have some bicep curls with dumbells in my routine but for some reason Im embarrased to go over to the weight section and sometime skip that part of my workout all together embarassed frown indifferent


I started out really nervous about venturing into free weights, but in 4 months of lifting no one has ever been anything but nice or indifferent to me. And the changes to my body have been worth getting over my fears. Just do it. Maybe get a friend to go with you. You won't regret it.


It is normal to feel nervous. When I started I think I was 225 pounds, not sure because I didnt get on the scale for years....could have been more. The first time I went in I honestly sat in the women's locker room afraid to go out there. I didnt like what I saw in the mirror.

Then I said Self! Just do it.

and I did...and then did it again.
Edited by CrankMeUp On July 12, 2013 6:03 PM
July 12, 2013 6:03 PM
That is exactly why I have avoided the gym. I've been hiding in my apartment doing work out videos because I'm embarrassed of what people will think watching me try to figure out my way around the gym. Eventually I'll get there. Until then I have 30 day shred and Insanity to get me by.
July 12, 2013 6:06 PM
Wish I could say this was true, but at my gym (I live on a military base in Okinawa, Japan) it is a bunch of super fit military members. The only overweight people you see are middle aged men. Plus, the gym is ALWAYS packed...I even tried going at 2 AM and there were 30 some odd people there giving me weird looks for hogging up their weights. I have to go run/walk at the track when it is 108 degrees because no one else is dumb enough to go out and do it.
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July 12, 2013 6:12 PM
I love your post, OP, and couldn't agree more. I've often said on here that if someone is new to the gym and has questions, to not be afraid of those that are working out and in great shape. I've found my gyms to be very supportive places with people quite wiling to share advice or a spot. Of course the advice is sometimes great and sometimes not so great, but the sentiment is definitely there.
July 12, 2013 6:20 PM
Weighing over 300 lbs, I was hesitant to go to the gym. I thought people would make fun of me or judge me. Then I realized, it's where I want to be and need to be, and if anyone wants to make fun of me, I can't really stop them from wasting their time like that. The more I go, the more people recognize me and are friendlier to me, and one super nice man even took the time to show me how to use some of the machines.

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July 12, 2013 6:20 PM
This post reminds me of this post on the Flintland Blog:

http://flintland.blogspot.com/2012/05/hey-fat-girl.html

Also, I agree. If anyone had made fun of me my first month at the gym over a year and a half ago, I would have probably gone home and felt sh*tty about myself. The first year or so I gymmed it up, I purposely went during less trafficked time just to avoid people and their judgements only recently have I actually felt any sense of belonging there.
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July 12, 2013 6:23 PM
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Could not have said it better myself!! We are all there for a common purpose, to get fit and healthy and meet our goals....just like here on MFP.
Thanks for this post, it helps!

I just hope the majority of people agree and believe.


I know I agree and I have felt the exact same things
July 12, 2013 6:28 PM
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I think this is a lovely sentiment and I hope it's what most people think.

However every time there's one of those gym rant threads, I suspect that people are more judgmental than that. I've made my peace with the fact that I am likely being judged while I'm at the gym. I just try to remind myself that I shouldn't let other people control whether or not I reach my goals, and I go anyway.


The only thing someone looking at you at the gym should think is "Wow, she has an amazing rear! What can I do to look like that?!" You've made amazing progress, and I know that emotionally dealing with the very public space that is the gym is part of it. heart flowerforyou

OP: it was a wonderful post. While I'm no longer one of the largest, new people at the gym, I remember the feeling. It can be a pretty daunting hurdle.
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July 12, 2013 6:29 PM
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I think this is a lovely sentiment and I hope it's what most people think.

However every time there's one of those gym rant threads, I suspect that people are more judgmental than that. I've made my peace with the fact that I am likely being judged while I'm at the gym. I just try to remind myself that I shouldn't let other people control whether or not I reach my goals, and I go anyway.


Exactly. Those threads have made me more self conscious than almost anything else. All I can think during my workout is am I breaking unwritten gym etiquette? I just left the horse barn, do I stink too much to be here? What if they don't know I have makeup on because I just left my second job of the day? I hate those threads. And when I'm at the gym, its screw the world, I got this!
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July 12, 2013 6:31 PM
awwww! I heart you.
July 12, 2013 6:35 PM
as One of the more overweight people at my gym, i Initially I projected because of my own insecurities that they were all going to be judgy mean meat heads, but truthfully...i think most people are more like you, happy to see you trying to change, happy to help.
July 12, 2013 6:38 PM
I have definitely felt anxious at the gym, especially if I am trying something new. I worry that the pros are getting a kick out of the fat chick. I am especially wary of venturing into the weight room, even though I would rather do that than cardio. I hope you're right about people being supportive and thinking positive thoughts, but it's hard sometimes to discern why someone is looking at you--is it because they are thinking about how awesome it is that you are there, or is it because they are amused by your jiggly body on that machine?

I have also felt some serious negativity at health food stores and healthy restaurants. There's one in town called Greens and Proteins and it's next door to a gym. I've eaten there many times and I always feel like there is at least one catty woman there who is throwing me sidelong glances because I'm not fit and in workout gear. ohwell
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July 12, 2013 6:40 PM
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bump i like this guy

I don't. Here's a quote from him on the MFP girl eye candy thread:
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You just pimped out your MFP friends for a limited time to prove you have hot friends. Sadly this was poorly done as all friends are beautiful, but many of yours are not "hot." If I need MFP when I am over 40, London, you have my permission to kill me. Lastly, this is not a dating site for one reason: no one here wants to date a fat person. WHICH IS WHY YOU'RE HERE. That being said, I admit I have made "love" to a pudgy. I make no excuses. I apologize for nothing.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1037694-mfp-girl-eye-candy?page=2
July 12, 2013 6:41 PM
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I think this is a lovely sentiment and I hope it's what most people think.

However every time there's one of those gym rant threads, I suspect that people are more judgmental than that. I've made my peace with the fact that I am likely being judged while I'm at the gym. I just try to remind myself that I shouldn't let other people control whether or not I reach my goals, and I go anyway.


Exactly. Those threads have made me more self conscious than almost anything else. All I can think during my workout is am I breaking unwritten gym etiquette? I just left the horse barn, do I stink too much to be here? What if they don't know I have makeup on because I just left my second job of the day? I hate those threads. And when I'm at the gym, its screw the world, I got this!



95% of the gym rants have to do with borish behavior that would be a rant done anywhere. We could do a workplace rant and people would have similar rants...ie not replacing the toilet paper rolls ...my biggest one is like not racking weights...or wiping your nose while typing could be like not wiping down the equipment. I might rant about a history teacher who likes to hog the copy machine to make cool booklet like things when there are lines of people getting ready for the next class or the next day and want to do it quickly...and that would be like the person who is walking super slow talking on the phone on a treadmill when someone is waiting for their turn. Most of the rants are about people at the gym with poor manners.

I have seen no comments about fat people not belonging there. I have seen no one ever make fun of someone working hard. I have heard people think they are being judged but I have never really seen it. I pointed once to a very heavy woman on the track many years ago. I was coaching cross country and I was admonishing my runners for a crappy effort in that day's practice. I pointed to that woman because she worked hard EVERY day and they should be inspired by her effort and determination. I am so sorry now that I thought highly of her and pointed as I am sure I ruined her resolve to work out forever because she likely assumed I was judging her negatively.
July 12, 2013 6:44 PM
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I have definitely felt anxious at the gym, especially if I am trying something new. I worry that the pros are getting a kick out of the fat chick. I am especially wary of venturing into the weight room, even though I would rather do that than cardio. I hope you're right about people being supportive and thinking positive thoughts, but it's hard sometimes to discern why someone is looking at you--is it because they are thinking about how awesome it is that you are there, or is it because they are amused by your jiggly body on that machine?

I have also felt some serious negativity at health food stores and healthy restaurants. There's one in town called Greens and Proteins and it's next door to a gym. I've eaten there many times and I always feel like there is at least one catty woman there who is throwing me sidelong glances because I'm not fit and in workout gear. ohwell


It may be that I'm just lucky or in a great mood when I'm at the gym, but the gyms I have worked out in have been pretty supportive places. Just like in other areas, if someone has become successful at something then they're often quite willing to lend a hand. Out of the truly big guys at my current gym we only have 1 ass hat and he was recently kicked out. That day was pretty funny because everyone was celebrating and surprised that we all agreed he was a menace. Then we all went back to our workouts.

Health food stores and health food restaurants are an entirely different thing though. I avoid them like the plague.

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