I just found out that my last living grandparent passed away last night. She has been refusing to eat for the last month, so most of us have done the grieving already because it has been coming for a while. There's a bit of relief that she has moved on because she really wasn't herself over the last year or two.
Death is a reminder to make the most of life (don't skip out on birthday cake!), but it's also a reminder of what our health is worth. My mom has been getting in shape and her blood work looks good. I worry about my dad and sisters. My dad suffers from high blood pressure and high cholestrol. These are very concerning since his parents died fairly young, both of heart attacks. My sisters are in their mid 20's and obese. One is already on cholesterol medicine and has been diagnosed as pre-diabetic.
We can't force people to do anything. I can give them the information and offer to workout with them, but I can't do it for them. I wish I could. I would gladly lose weight over and over again to improve their lives and health. I wish I could show them how everything just feels better or easier even 20 pounds lighter.
I've learned that talking to them about health or weight loss doesn't work. It causes resentment. All I can do is to continue to live a healthy life and hope that one day they start making the changes to be healthier.
It isn't that I want to change them, but with a family history of heart disease I want to improve their odds of staying around for a few extra years.