- Tell yourself that you are good enough.
- You don't have to believe that you will succeed, you just have to keep trying.
- Stop beating yourself up.
I could tell you exactly how to lose 10 pounds. That's what this site is for. The exchange of fitness and nutrition information to help us make improvements. Many of us seek improvement in the form of weight loss when we first get here. I can help people do that and I enjoy watching people succeed.
I could also help you find ways to be proud of yourself as you currently are and ways to see yourself differently. That is where the real change happens. You could lose 10 pounds and still not be happy, but make internal changes and you will see things for the better.
I have made myself vulnerable over the years. I've posted about almost all of my "flaws" (cellulite, loose skin, stretch marks) and my struggles (binge eating, body dysmorphia, depression, anxiety). I think sharing these things is important to show that success doesn't look perfect along the way. I won't pretend that I am perfect, because showing that I still struggle can give people hope that their struggles won't keep them from success.
Life happens. Something comes up and our progress gets put on the back burner, then we forget about it. We make excuses and find other things that we need to do instead. Soon the spark of complacency turns into a wildfire of laziness.
You might be able to contain that fire to one area. Maybe you stop doing workouts, but you still log your food. Maybe you stop caring about your intake and maintain your exercise. Sometimes that fire is out of control and you don’t bother trying to contain it.
One day the heat from the fire starts to burn things that are important to you. The scale reaches an uncomfortable number, your clothes stop fitting, you start feeling sluggish, or you are out of breath doing something that used to be easy. At this point the damage is done and ignoring the fire is a new habit. It’s now time to stop ignoring the fire, put it out and plant new life among the charred remains.
The beautiful thing about regrowth is that life takes hold quickly. The habits are already there, they are just dormant. The hardest part is simply putting out the flames and giving up the excuses.
Recently I went on a vacation that covered a period of 10 days. During my long vacation I managed to lose a few pounds. It wasn't my goal to lose weight, but I did focus on making better choices than I traditionally do. I wanted to take a minute to talk about the choices I made that helped me stay on track.Relax! Vacation is the time to get away from the normal stressors in life. Taking kids on vacation isn’t the most relaxing experience in the world, but I let go of control for a while and focused on enjoying the time away. I didn’t drag them to things I wanted to do, I let them help pick our activities and we all ended up happy. Reduced stress levels helped make sure that my body had time to lower my cortisol, just in case it happened to be elevated.
Getting active. My favorite thing to do on vacation is be a sloth. There are very few times where we have an excuse to just lay around and do nothing. During vacation I got up at a fairly normal time to go to the fitness center at the hotel for a 20 minute workout before my kids woke up It was some “me time” and set the tone for an active day playing with my kids. We went swimming several times a day, so I found ways to use the water play as a workout. Throwing kids, running while towing them, swimming laps, treading water, and even water aerobics didn't take away from the fun while adding a bit of fitness in.
Food is my friend. I went into this vacation with two goals when it comes to food: eat foods that are filling and foods that are yummy. I took my breakfast sandwich machine with me for a simple and filling breakfast without having to go out to eat. We ate several meals out at places that we really wanted to go and I picked my food by what I really wanted that would be filling. We also had the ability to grill, so I had chicken and vegetables fairly often. I didn’t stress about how many calories I was eating, I focused on picking things that would keep me full and not snack just because there were snacks available. Yes, I had it lucky that we had a grill and a fridge.
Vacations are supposed to be fun and relaxing. We shouldn’t stress about food or exercise, but if we have worked to make those things habits it will naturally happen even on vacation. Vacations add up to a small portion of the year (unless you travel for work), so have fun and be reasonable. Don’t make yourself and your family miserable worrying about every bite of food. If you don’t go wild eating everything you can get your hands on you will stay on track.
In 2010 I decided to change my life and get in shape. I spent time looking through magazines for the body I wanted and I taped pictures of my ideal body shape to the cupboards and fridge. I was determined to look like those women.
Along the way I got hit with reality. It wasn't that my stretch marks were forever or that I was going to end up with loose skin. I learned that I was not built like those women.
My ribs and hip bones stick out. My hip structure means my legs rub. My thighs and calves have lots of natural muscle. I have a bump at the lower part of my stomach due to posture and genetics. I was never going to look like the women taped around my house.
At that point I gave up worrying about how I was going to look when I lost weight and I tore all those pictures down. I stopped trying to figure out what exercises made those women look the way they did and I started doing workouts I loved. I decided I was going to work hard on improving how I looked and see where it got me. Along the way I learned to love my thick thighs and wide ribs.
I am happy with where I am because this is my body. I've done amazing things with this body. It doesn't look like I had originally hoped it would, but I built it and that makes it even better.
I have been told that blog posts do not fall under the same guidelines as the forums. Our blog posts are allowed to link to threads and make comments that would get us immediately banned. That should also mean that our blog posts can question the actions of the powers that be, without fear of punishment.
“I am the Lorax. I speak for the trees.”
I am a long time user of MyFitnessPal. I speak for those who lurk in the forums. I speak for the new members.
The forums can be overwhelming on day one. There is so much information stored there and it takes time to understand how it is organized. It takes time to read through even a small portion of the threads that are created on a minute by minute basis. There are tons of conflicting views on every topic that exist when it comes to fitness and nutrition.
Many of us arrive on this site with the idea that a cleanse will fix us, spot reducing is effective if you pick the perfect exercise and starving ourselves is the way to lose weight. We don’t know any better. Magazines, advertising and media has failed us. The weight loss industry has failed us. Our educational system has failed us.
MFP did an incredible thing a couple of years ago. They made sure that threads with solid starting points for new members were given a place of honor. Each section now had a few points of reference that were visible when we opened a topic. We were making a difference in correcting the misinformation and getting people on track.
A policy change has been implemented which has removed those helpful threads from that place of honor as a sticky. In sections such as Success Stories it makes sense to highlight new stories from time to time and provide fresh inspiration. In other sections the helpful threads have been replaced by threads that are low quality and contain contradictory ideas with little science or long term success standing behind it.
Why do I care? It’s not about the thread I created being dropped from sticky status. It’s that I was new here once upon a time and the way I found good information that lead to my success was from following a person around the forums. We can no longer check the previous topics a user posted on, so we rely on helpful threads being in that place of honor as a sticky. This tells us that the information has been read and approved by enough people that the information it contains is true.
I worried when MFP was sold, and again when they launched a pay version, that the site was becoming less helpful for those who don’t want to pay. I have devoted lots of time and energy into this site after my success, only to see that MFP is getting worse. I haven’t complained about the changes up to this point, but a line was crossed when good information is replaced with low quality threads.
I know I am not alone in this complaint.
“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.” –Dr. Seuss
There was a lumberjack competition in the Northwest and competitors from all over the world came to compete. One of the competitions was an endurance test to see how many logs each competitor can split in a 12 hour period. Each competitors got one axe and a huge stack of wood.
Regardless of what sport you are participating in you have to keep your skills sharp. Set goals and push your limits. Training at your current level may keep your ax sharp, but pushing your limits will make it more effective.
*I did not write this. I copied it a few years ago and have no idea where it came from. I'm just re-sharing.
This morning I mentioned to my friends list that my kids passed their first level of swimming lessons last night. Immediately after that my youngest was a bit too confident and required some lifeguard assistance when he got in over his head. It was a frightening moment for me.
This incident got me thinking about how dieting is a lot like swimming. You sink or swim. Some people can jump in and be successful. Others can't.
If you are one of those people who happen to sink, you are not doomed. Just like in swimming there are teachers out there who can help you learn how to swim. There will be people telling you just to jump back in or to try deeper water. There will be people who will pat you on the shoulder and tell you it's okay to stay in the wading pool.
Spend time learning about fat loss and exercise. Even if you happen to swim or float in the beginning you may need help down stream. Few of us are natural born swimmers. There's nothing wrong with the slow dog paddle!
I often get this question from people: "Do you think cheat days are a good idea?"
There are times when things just click. Diet is easy and on point. Workouts are going great. Everything in life seems to be carrying us towards our goals.
There are also times when the world is falling around us and we are able to push through that. We fight on through the struggles to keep our diet on track. We overcome things to get our workouts in.
There are times where we fail. We fail when it should be easy. We fail when it gets hard. Failure happens to almost everyone. Momentary failures and even month long set backs don't mean we won't be successful. We learn just as much through failure as we do through success.
During my bulk I put on a lot more fat than I should have. I struggled with binge eating still and I didn't want to cut if I couldn't control it. I put aside my desire for a lean body in favor of fixing real problems.
I don't want people to think that I am 100% disciplined because it isn't true. I struggle just like everyone else. My life doesn't revolve around fitness and sometimes I sleep in instead of going to the gym. There are times where I ditch my meal plan in favor of just enjoying some pizza and ice cream with my kids. I don't believe in trying to be perfect, just trying to do a bit better and maintain balance.
Don't be so hard on yourselves! Take the opportunity to learn and keep an open mind when you ask for help.
This is not intended for people who are starting out or struggling with the basics. This is a note to myself and a repost from a year ago.
Are you just screwing around?
You know how to count calories. You have the hang of weighing everything and being accurate. You probably know the calorie and macro content of your most frequent foods. You have a really good idea of what your maintenance calories are and what an appropriate deficit is. Yet you are getting no closer to your goals.
Why? Are you just screwing around? Your food diary isn't accurate, you went over your calories a few times this week, you half assed your workouts and you didn't stick to your macro goals. It's like you don't even care.
Are you bulking? Are you cutting? To me it looks like you are maintaining on accident. Do you really want to reach your goals? Are your goals appropriate for your current intake, level of fitness, workout schedule or even your body fat percent? Do you know how to determine if your goals are appropriate for you and what your real current goal should be?
Listen. I know it's not comfortable to stick to the plan 24/7. You're used to eating what you want, when you want. The longer you mess around the longer you'll have to wait to have a bit more freedom.
There is so much more satisfaction from reaching your goal and feeling good about how you look than there is from eating an entire pizza (chased with a pint of ice cream). I'm not saying you have to give up pizza or ice cream along the way, but moderation and success feel better than the binge that you went on this weekend. That horrible feeling you get when the scale is up 5 pounds and the sight in the mirror makes you want to cry. You don't have to go through that anymore.
The time has come to get back on track and stop screwing around. More restriction isn't the answer. Find balance and you will be successful.
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