Just Gotta Laugh It Off...
I swear I NEVER thought that cheaters post would go where it has....
But this is my blog and its my business so if you can't make a constructive comment, dont make one!
I do my best to be careful when I say truthful things. Those in my personal life know how well I can cut you at the knees with my tongue. But don't get it twisted, this is not something that I am proud of. So I am doing my best to curtail the slice and dice...
HOWEVER, that does not mean that I will refrain from giving my opinion. Too many fake people out there, giving and taking credit where it isnt due, offering advice they know they don't take, and saying the nice thing to save face.
Well, I say EFF that. I will always be honest because that means I am being true to myself. For YEARS, I sugar coated, and said the nice things and had them said to me...it wasnt until I grew balls and started being real that people started being real back. Sure, it hurt. But I didnt start growing as a person until I had to deal with the UGLY TRUTH of things.
Its definitely ok to disagree with me, I dont mind that at all-as you can see, I love a debate. But don't argue about my character, argue the issue. And dont tell me you dont like to debate while debating an issue. And dont tell me how to support people by your means. we each have our own way. This is mine.
I have learned today that things can be misconstrued, taken offensively, and feelings can get hurt. This makes me all the more conscious of carefully choosing my words. BUT I have also learned that some people will continue to change the face of their misery by poking at other people. I like to think I dont poke at people, I poke at issues. Apparently, some dont like the issues I poke at. To each his own.
I've said it before and I'll say it again, I mean no harm. I come from a genuine place of concern and I am always looking for ways to better the situation, educate the masses and grow as a person. But like my tagline says. ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK.
Those who choose to enter and then be offended, the most you will get from me, moving forward, is a chuckle.
I get where you are coming from, though... Some people actually look for things to take offense too... I have been known to be a tad bit "confrontational" but I will readily admit when I am wrong... Keep your "fire"! It's what makes you, well, YOU! :)
Anyways I get what you were saying you don't want to cheer somebody on who is not actually putting in the effort and you don't want to recieve advice from people who can't apply it to themselves, I mean I don't take car maint. advice from just anyone, just my mechanic, I don't want to hear what it could be or what should make it run better, I want who knows what it is and can do it and it works, just because it comes out of your mouth and it sounds good doesn't mean squat. sorry about the rant longer then I intended
I just go overboard sometimes to make myself understood.
When i went to be a beautician, i was afraid of everybody. Then i found out that most people are nice. And the ones who aren't, treat everyone the same way they treat you. Only one lady was impossible, and i went in the backroom to cry. Her nurse came in and said, "Please don't give up on her, no one else will do her hair; (she had phantom pains in the leg that was cut off, no one visited her,...)" It was a very sad story.
I cut out this saying once: "If you really knew the person you would love them." If i realize "i don't really know" this person, life will be a lot smoother and happier, even if it wasn't true, we would all be psychotherapists to one another, and hell would be emptied, and heaven would be full.
When I was a kid I had two close friends. One who hated to hurt or offend so sugar-coated everything. The other used 'being real' or 'honest' as a excuse when she unnecessarily hurt people.
After a 20 year break I am friends again with this straight talker. She has finally learned that you don't have to say EVERY opinion you have or everything on your mind. She does still occasionally say mean things and unintentionally hurts people. However, as I age I have found the value in having someone who will tell me the truth. If I ask you if this dress looks okay, I'd rather hear the truth that it makes my butt look bad than oh you look great!
things to argue about.
At first you say, "If you don't have something constructive to say, don't..." Then you go on to tell us how you say whatever it is you want to say whenever you want to say it.
Then you lay the ground rules for everyone to follow whenever they might have a comment for you. So, you're unrestricted and everyone has to follow your strict guidelines for making comments?
When debating me I want people to attack me at every turn, question my character and come at me with all they have. My only requirement is that they be entertaining.
I didn't like this.
tact. For instance, the old question, "Do these pants make me look fat?" Instead of just saying yes, I tell my sister "I think you can do better." Or "The pants are not flattering." This is a hard skill to learn, but well worth the effort to be honest and caring to my friends and family.
Everyone has a different appraoch to verbalizing their "truth." Some are more subtle than others. I can appreciate your more assertive approach, and hope your truth is not minimized by it. :)
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If people dont want the truth - dont ask.