WRONG!!!! JUST PLAIN WRONG .

Posted on 2013-01-16 by cchelll

Today I stepped on the scale. Our scale hasn’t had batteries in it in about 6 months, finally I found some and put them in. What I did next shocked me. I weighed myself and discovered I currently weigh more than I have in my entire life!! 281lbs. OMG!!! I just about puked ( I would have lost a few that way). I knew I had put on a little weight but wow, I have never wanted to weigh this much. I have never weighed this much. I have been on MFP for a couple years and as long as I stay with it I tend to lose weight and as long as I don’t end up weighing more than my starting weight from years ago, I figure “well at least I haven’t gone over!!” WRONG!!!!

I am starting over and my hubby is too and my kids will ride along. My daughter has a BMI of 21.4. This is because of me. Because I can’t control MY weight and MY eating , she thinks this is how it should be. WRONG!!!! I took her and my son to the store the other day and let them each pick out a snack, my 3year old son picked out an apple, I thought I would have one too, then my daughter asked if she could have something warm. I told her sure. She picked out batterfried cheesecurds. I didn’t even blink…..until after she was eating them. I realized what I had done.

I know I have said many times before that I am going to change and things are going to be better, but isn’t that what all of us have said many times before we finally reach the exact moment? I know I have let some of my MFP pals down, I don’t blame you for un-friending me, I would do the same, as a matter of fact I have! But now I need new friends. Ones that are struggling just like me so I can gain support and return what is given to me. Ones who are successful so I know I can do it. I am not going to lie. I will struggle. I will probably fall off the wagon. But I promise to check in EVERY day. I promise to read your kind and not so kind words of encouragement and your own frustrations and support you. I promise to read and enjoy your successes by learning from them rather than be jealous. But most of all I promise to be a friend and be there in the good and the bad times.

Please give me a thumbs up if you accept my agreement. Please be my friend if you will be there when things are rough for me and when they are great but mostly there when I need you the most. Please comment if you have any words of encouragement or reminders to the fact that I CAN DO THIS!!! But I can’t do it alone.

Here we go J

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54 comments:

Clew wrote 4 months ago:

I will never unfriend you, my friend. It's when we struggle that we need our companions the most. You can always count on me to be here! :) Let's do this now! xo

sheshebell wrote 4 months ago:

No man or woman is a failure who has friends. I'm here, let's travel this journey together encouraging one another. :)

loadsandloads wrote 4 months ago:

feel free to friend me! We all need each other!

ReneaPanzer wrote 4 months ago:

I fell off the wagon for the last few months...havent checked in here AT ALL for awhile. I cant promise I will check in EVERY day, I have on my phone but I cant always pull up anything but my food/exercise stuff there...but I can be a shoulder if you need/want one and/or a boot to the butt if thats what you want too.. drop me a note to let me know if you want to...just be sure and return the favor ok??! Good luck and hang in there...we didnt get this way overnight..it will take time! Hugs!

chowhound4 wrote 4 months ago:

Trying to get started again myself

smurfymom_to3 wrote 4 months ago:

Kudos to you for wanting to change your lifestyle and realized what we do in life influences our kids. Feel free to add me as a friend.

willow_rb wrote 4 months ago:

Hang in there, I know it's a hard journey. And before I found MFP, I was a total mess-starving myself because I thought that was the way to lose weight...Now I know about TDEE and strength training and eating good healthy meals-all thanks to MFP.
Sent you a friend request; I will always try to be helpful and supportive!

beatlebomb wrote 4 months ago:

WEll we sure do need each other in this journey. Feel free to send me a friend request. I am getting great support myself from some wonderful people on here and I would love to help you out. The neat thing about this wagon it always lets us back on!!!!

VorJoshigan wrote 4 months ago:

To be fair, batter fried cheese curds are pretty awesome.

Good luck this time.

jtschink wrote 4 months ago:

I too am starting over. I reached my highest weight ever and was horrified. Decided it was time to get serious for myself and my kids. I will be your friend.

rhucko wrote 4 months ago:

You can friend me also we are in the same boat but "we" can do this.

flutternfly wrote 4 months ago:

Acknowledging you have to change is a huge step. I believe I have had weight issues because my mom hit menopause at the same time I hit puberty. I have managed to lose 83 lbs over the last 11 months. It hasn't been easy and I'm still craving sweets (my downfall) but I'm taking it one day at a time, one meal at a time, one goal at a time. I'm part of a great group called FabNFit. We are in the middle of our second contest. I lst 21.6 lbs in 8 weeks the first go around. This time, I've only managed to lose 8.6 lbs and we're on week 6, but it's better than staying the same or gaining--this also included some major stress. I'm sending you a friend request. I'm on every day! Good luck! You CAN do this and set a great example for your kids. You have to! No one else will care about their health like you, their Mom! You'll all be happier in the long run.

Theresafinallygetsitright wrote 4 months ago:

I would be happy to share this with you. At my "omg -Im huge" moment, I was 350 lbs. Now down 144 and I feel so much better. My 9 year old daughter who was flirting with being overweight and always making bad choices was my biggest motivator to do better.

psv1012 wrote 4 months ago:

Feel free to friend me also, I have been on this journey so many times,this time I am not going to quit!
Last August I too stepped on the scale and was horrified by the number (272) I was also diagnost with diebetis. So I have made a huge change in my life. I feel great,I still have 50 pounds to go,but I have lost 43 ! Congratulations on your new road :)

Mary2302 wrote 4 months ago:

The first step is always the hardest.. I am on this track too.. I keep coming back and saying this time is for real.. well THIS IS FOR REAL.. Im determined to lose this weight.. I would like to walk this track with you and give you encouragement everytime you need..!!!

Sharon_C wrote 4 months ago:

I am here every day. I log in every single day. I log everything that goes into my mouth every single day. When I fall off the wagon (and I do frequently) I pick myself up, dust myself off and get back on that damn wagon. Every time.

I've lost 23 pounds doing it this way. It wasn't perfect. There were weeks I didn't lose at all. WEEKS! But I didn't let it discourage me. I am *this close* to a healthy weight and BMI. Those last 4 pounds are sticking to me like a barnacle to a boat.

Anyone can friend me and I will be supportive.

CKJ118 wrote 4 months ago:

We have probably all had those moments where we think "how did I let it get to this bad?" I had the "how did I gain this weight back after I lost it" moment(lost 65lbs 5 yrs ago) and then really made a decision that I was doing this for myself and because my kids needed a Mom that would be there for them and teach them to make healthy food choices, not instantly gratifying food choices. I have been on a weight loss journey for the last 10.5 months and have lost 94lbs...my ultimate goal is 2 more lbs and I will make it there and stick to it because I have decided that I am worth putting my health first. I will definitely support you along your journey and encourage you along the way. The biggest thing to remember is that everyday is a fresh start and a new beginning to making better choices. Best wishes!

debronjon wrote 4 months ago:

Weightloss is a daily struggle. I think most of us need to admit to ourselves that we are food addicts. I know I for one am. I have vowed to log everyday for the next 100 days. I might go over in calories. I usually eat my exercise calories, but awareness is the most important thing to me. You can do it - feel free to add me as a friend. I could use the support myself!

Laner25 wrote 4 months ago:

we all have the wake up moment, we all have times when we realize we have made the wrong choices, but we have the choice to change. Awesome job taking the steps to start. Feel free to friend me!

Serenity54 wrote 4 months ago:

OMG! the same thing happen to me today! I looked at myself in a mirror and saw a WIDE LOAD of a person! I hate myself! I dont know where to turn anymore. I hope this web site can keep me motivated. I keep thinking of going back to WW, but then again the money is the problem. This site can do the same thing.

grnqueen wrote 4 months ago:

That happend to me on the first, after I decided "not to worry" over Christmas. The first week, I cut all added sugar and stuck to 1200 calories and said goodbye to 9 lbs. Now, I'm making a lifestyle change and using Beyond Diet to help. You can do this!

mrsjas2000 wrote 4 months ago:

my daughter worries me too, she is quite thin bur if we are eating something healthy she asks for chips, she refuses fruit or most veggies. I am trying hard to change my habits but I don't know how to change hers, she is only 11

Rhondabill wrote 4 months ago:

I'm back for the second time, too, Although, I have a long way to go I'm getting there step by step. I had lost 36 lbs from March til November, then I gained 6 lbs over the holidays, but still marching on. I've logged in 275 days, still trying to get those 6 holiday lbs off so I may continue on. Just be truthful to yourself & MFP, and when you do mess up tomorrow is a new day, just don't do the same thing. You can do this...we can do this!

sammiz1 wrote 4 months ago:

Welcome Back!! I would be honored to share this journey with you. Sometimes we all need a little wake up call. Mine came when I was looking at photographs from my niece's graduation party and all I could think was "Oh my God!! I am huge!!!"

Well...this May we are going on a cruise to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary...and my niece is getting married in June. Two celebrations that will definitely have many cameras floating around. I am hoping to not feel the need to hide from each and every camera!!!

We can do this together!

shelbysp8 wrote 4 months ago:

Glad to see you back!
We are ALL in this together and you can definitely add me as a friend. I feel like the more the merrier and the harder we will work. I need all the support and will give all the support I can!

We CAN do this!!!!!!! :-)

lilfairywren wrote 4 months ago:

I wish you well in your journey to finding the new you, and you will do it, because you want to do it, so enjoy this journey as much as you can, and don't worry about the bad days, just try and make it fun. My problem when I think diet, I think I am going to miss out, but in fact I'm not missing a darn thing, all of this new eating plan is going to make me feel so much better. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one struggling, thankfully we all have each other, isn't that great...hang in there, you will make it...

donna_goeser wrote 4 months ago:

My dear friend,we are what you call an addict. I believe it is the worst kind,because we can not just stop eating forever, we have to eat every day. I am 44 and have medical conditions and weigh 275. You would think that would be enough to get control, wrong. I now am to the point that if I dont loose it I will die soon.Leaving my family behind. Changing our eating habits for the REST OF OUR LIVES has to become a reality. I will need a lot of support too! I hope you can help me too.

leahestey wrote 4 months ago:

We all have fallen off the wagon and it is hard to play catch up and get back on that wagon but YOU CAN DO IT!

Hauntedhollywood wrote 4 months ago:

You can do this!!!! We all can! With taking it day by day... Meal by meal. Finding support, planning, positive thinking.

greendahlias wrote 4 months ago:

I got your back

dll2013 wrote 4 months ago:

Wow. Can't imagine someone unfriending you because you fell off the wagon, so to speak. You didn't need those kind of friends anyway. And I want to know what batterfried cheesecurds are. I have never heard of those. I agree with donna_goeser about being an addict. We can't give up food all together so we have to retrain our brains and bodies to like the good stuff and not the bad. It can be done. Good luck.

luvofpeace wrote 4 months ago:

give me a paddle...I am in the boat with you!

scrapscot wrote 4 months ago:

I'm here for you. Friend me!

andread67 wrote 4 months ago:

Life happens, it's what we do with it that matters...lets get started!!! Add me =)

kimosabe1 wrote 4 months ago:

time to get back on the wagon and this time, please remember to make a lifestyle change that way it doesn't return to this. U CAN do it just don't give up and have your family follow. My husband refused a diet but with me cooking, he's lost 20 pounds. Instead of 5 pieces of bacon at breakfast, I only put 3 and then a lowfat dinner after 5. U CAN DO THIS! LIFESTYLE change.......

Bikr wrote 4 months ago:

You can do it! Feel free to friend me. I promise, no nasy comments. :)

raindrops517 wrote 4 months ago:

I have been there. I am too familiar with thinking its only a little weight then being slapped upside the head when you realize it's more than you thought. It may feel like a war sometimes, but we're all fighting it together. You're gonna rock this!!! And in the mean time, you'll show your kids how to rock it too.

riveraphx wrote 4 months ago:

I commend you for "owning your $hit" as I pleasantly like to put it. I watch Biggest Loser and I know that no amount of exercise will help these kids if mom and dad don't start cooking more healthy lower calorie meals. I can tell you love your kids very much to even be posting this. I would love to be your friend. Don't feel it has to be all or nothing. Stay with it. Don't give up if you make mistakes, forgive yourself and move on. Find creative ways to get out of the house with your kids. Whether it's evening walks around the neighborhood or throwing the ball in the back yard.

SkimFlatWhite68 wrote 4 months ago:

It's moment's like these that make us all look in the mirror and see the real reflection, not what we want to see.
Please please please do not starve yourself. This is going to take a while. Find out your BMR and never eat less than that. Check out the IN PLACE OF A ROADMAP and EAT MORE TO LOSE WEIGHT groups/thread and read them. You can eat, you don't have to be hungry and you CAN do it.
Good for you for not dropping out, for still being here and for now making the changes that are going to change your life, and your childrens from this day forward. Applaud yourself, do not beat yourself up. You have made a good decision.
Now just take one day at a time.
Best wishes :)

gdneff wrote 4 months ago:

Welcome to my creek. Here's your paddle. I myself have been in your boat many times and have also finally come to the same realization, unfortunately, I didn't realize it until my kids were grown. I know look back at the examples I set and wish I had a time machine and knew what I know now then. I am so proud of you for realizing that you are an influence and still have the chance to help put your kids on the right path. Please feel free to friend me. Remember - We can't change the wrongs ofyesterday, but we CAN make the tomorrows better!

bryanm187 wrote 4 months ago:

I'm so proud of you for realizing that your habits affect the choices your kids make. I know making ANY changes in a lifestyle is hard. We are creatures of habit and our minds see any change as bad. I tried for years to quit smoking only to fail again and again. I finally was able to stay quit long enough for this to feel normal. When you fall don't beat yourself up. That's energy you can use to get back up and go again. I'm proud of you.

phyllis26 wrote 4 months ago:

Its ok! If you fail, try, try, try, again. No one in this world is perfect and as one comment said we are creature of habits. I can relate, I have fail my eating healthy so many time I can't count them. The good thing about it is that I can do this until I get it right. What I have found out about Myfitnesspal, is there are no judges, only encouragement! God bless

kellytil wrote 4 months ago:

You can do this! Every day, we all make decisions. We can make the decision each and every day to use food as fuel (and not as an emotional crutch) and to move our bodies. I'm in. Sounds like you are, too!

VTLois wrote 4 months ago:

I am new to MFP so don't understand all the ins and outs, but will cheer you on!

audra0831 wrote 4 months ago:

Please friend me! We will support each other! My children are both overweight and it is completely MY FAULT! I want to make a change for my entire family! We can do it together!

OliviaSchu wrote 4 months ago:

I think you can do a wonderful job, with your friends to help! :)

harinana7 wrote 4 months ago:

I feel your pain. I ballooned up to 276 pounds and I am only 5'4". I decided to have gastric bypass in 2002 and thought this was the answer to my prayers. How wrong I was. I did not stay on the strict diet, I ate sweets, I drank pop, I did everything wrong! In September 2012 I had a mini stoke, my second. Several years ago I had a stroke. I weighed in at 248 pounds and I too felt like I could puke! I was out of work for 2 1/2 months and did a lot of thinking. I feel this was my last warning and I needed to get it together if I was to live to see my great grandchildren! I am about to be 52 years old in March and I don't want to be the stereotypical "fat grandma". I now weigh 228.5 and feel much better about myself. Please friend me as I am a good listener and will be a very good support partner. Hang in there! Shari

NianMaya wrote 4 months ago:

Great job for taking the moment to weigh in and share your story. I know you get do it and make the necessary changes for your children.

kittykatpainting8 wrote 4 months ago:

You can do it!

MonicaRhea wrote 4 months ago:

Keep with it and you'll get there. Add me if you'd like to keep up with each other. :)

autygermom wrote 4 months ago:

I know exactly how you feel. 10 years ago lost 85# and have managed to gain back 45 of that. I now have diabetes and have to take off the weight or die. I would love to be your friend, I don't have but a few friends where I live to talk to, and none that I can talk about my weight. My son is encouraging me to use the site and I think its helping. I know you can do it if I can, i'm 65 and its harder for me.

carolstartingover wrote 4 months ago:

I will be glad to be your friend though I did everything in my power to help my 36 year old for the last 19 years. I joined WW's with her. She quit, I got to goal. I paid for Nutrisystem, she was hiding Twinkies in the closet. I paid for 2 treadmills and the Gym cost and now she weighs over 300. I don't want her to die before me. I am very supportive of every thing she does. I offered her a large sum of money to lose weight and keep it off for a year. She said no. If I can help anybody, it would please me. I am not a good mother I guess, except the younger one is a size 2 and they do get along well, not competitive so I did something right.

shandar918 wrote 4 months ago:

Brave story to share. I have lost and gained the same 50lbs for as long as I can remember. One pound at a time! Consider yourself lucky if people unfriended you for not keeping up on MFP. You don't need friends like that-in fact, they should understand your struggle and be encouraging. Good luck to you..happy to be a support because I need all the support I can get too!

christiking1980 wrote 4 months ago:

Are you in my head? LOL Sounds just like me about 2 weeks ago. I am down 11.6 lbs and am determined to get this crap off my body! Good luck to you and everyone else who are taking steps to make a difference within yourself!

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